Ashley James #38 My family One I regret (Alf), One I love (Ada), one I'm indifferent about (TNB)

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She's got my back up today. I mean, when doesn't she? But still... we live in the tiniest flat imaginable and the guilt that pours over me when we can't go out and my child is crawling/cruising around the same few square feet all day is crippling. I would give anything for the space she has and yet she locks them away in that bloody playroom simply because she's lazy and doesn't want to let them explore, as it would mean she has to get up and actually do something. Its mind blowing.
And the dolls house... wtf? There's an episode of The Office where Michael is following the sat nav and he knows its about to navigate him into a lake but he turns off anyway just to prove a point. That's Ash! You can't tell me she followed those instructions and didn't think, 'oh these stairs don't align'. And don't get me started on her complaining about the price of the damn thing when she spends thousands of pounds a year on her effing crunchy curls. She's a joke and Alf deserves better. Ash, if you're reading this, go order another, put it together properly and give your boy the birthday he deserves instead of complaining how gutted YOU are for once.
 
Just to echo what everyone else has said here .... she's a Grade-A twit! Spending that much on a dolls house and not putting the stairs in properly?! You can tell that it's the first time Alf has had a birthday present.

My husband and I have spent countless hours building toy kitchens / train sets / basketball hoop thingys / bikes etc. for our kids. It's a pain in the arse, but needs to be done.

Obviously, it's the patriarchies fault. bleeping twit. Lovely day x
 
Ray_of_Sunshine said:
I honestly feel gobsmacked that she’s put that. It sounds sinister.
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That makes me furious. She is projecting all her feelings about men onto Ada. He’s a docile 3 year old. Why on earth would she be scared of him. Because he occasionally snatches a toy from her? Or because he tries to lie on top of her, giving her a hug that you have actively encouraged.
 
I got my daughter (Alfie’s age) a dolls house for Christmas (very similar and way less expensive) but her most favourite things were her stocking fillers, a whoppee cushion and a slinky. We’ve had hours and hours of fun with them. She needs to let them just be kids and not project this narrative that she’s this ‘quirky’ mum that buys her son ‘girls toys’. She’s insufferable 😫
 
Password4321 said:
I got my daughter (Alfie’s age) a dolls house for Christmas (very similar and way less expensive) but her most favourite things were her stocking fillers, a whoppee cushion and a slinky. We’ve had hours and hours of fun with them. She needs to let them just be kids and not project this narrative that she’s this ‘quirky’ mum that buys her son ‘girls toys’. She’s insufferable 😫
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I’ve got 4 children so I have met many other parents over the years. I’ve met so many who push their boys into playing with dolls and dolls houses, dressing as princess’s and plastering the photos on social media, “look at my boy! He loves being a princess!”m when all the boy does is gravitate towards cars, trucks, dinosaurs etc when they are elsewhere.

I’m all for letting children play with what they want to. With two boys and two girls, my playroom is a mix of everything. But in all these years of parenting, I’ve always seen girls gravitate towards dolls and houses/figures and boys towards things with wheels. No one pushed into anything. Not me making them “gender conform”, it’s just the way it’s been.

Her narrative really pisses me off.

(Oh, and she was bleeping robbed with that dolls house. £250 🤣🤣🤣)


ETA - obviously that’s just generalising on the children/families I have known. I am sure there are boys who genuinely love playing with dolls all the time. I am female, I wouldn’t go near dolls or pink as a child, I had toy cars and farms. But I have seen parents try to push that on children to prove some sort of weird point and that’s just as damaging as telling a boy they can’t play with a doll. just let them be themselves.
 
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hattie20 said:
I’ve got 4 children so I have met many other parents over the years. I’ve met so many who push their boys into playing with dolls and dolls houses, dressing as princess’s and plastering the photos on social media, “look at my boy! He loves being a princess!”m when all the boy does is gravitate towards cars, trucks, dinosaurs etc when they are elsewhere.

I’m all for letting children play with what they want to. With two boys and two girls, my playroom is a mix of everything. But in all these years of parenting, I’ve always seen girls gravitate towards dolls and houses/figures and boys towards things with wheels. No one pushed into anything. Not me making them “gender conform”, it’s just the way it’s been.

Her narrative really pisses me off.

(Oh, and she was bleeping robbed with that dolls house. £250 🤣🤣🤣)


ETA - obviously that’s just generalising on the children/families I have known. I am sure there are boys who genuinely love playing with dolls all the time. I am female, I wouldn’t go near dolls or pink as a child, I had toy cars and farms. But I have seen parents try to push that on children to prove some sort of weird point and that’s just as damaging as telling a boy they can’t play with a doll. just let them be themselves.
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Totally - I’ve got a son and daughter and they are complete gender stereotypes without us forcing anything on them. My son loves monster trucks and my daughter wanted to play with him and demanded a pink one lol.

Defo robbed - the dolls house I got was so similar and it was £30 off Gumtree!! 🤣🤣🤣
 
Heyholetsgo said:
If he loves Paw Patrol she could have got him the paw patrol tower you can slide the cars down?! My youngest always plays with it at playgroup! It's all about the aesthetic with her.
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Yep, if you want to go with your children’s interests - which you sort of have to - you have to embrace the fact that some of it won’t go with your decor.

You have to realise that sometimes it will be garish coloured plastic, rather than pretty, pastel coloured wood that match your sofa.
 
Sat listening to Radio 2 and Jeremy vine has an angry baker lined up ready to talk Zelebs expecting free cakes. I wonder if Ashley has been in touch. If not, I hope she’s listening.

With Alf’s silly opposing gender narrative, she’s only limiting his play. My toddler gets completely lost in his dinosaurs, racing his cars about, playing with Toy Story figures. I follow what he’s into and I don’t understand why you wouldn’t otherwise.

For Christmas and birthdays you go off the Xmas list or what they’d be happy with for their birthday presents. You don’t go ‘let’s challenge genders for attention on Instagram and my kid will have to get on with it’ 🙄
 
Ss-ldn said:
She's a twit. Clearly bought the dolls house for precious Ada and will just park it in Alf's room until she deems it time to bring it down to the playroom so they can both play with it. Don't forget there's no space for Ada to have a bedroom in their 5 bedroom house
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Where does Ada sleep then? Does she really not have a bedroom?
 
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