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HairyBerries said:
No it's fine she may just be severely introverted or shy. Maybe some people would see your lifestyle of hardcore partying jumping from relationship to relationship maniacally popping out kids to be sad and unfulfilled. I don't see anything wrong with her she just comes off as a bit too normal for me (very sure of herself, I can see her picking up on things other people won't so maybe why they fired her). But bashing someone's life or how they live is just gross.
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You presumably understand that there are basically infinite alternatives to any lifestyle and the inverse of the lifestyle being criticised in this thread isn’t “jumping form relationship to relationship maniacally popping out kids” (?). The vast majority of the population isn’t doing either of these things. But it’s pretty blatantly silly to suggest that doing basically nothing, having no partner, no children, no career, no social circle etc etc is in any way more fulfilling by objective standards than, like, having a family, or being a medical researcher, or working in a library, or creating art, or having a loving partner.

People who not only make a living from a public platform but actively talk about their lifestyle as part of their content are completely fair game for criticism of that lifestyle, as long as it isn’t abusive. People can do what they like but it’s obviously and inescapably true that not all choices are equally wise, equally valuable to the individual or valuable to society.
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Also - the person being discussed here is an influencer! Even if her lifestyle works for her, the act of normalising something that is destructive for most people is something worthy of criticism. Most people who have equivalent family, work, social and romantic situations aren’t earning a packet off social media and floating around on cruises, they’re anxious shut-ins fixating on their appearance who are reaching 25 and 30 unable to drive, with sub-teenage levels of agency, without any relationship experience and an increasingly dwindling friend group as their peers start having families and moving on.

That’s bad! I don’t have any qualms about saying it. Yeah it’s a choice, or downstream of choices, but not all choices are good ones! It is bad (sometimes to the point of being heartbreaking) for the individual, but when the proportion of people whose lives are like this reaches a certain point, it’s bad for everyone else too. Even leaving aside things like shortages of vital workers and population decline etc, you really do not want a meaningful minority of working age voters to have lived a life refracted through screens, with zero ability to truly understand important things about adult life.
 
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I’ve said it before, but I actually don’t care that she has no partner or children. I think it’s important that we are women in their 30s in that position (whether by choice or not) who are happy with it.

I never expected to be without a partner and family in my thirties but I am and my mental health has improved 1000 times in the past year as I’ve been able to accept that and find peace and joy in the life I have currently. So I’m all for seeing more people who do that.

What I do find odd and a bit dangerous to glamourise is having absolutely no social circle and/or career. After a long term relationship ended I found myself with almost no social circle, which was very hard. And it is hard to make friends as you get older - but it doesn’t mean she shouldn’t try? I managed to and my life is a million times better for it.

She says that she’s happy, and maybe she is, but I think what she’s actually doing is keeping herself in a very safe bubble that one day will burst
 
HairyBerries said:
No it's fine she may just be severely introverted or shy. Maybe some people would see your lifestyle of hardcore partying jumping from relationship to relationship maniacally popping out kids to be sad and unfulfilled. I don't see anything wrong with her she just comes off as a bit too normal for me (very sure of herself, I can see her picking up on things other people won't so maybe why they fired her). But bashing someone's life or how they live is just gross.
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“bashing someone’s life or how they live is just gross” you say… whilst making assumptions about how someone elses lifestyle. okay 🙃
 
Booington said:
I watch her, but I’m not sure I 100% believe her about not having a boyfriend for all that time etc, might be true but I’m not convinced
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I do believe her, there are many many people who go years and decades without a long term partner. That's what she means, I guess, a longterm, comitted relationship. She still could've dated a bit throughout her 20s wthout ever becoming "coupled up".

Adding that I also like that she's sharing that and not having a tremendous social life or a girls gang. I can relate a lot. I was personally always kinda surrounded by people, peers, friends of friends, but because I've moved around a lot in my childhood and haven't made friends easily, I've never been part of that really tight-knit friendship group that's known each other forever. I've been included in many groups that have grown apart, moved away, various different uni friends, but now at 31 I don't actually have a coherent "girl group". Yes, hen do's and bridesmaid photos sting a bit, because I couldn't ever gather a bunch of 8-10 girls in sth like that. But I am content with having a few seperate friends from different stages of life. I do believe that it is more common than people would like to admit (especially on social media).
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whoareyouu said:
See the thing is, she references not having a boyfriend for what 15 years and then goes on about experiences she’s had with boyfriends? So which is it?
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She probably means dating, seeing other people for weeks or months before becoming fully committed. So she hasn't had a longterm partner in a long time, but she has probably been seeing guys and it never moved into anything more serious. I do believe that's quite common.
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dollydog said:
I went to uni with her! I wasn’t particularly good friends with her though so don’t know much about her, although she randomly came on a couple of nights out with us in third year as she was doing the same course as some of my mates. She was nice enough although I don’t think she had a huge group of mates at uni. She definitely was known as the Lindsay Lohan lookalike. I always thought she’d done really well for herself with her instagram and stuff she did with glamour etc, but also wondered where all the business class trips to Dubai came from. She does look better now though, I’ll give her that
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Oh interesting, what uni did you go to?

