Emetophobia - any fellow sufferers? What do you do to cope?

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Oh no!! Was the little one sick? It might not be anything contagious and you’ll all be absolutely fine.
She was indeed. It was traumatic for everyone. I'm praying we're all going to be ok now, praying that's it over and done with.

Worryingly my eldest was quite scared by it. I saw some of my behaviours in her response to it all so I'm really worried I've passed this on to her, despite trying my best not to.
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Isn't there a window after which you should be safe from catching a bug or something? Or did I imagine that?!
 
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She was indeed. It was traumatic for everyone. I'm praying we're all going to be ok now, praying that's it over and done with.

Worryingly my eldest was quite scared by it. I saw some of my behaviours in her response to it all so I'm really worried I've passed this on to her, despite trying my best not to.
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Isn't there a window after which you should be safe from catching a bug or something? Or did I imagine that?!
It’s 48 hours usually! Keep us updated. Was she sick only the once? Kids tend to bounce back from these thing. My son was sick once and once only. I spent the next few days in a panic but all was ok. Hand washing!
 
I thought it was 48hrs to be fair, I couldn't remember though, sleepless nights will do that to you! She's slept this afternoon which is unheard of for her these days! She was sick twice but the second time wasn't too bad. She seems fine in herself and has eaten half a peanut butter sandwich and half a bag of beef hula hoops which she begged me for!
 
She was indeed. It was traumatic for everyone. I'm praying we're all going to be ok now, praying that's it over and done with.

Worryingly my eldest was quite scared by it. I saw some of my behaviours in her response to it all so I'm really worried I've passed this on to her, despite trying my best not to.
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Isn't there a window after which you should be safe from catching a bug or something? Or did I imagine that?!

Hoping you avoid any illness ❤️

One of my biggest worries is my children picking up on my behaviours around sick. I try to be as calm as possible when they are ill but know I am coming across unhinged. I am so much better now I've been exposed to more sick but I can feel the panic and worry, the lack of sleep, the asking every 5 seconds if they are okay etc.

5 years ago I would have made my other half deal with it all so at least I can be in the same room as them now when they are ill.
 
Hoping you avoid any illness ❤️

One of my biggest worries is my children picking up on my behaviours around sick. I try to be as calm as possible when they are ill but know I am coming across unhinged. I am so much better now I've been exposed to more sick but I can feel the panic and worry, the lack of sleep, the asking every 5 seconds if they are okay etc.

5 years ago I would have made my other half deal with it all so at least I can be in the same room as them now when they are ill.
Thank you, me too! It's been 19 hours since little one was poorly so hoping that's a good sign! 🤞🏼

I have tried to hard to hide it, and I thought I was doing well. I don't freak out, I'm there and I clean up...it makes me wonder if phobias could actually be hereditary?

It's exposure that helps treat phobias isn't it, but it's so hard to get exposure with this one like you could if the person was afraid of birds or something. Good for you for being able to be on the same room, that's really good progress xx
 
Thank you, me too! It's been 19 hours since little one was poorly so hoping that's a good sign! 🤞🏼

I have tried to hard to hide it, and I thought I was doing well. I don't freak out, I'm there and I clean up...it makes me wonder if phobias could actually be hereditary?

It's exposure that helps treat phobias isn't it, but it's so hard to get exposure with this one like you could if the person was afraid of birds or something. Good for you for being able to be on the same room, that's really good progress xx
If it’s been 19 hours then I would say she’s fine now.

Would you mind putting my mind at rest though and tell me how you cleaned up the sick? I know that’s such a weird thing to say but I’ve not had to deal with it yet (my son was sick down his pj’s when he was little and that was ok I just binned them). But I’ve heard putting bicarbonate soda or saw dust on it and that makes it easier to clean. Wet wipes? I’ve got a stash of face masks and medical gloves to wear in my cupboard.

My son said to me earlier “mummy my tummy hurts” and I went into melt down. He’s fine eating his dinner now but every 2 minutes I’m saying “are you ok? Is your tummy ok?”

I don’t want him to grow up acting like me or feeling the way I do. It’s my biggest fear I guess
 
If it’s been 19 hours then I would say she’s fine now.

Would you mind putting my mind at rest though and tell me how you cleaned up the sick? I know that’s such a weird thing to say but I’ve not had to deal with it yet (my son was sick down his pj’s when he was little and that was ok I just binned them). But I’ve heard putting bicarbonate soda or saw dust on it and that makes it easier to clean. Wet wipes? I’ve got a stash of face masks and medical gloves to wear in my cupboard.

