Algeronwashere
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She had to ask them to stop the physical exam twice because it was so painful at alfs birth? Is this brand new information?
Ashley James #35 Poor Alf and Ada, Mum’s a dick and Dad’s got no balls
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LoTiLu
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No, she’s definitely spoken about the painful exam before.
At least she finally learnt the difference between saying “denied pain relief” and “denied the epidural”
JarvisCockerSpaniel
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Of bleeping course you can’t have an epidural if no one is allowed to examine you. I honestly think she just got fucked off with it and was probably pretty horrible to deal with.
Also it was the pandemic that curbed her out all the time single life as it did for many people. What she chose to do with the time though was entirely on her. She got a partner and a big house and had baby for something to do and to try and find a sense of fulfilment. It didn’t work so she had another crack at it to see if it made any difference if the baby was a girl. It didn’t (even though she likes this baby more) So now she has to chase some non-existent London life and drag the kids along for the ride. She is so bleeping tragic honestly.
Also it was the pandemic that curbed her out all the time single life as it did for many people. What she chose to do with the time though was entirely on her. She got a partner and a big house and had baby for something to do and to try and find a sense of fulfilment. It didn’t work so she had another crack at it to see if it made any difference if the baby was a girl. It didn’t (even though she likes this baby more) So now she has to chase some non-existent London life and drag the kids along for the ride. She is so bleeping tragic honestly.
Ray_of_Sunshine
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The thing is, so few people actually went back to their pre lockdown life. Most people I know decided they enjoyed the slower pace, they work less days in the office so go for fewer work drinks etc and coupled with the cost of things going up, hardly anyone I know goes out anywhere near as much as they used to! London is very different in my opinion post pandemic. I’ve had a baby after lockdown and I as well as several mum friends I’ve come across have all commented on how they don’t actual feel like they’re missing out on as much these days as we would have done a few years ago because people’s priorities shifted. Ash can’t wait to get back to London to dump her kids and table bleep around all the Chelsea spots that were popular ten years ago hoping to get her face in the gossip mags that nobody cares about anymore!
hadtosayit88
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Guys, is she lying about TNB only being allowed in to Alf’s birth at a certain point? I’m sure I saw someone post a screenshot of a caption the other day where she’d say Tommy was with her all the way?
graceanatomy
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"I feel weird sharing this..." - she is not aware that it's exactly the same thing she shared last week, and the week before, and the week before that, and the week before THAT? This speech she gives about phases and missing evenings and jobs and bleeping.. flamingos is literally on REPEAT? It's like freaking Groundhog Day over here with her, how does she have such little self awareness ? Im surprised she's even bothering to write it out again and not just copy + pasting because it's the. Same. Story. Again. And. Again.
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I kind of feel bad for her in a way, because she's just one of those people who are never EVER happy and are constantly unfulfilled and looking for happiness in something else, or in another place (london) but what they don't realise is the problem is in them, and so wherever they go they take themselves/the problem with them. Romanticise the past - which they weren't even happy with the time - and obsess about the future and this magical time where everything will all be "great again" (it never was). It takes a lot of hard work (on yourself) to change when you're like this, but it won't happen if you can't even acknowledge or accept you're the problem and just blame everything else - ie Essex, government, men, how covid was handled, expectations on women etc etc- for your unhappiness.
I can see that those things are problematic (besides Essex- I've never been
) but they are not excuses for why I'm unhappy in life or not taking responsibility for my happiness.. where does that get you? I'm actually very very content in life despite the fact I have a lot "less" on paper than Ash. It actually makes me cringe that she wholeheartedly believes that she'll get back to London and everything will be different and she'll be happy. Nothing. Will. Change. She'll have taken her negative head there with her!!
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I kind of feel bad for her in a way, because she's just one of those people who are never EVER happy and are constantly unfulfilled and looking for happiness in something else, or in another place (london) but what they don't realise is the problem is in them, and so wherever they go they take themselves/the problem with them. Romanticise the past - which they weren't even happy with the time - and obsess about the future and this magical time where everything will all be "great again" (it never was). It takes a lot of hard work (on yourself) to change when you're like this, but it won't happen if you can't even acknowledge or accept you're the problem and just blame everything else - ie Essex, government, men, how covid was handled, expectations on women etc etc- for your unhappiness.
I can see that those things are problematic (besides Essex- I've never been
) but they are not excuses for why I'm unhappy in life or not taking responsibility for my happiness.. where does that get you? I'm actually very very content in life despite the fact I have a lot "less" on paper than Ash. It actually makes me cringe that she wholeheartedly believes that she'll get back to London and everything will be different and she'll be happy. Nothing. Will. Change. She'll have taken her negative head there with her!!