Also I saw from that company registration that she seems to live in Buxton? (Must be lovely actually) But she never talks about where she lives.
 
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Ray1403 said:
“bashing someone’s life or how they live is just gross” you say… whilst making assumptions about how someone elses lifestyle. okay 🙃
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uh actually I'm not....I'm saying 'maybe some people might say' while sharing a different lifestyle ... never said anything about the poster's life🙃
 
Ray1403 said:
no you said “maybe some people would see your lifestyle”
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small details....right?? 😉 still never said anything directly about that lifestyle being good nor bad :rolleyes:


clearly proving my point that it doesn't feel so good when the shoe is on the other foot
 
I don’t think it is ever a healthy thing to not have a level of ‘community’ in real life. That can come in many forms - friends, extended family, neighbours, school, work, place of worship, hobby clubs, sports… if she was my daughter I would be really worried about how she will cope and live a happy life when I’m gone.

I’m not saying anyone NEEDS to have kids/get married/have friends to live a fulfilled life but I do think it’s healthy human behaviour and a good way of thinking about the wellbeing of others if you exist as part of a community.
 
Polkadotshorts said:
What do you think Tattle is exactly? A fan club? Start a rave thread if you want to be like that and leave people air their views here in peace
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I don't want to rave about her...like I said she's too normal for me and something about it is peculiar. She talks about her life way too much and hypes up the fact she essentially does nothing and has no one. I guess on social media she comes across as 'real' and way different to any influencer out there..but sometimes that reality can also shroud some harsh truths like not being able to go out when you want, calling up a friend when you're bored, discussing bridesmaid dresses etc..everything that shouldn't be so daunting for her age.


Don't get me wrong it's up to her how she wants to live her life and she's an adult and can choose to do so without us butting in, but it is never all sunshine and roses no matter how much you paint things online to be.


I do feel sad for her in that way because she won't be able to get a job even if she wants to move out due to her being fired from every one of them, so I genuinely wonder how she copes with different aspects of her life at 33 because it surely comes up whether she would like to admit it or not...hell, she can't even go out to get food or get her nails done if she wants to!

That's all, I am not raving I just like to keep a measure of healthy criticism on Tattle.
 
User90009 said:
I can’t figure out this girl. Firstly she is clever with her reels - comparing a frowning 20 year old forehead pic with a 33 year old at rest forehead photo. Claims no Botox but always has a shiny forehead right between the brows - my money is on her just injecting the elevens.

Secondly I feel kind of sorry for her - living her life just with her parents, no friends no partner etc etc.
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I've seen other creators do those reels- she didn't come up with them literally everyone is doing it. It's a trend, but she wasn't the person who started it.
 
HairyBerries said:
No, but I get that a lot on a lot of threads because I'm not a complete a**hole
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we’re not all a**holes on here either but this is not a rave thread and most of what you’ve said on here thus far is defend everything that’s been picked up on. nothing wrong with a balanced conversation on a thread but it ends up looking sus when you start making snarky comments at people for saying something negative (and no i don’t think you’re her)
 
Ray1403 said:
we’re not all a**holes on here either but this is not a rave thread and most of what you’ve said on here thus far is defend everything that’s been picked up on. nothing wrong with a balanced conversation on a thread but it ends up looking sus when you start making snarky comments at people for saying something negative (and no i don’t think you’re her)
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lol it ain't so serious
 
She would look much better with a fringe!! The constant red flag videos and man bashing is sad.

It’s hilarious she insists her lack of wrinkles is all awesome skincare when that shiny patch on her elevens is a total giveaway. It’s also sad that she is peddling this tit to all her followers - “I swear no Botox I have just reverse aged my forehead with a ton of retinol”
 
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