Ashley James #9 All About Ashley

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The not letting him cry has to be her warped understanding of not adopting ‘cry it out?’. I’ve never left my nearly two year old to CIO because it’s not for us, but that’s not to say I never let him cry!? Crying in the arms and comfort of a caregiver is not the same as being left to cry alone. She’s such a bleeping moron. How on earth is she being held up as an authority on parenting!? It’s absolutely beyond me.
 
willowtree2 said:
What the actual watermelon is this woman on 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Aside from her not even watching the fight, she’s applauding a man for being emotional but won’t let her son cry. bleeping mental woman 😂😂😂😂
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There’s not a lot to defend about Ashley but I will say that when she says she won’t let Alf cry she isn’t saying he can’t show emotion or cry at all. She’s saying she won’t allow him to be ongoingly upset, cry it out, avoids “they need to cry to learn” etc If he cries she’s going to remove the trigger and I don’t think she should be criticised for that.
If she was letting him cry she’d be criticised for that too. It’s an age old parenting style debate. She can’t win here.
 
Toffeebythesea said:
How can you stop a child from crying though. If they wanna cry, they'll cry sometimes no matter how many cuddles or snacks you're providing🤣 maybe he's not hit that stage yet.
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She’s not saying she’s going to stop him crying every time he does though, she means she’s not going to allow him to be distressed if it’s avoidable & not just leave him to cry.
So not crying it out in bed alone, not leaving him to cry to go out unless it’s necessary, not putting him into a situation that upsets him unless she absolutely has to. There’s a difference between a child being inconsolable and not trying to console them. That’s what she means, It’s a really normal thing of course, a lot of parents do without labelling it, she just makes a big deal out of it.
 
littlepup said:
There’s not a lot to defend about Ashley but I will say that when she says she won’t let Alf cry she isn’t saying he can’t show emotion or cry at all. She’s saying she won’t allow him to be ongoingly upset, cry it out, avoids “they need to cry to learn” etc If he cries she’s going to remove the trigger and I don’t think she should be criticised for that.
If she was letting him cry she’d be criticised for that too. It’s an age old parenting style debate. She can’t win here.
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I get what you’re saying but it’s been discussed before, with her parenting outlook Alf will not be capable of crying full stop. He’ll be unable to communicate or regulate his emotions. She can win if she stops her warped behaviour which will affect Alf later on in life.
 
Cariad said:
2more weeks of summer holidays to fill in for until childminder starts back....however how many days will Ashley actually look after Alf on her own in this time period? Bearing in mind there will be no outdoor space for Alf to play in at home
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I'm predicting a big fat zero amount of days.

She'll rope in the nanny or the nanny's daughter for a few extra days. She'll use Granny Andrews - after all she's not seen him for a week so he best go for a few nights sleepover. Probably get Tommy to take another week off. Get her mum back down. Leave him in the garden with the gardener boys. Anything but be alone with him...
 
littlepup said:
She’s not saying she’s going to stop him crying every time he does though, she means she’s not going to allow him to be distressed if it’s avoidable & not just leave him to cry.
So not crying it out in bed alone, not leaving him to cry to go out unless it’s necessary, not putting him into a situation that upsets him unless she absolutely has to. There’s a difference between a child being inconsolable and not trying to console them. That’s what she means, It’s a really normal thing of course, a lot of parents do without labelling it, she just makes a big deal out of it.
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I’m not sure she is saying that. She’s posted videos of him crying for her when she’s left him in his bed in the morning?
i think she ms read about the science behind the risks of CIO and misunderstood it and it’s another thing she thinks she practises when in reality she’s already shownus differently. Same as claiming to be AP, child-led or gentle parenting. She’s a fraud.
 
littlepup said:
There’s not a lot to defend about Ashley but I will say that when she says she won’t let Alf cry she isn’t saying he can’t show emotion or cry at all. She’s saying she won’t allow him to be ongoingly upset, cry it out, avoids “they need to cry to learn” etc If he cries she’s going to remove the trigger and I don’t think she should be criticised for that.
If she was letting him cry she’d be criticised for that too. It’s an age old parenting style debate. She can’t win here.
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I think we all realise she means she won’t do cry it out but it’s the hilarious insistence that he will never ever cry. Lots of parents would never cry it out and rush to their child’s aid at the first sound of upset. But Ashley also takes her sick child to the childminder (I guess he was upset when the childminder phoned her to get him?), she’s recorded him in bed calling for her while ignoring him, stated the wants to dump him in kids clubs. I would never dream of doing cry it out with my kids or controlled crying or whatever bollocks they call it now but I also wouldn’t emotionally duck my kids like Ashley is trying to
 
willowtree2 said:
Personally I’ve never seen a child so emotionally vacant, apart from the photos she puts up of him with Tommy. It’s heartbreaking 😪
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So Tattlers used to speculate about Ronnie Hinch being vacant, unhappy, unstimulated etc and eventually she revealed he has Special Needs- a speech delay, possibly autism? Could Alf be heading the same way? Also with the narrow food choices.
 
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