My son said to me earlier “mummy my tummy hurts” and I went into melt down. He’s fine eating his dinner now but every 2 minutes I’m saying “are you ok? Is your tummy ok?”

I don’t want him to grow up acting like me or feeling the way I do. It’s my biggest fear I guess

I put on a mask and gloves when I clean up. If it goes on any bedding or clothes I just throw them away. If it goes on a hard floor I scoop up what I can with tissues and throw them away then bleach the floor, door handles, light switches and toilet. If it's on carpet I use Dettol mixed with hot water and a scrubbing brush
 
@swimming she's fine - it's me and my eldest I'm worried for now! Hoping 19hrs means we're good - I wish there was a way to know!!

Not a weird ask at all! Totally understand. I just wiped it off the floor with antibac floor wipes as I had them in the bathroom, slung them in a bin bag and straight into the outside bin, and then I used the flash bleach to clean the toilet and the sink as I would as standard. I've never heard to use sawdust or bicarb to be honest! I just wore my bathroom rubber gloves but no mask - I don't have any but personally, I don't think it would helpful to my eldest to see me go full PPE, but that's my situation.
Pyjamas were taken off and thrown in the washing machine, thankfully she didn't get a lot on her and they were salvageable. I've washed all her sheets, her pillow and duvet today as well. All the switches, handles, tablets, remotes, bannister etc have been wiped down too.
 
@swimming she's fine - it's me and my eldest I'm worried for now! Hoping 19hrs means we're good - I wish there was a way to know!!

Not a weird ask at all! Totally understand. I just wiped it off the floor with antibac floor wipes as I had them in the bathroom, slung them in a bin bag and straight into the outside bin, and then I used the flash bleach to clean the toilet and the sink as I would as standard. I've never heard to use sawdust or bicarb to be honest! I just wore my bathroom rubber gloves but no mask - I don't have any but personally, I don't think it would helpful to my eldest to see me go full PPE, but that's my situation.
Pyjamas were taken off and thrown in the washing machine, thankfully she didn't get a lot on her and they were salvageable. I've washed all her sheets, her pillow and duvet today as well. All the switches, handles, tablets, remotes, bannister etc have been wiped down too.
Sounds like you’ve done a good job at cleaning up.

So my little one just had a fairly loose wet poo. But seems absolutely fine in himself running round like mad and ate all his dinner. But now I can’t stop thinking because earlier he said his tummy hurts. Here comes the evening anxiety
 
Sounds like you’ve done a good job at cleaning up.

So my little one just had a fairly loose wet poo. But seems absolutely fine in himself running round like mad and ate all his dinner. But now I can’t stop thinking because earlier he said his tummy hurts. Here comes the evening anxiety
I read that D usually comes after V so it might just be D. Has he eaten a lot of fruit? Sometimes a poo makes their tummy feel better. Got everything crossed that he's fine xx
 
I read that D usually comes after V so it might just be D. Has he eaten a lot of fruit? Sometimes a poo makes their tummy feel better. Got everything crossed that he's fine xx
Actually you’ve just made a point. He’s been refusing all fruit for about 2 weeks! And yesterday he ate some strawberries and this morning he had some raspberries so it might be that. He’s acting fine in himself but every now and again points to his belly button and says his tummy is sore. Nothing I can do I guess I just bloody despise it honestly I do.
 
Actually you’ve just made a point. He’s been refusing all fruit for about 2 weeks! And yesterday he ate some strawberries and this morning he had some raspberries so it might be that. He’s acting fine in himself but every now and again points to his belly button and says his tummy is sore. Nothing I can do I guess I just bloody despise it honestly I do.
Oh I hope it's nothing, I really do. I know exactly how you feel, wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy xx
 
Oh I hope it's nothing, I really do. I know exactly how you feel, wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy xx
I think he’s fine. I gave him calpol and he’s not said his tummy hurts anymore and he had that loose poo at like 5pm I think it was. He’s fast asleep now. Could be anything couldn’t it. Nothing I reckon. I feel like such an evil mother saying this but sometimes I truly wish I was just on my own. This phobia is absolutely no joke. I am waiting for my therapy to start and I am putting every breath in my body into hoping it helps me because this cannot carry on
 
