Dating after lockdown #37 - One thing men are consistent with is the AUDACITY.

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I’m echoing what @Olgivy says about financially using men. Absolutely do this!

I spent my 20-30s paying my way, being nice and fair and even in my divorce I just wanted an easy life.

Men will SCREW you and expect you to pay for your dinner. I know it sounds transactional, but bottom line is life is. Sex is what they want (as well as you to be the mother and their therapist) so they’re going to have to pay one way or the other. We give it up too easily and for what? Less money in our bank accounts and emotional damage?

Set your limits high. The guy who bought me a handbag last week is now asking for a wish list. I haven’t even kissed him.

The truth is, men need to do better. If you expect nothing you’ll get nothing. Unless a man is making my life better I don’t want to know.
 
boomska said:
Update AGAIN- he has replied back going

“Hey you what’s up?”

I might just send him a link to chat and say this is what’s up!!! Or send him a photo of sweetcorn cause he hates it and I’m a petty witch lol
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Either ignore it or say something along the lines of "i dont think we're compatible "
Don't waste time on it.
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MollyMalone said:
A (unbeknownst to me at the time) married man bought me a tumble dryer after a handful of dates and no sex because I jokingly said that's what I'd like for Christmas.

Unfortunately, I did end up having sex with him before I found out he was married but I still have the tumble dryer
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God i would love to be bought a new tumble dryer (i actually love mine but still) thats a great trade off imo @MollyMalone
I'd also ask for all the attachments for my Kitchenaid because im sad. 😂
 
boomska said:
Update AGAIN- he has replied back going

“Hey you what’s up?”

I might just send him a link to chat and say this is what’s up!!! Or send him a photo of sweetcorn cause he hates it and I’m a petty witch lol
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Adding to the chorus - ignore!

It's a lazy message seeing as he's dangled the idea of another date in front of you but hasn't properly organised anything and has barely been communicating.

He's probably horny so is back to give you a little attention hoping it'll pay off.
 
boomska said:
Update AGAIN- he has replied back going

“Hey you what’s up?”

I might just send him a link to chat and say this is what’s up!!! Or send him a photo of sweetcorn cause he hates it and I’m a petty witch lol
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I know you are going to reply. But just so you know what game he is playing…

“hey you what’s up” translates to “Hey you I went on the date and she wasn’t any better than you. So just checking I still have you as an option.”
 
Olgivy said:
I know you are going to reply. But just so you know what game he is playing…

“hey you what’s up” translates to “Hey you I went on the date and she wasn’t any better than you. So just checking I still have you as an option.”
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Yep! This is the same as my ex FWB remarking on my WhatsApp pic “I’m a bit bored being back with the ex wife, not bored enough to see you, but bored enough to let you know I’d stil shag you if I get desperate enough”
 
Dear Boomska, you are worth so much more than how this plonker and miserable excuse of a human being has treated you. I am enraged towards him on your behalf. Looking back at the replies to your messages here makes me realise how many of us have been in your shoes at one stage or another in our dating lives. We don’t want to see you suffer any more than you already have. He had the opportunity to build something special with you and he chose to string you along instead. He can go take a very long hike for himself.
Please mind yourself and treat yourself with utter care and gentleness. You deserve far better. You are a diamond. xxx
 
I am frustrated as the sex is still a Greek tragedy.

It wasn't in the forefront anyway, due to work commitments and other priorities, there simply wasn't time. So no practice.

But I actually wondered how he managed to have two children. How can someone be so bad in bed after having been married?

I know this sounds disrespectful, and this is not my intention, but it is important to me and in my last situationship the sex was great.
 
Girls I've found him, the mythical man that pays for your hair appointments 🥰
they exist!
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