I think he’s fine. I gave him calpol and he’s not said his tummy hurts anymore and he had that loose poo at like 5pm I think it was. He’s fast asleep now. Could be anything couldn’t it. Nothing I reckon. I feel like such an evil mother saying this but sometimes I truly wish I was just on my own. This phobia is absolutely no joke. I am waiting for my therapy to start and I am putting every breath in my body into hoping it helps me because this cannot carry on
Oh I feel ya! I said to my mum yesterday that sometimes I question if I should have had kids with this phobia. It's an awful thing to think of say but the phobia drives you to it.
I'm sure you're right. Get on the sofa, put your feet up and breathe. On that actually, I tried a breathing technique yesterday and found it really helpful in calming me down. It's called triangle breathing - you breathe in through the nose for 4, hold for 4 and breathe out through the mouth for 4. It took a good few breaths but it definitely helped regulate my breathing and to calm my body down.
 
Oh I feel ya! I said to my mum yesterday that sometimes I question if I should have had kids with this phobia. It's an awful thing to think of say but the phobia drives you to it.
I'm sure you're right. Get on the sofa, put your feet up and breathe. On that actually, I tried a breathing technique yesterday and found it really helpful in calming me down. It's called triangle breathing - you breathe in through the nose for 4, hold for 4 and breathe out through the mouth for 4. It took a good few breaths but it definitely helped regulate my breathing and to calm my body down.
I’m going to try that triangle breathing, thank you.

just sat on sofa now, glass of wine and watching tit telly to distract myself.

Sometimes I wish I had a partner too (I’ve been solo mumming it since baby was born), but then I remind myself that even if I did have a partner, there’s no being certain he would be any help or even here in the house during my panics so sometimes I am better off alone!
 
I’m going to try that triangle breathing, thank you.

just sat on sofa now, glass of wine and watching tit telly to distract myself.

Sometimes I wish I had a partner too (I’ve been solo mumming it since baby was born), but then I remind myself that even if I did have a partner, there’s no being certain he would be any help or even here in the house during my panics so sometimes I am better off alone!
I hope you find it helpful.

I'm doing exactly the same! Trying to switch off but also prepare myself for no doubt another long night.

I honestly don't know how you do it alone - phobia or no phobia to be fair! It's the toughest job as it is, isn't it. I do really think you'll benefit from the therapy though, they say that CBT is the most effective way to treat this phobia so fingers crossed! I must admit, it went well for me before but I didn't keep it up myself when the NHS sessions ended, and then my youngest started nursery which triggered me massively and I was thrown back to square 1.
 
Just to say salt is really good for putting on top of vomit ,it hardens it in a way so it is easier to clean up ,I buy the big pots of salt so I always have some just incase x
 
I hope you find it helpful.

I'm doing exactly the same! Trying to switch off but also prepare myself for no doubt another long night.

I honestly don't know how you do it alone - phobia or no phobia to be fair! It's the toughest job as it is, isn't it. I do really think you'll benefit from the therapy though, they say that CBT is the most effective way to treat this phobia so fingers crossed! I must admit, it went well for me before but I didn't keep it up myself when the NHS sessions ended, and then my youngest started nursery which triggered me massively and I was thrown back to square 1.
Well he was fine in the night but this morning he’s had two urgent style soft poops and as he was on the toilet he said he tummy was hurting again. So that’s no nursery for the next 48 hours (just to be safe).

If it was a bug it would have woken him up at night too wouldn’t it?
And he’s just eaten 3 crackers with butter fine.
 
Well he was fine in the night but this morning he’s had two urgent style soft poops and as he was on the toilet he said he tummy was hurting again. So that’s no nursery for the next 48 hours (just to be safe).

If it was a bug it would have woken him up at night too wouldn’t it?
And he’s just eaten 3 crackers with butter fine.
I reckon if it were a bug it would have come out by now. Night time exacerbates things like that because our immune system is most active when we sleep, according to Google! See how he goes today, if he's eating and playing then it sounds like he should be fine.

Thankfully we were all ok here last night, I think we all slept like logs - I know I needed a decent sleep! I'm still not completely relaxed mind, although we never do relax do we?!
 
I reckon if it were a bug it would have come out by now. Night time exacerbates things like that because our immune system is most active when we sleep, according to Google! See how he goes today, if he's eating and playing then it sounds like he should be fine.

Thankfully we were all ok here last night, I think we all slept like logs - I know I needed a decent sleep! I'm still not completely relaxed mind, although we never do relax do we?!
You've done so well dealing with it. I work in schools and I'm just constantly terrified of picking something up at the moment. I just want to get in bed and hide until April
 
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