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BusyDoinNuffin
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Completely agree with everything you have said. She will always be unfulfilled if she doesn’t address the fact the problem lies entirely with her. She is constantly chasing something and the problem is she doesn’t get the validation she desperately wants even via the victim status, so the ‘chasing’ becomes harder and faster. I actually think she is going to get worse and worse and her traumatic birth story is going to become even further from the reality the less attention the story gets each time. I dread to think what she will be accusing the midwives and consultants of by the time the story is shared in 5 years. She is shameless."I feel weird sharing this..." - she is not aware that it's exactly the same thing she shared last week, and the week before, and the week before that, and the week before THAT? This speech she gives about phases and missing evenings and jobs and bleeping.. flamingos is literally on REPEAT? It's like freaking Groundhog Day over here with her, how does she have such little self awareness ? Im surprised she's even bothering to write it out again and not just copy + pasting because it's the. Same. Story. Again. And. Again.
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I kind of feel bad for her in a way, because she's just one of those people who are never EVER happy and are constantly unfulfilled and looking for happiness in something else, or in another place (london) but what they don't realise is the problem is in them, and so wherever they go they take themselves/the problem with them. Romanticise the past - which they weren't even happy with the time - and obsess about the future and this magical time where everything will all be "great again" (it never was). It takes a lot of hard work (on yourself) to change when you're like this, but it won't happen if you can't even acknowledge or accept you're the problem and just blame everything else - ie Essex, government, men, how covid was handled, expectations on women etc etc- for your unhappiness.
I can see that those things are problematic (besides Essex- I've never been
She also needs to speak to the powers that be on the internet because there is far too much evidence readily out there that confirms that Tommy was with her all the way. That the midwives worked hard, around covid rules, to ensure Tommy could be with her every step of the way holding her hand. There is even photographic evidence. Yes her labour was hard, it’s like that for most women and always will be. It would be the same if men gave birth, no matter what she wants to believe in terms of women getting the bad end of the deal. Women suffer. Men suffer. Women actually live longer for goodness sake! My labour sounds far more traumatic actually and I should add that the empathy, advocacy and compassion shown by the MALE consultant who effectively saved my baby will never be forgotten. Even though he did cut me, make me vomit and cry
I had the cheek to thank him with a 
MillionDollarBaby
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You know, and I hate myself for saying this, but I can sympathise with her on being under prepared for how painful a physical exam is during labour.
I had no idea how sore it was going to be.
Especially when in tv shows/films the midwife says “I’m just going to see how you’re doing” the hand goes under the sheet and the mum sits there quite happily not even so much as a wince.
However. She couldn’t lie straight in bed. How many versions of her birth story have we heard now?
And finally she’s admitted that perfect Adeline is making her miserable too.
Parenting is hard and it’s forever, Ashley.
Speak to your GP about your PND, get yourself some therapy and some meds. Your kids and you will thank you for it.
I had no idea how sore it was going to be.
Especially when in tv shows/films the midwife says “I’m just going to see how you’re doing” the hand goes under the sheet and the mum sits there quite happily not even so much as a wince.
However. She couldn’t lie straight in bed. How many versions of her birth story have we heard now?
And finally she’s admitted that perfect Adeline is making her miserable too.
Parenting is hard and it’s forever, Ashley.
Speak to your GP about your PND, get yourself some therapy and some meds. Your kids and you will thank you for it.
I feel like it’s only today and yesterday’s article that there has been any mention of Tommy not being with her. Adding drama as she goes along. How unlike Ashley.
So much to unpack in last night’s ramble but first - wtf? “Tomorrow will be yesterday someday”?!
Tomorrow will be yesterday well, the day after tomorrow? How can people make something so completely pointless sound so deep and meaningful
Also reading this broke my heart for Alf yet again because clearly she thinks the trauma of giving birth to him wasn’t worth it
I completely understand that birth is horrific and traumatising for probably most women, but this post really is seriously offensive to the NHS and the fact most of the staff and midwives genuinely care. There are massive problems with the NHS (why doesn’t she talk about how much higher the risks are for black women when giving birth?!) but can she not take a step back and think how incredible it is we have the healthcare that we do in the UK. We all know the lies and inconsistencies she spouts when talking about her first birth but she has also raved about Ada’s birth and how healing it was for her. She didn’t need to travel to Holland for that experience. I had a traumatic first birth (in April 2020 may I add) and mistakes were made but to call the general treatment by NHS maternity services “barbaric” and “appalling” is completely unnecessary. She needs serious therapy.
Finally this post she has put on her stories -
Of course this resonates with Ash and I think we can all appreciate elements of this but it just shows what a narcissist she is. She basically blames struggling postpartum because suddenly things aren’t all about her anymore and she has the reality of looking after a baby whilst not being “protected or cared for”.
Tomorrow will be yesterday well, the day after tomorrow? How can people make something so completely pointless sound so deep and meaningful
Also reading this broke my heart for Alf yet again because clearly she thinks the trauma of giving birth to him wasn’t worth it
I completely understand that birth is horrific and traumatising for probably most women, but this post really is seriously offensive to the NHS and the fact most of the staff and midwives genuinely care. There are massive problems with the NHS (why doesn’t she talk about how much higher the risks are for black women when giving birth?!) but can she not take a step back and think how incredible it is we have the healthcare that we do in the UK. We all know the lies and inconsistencies she spouts when talking about her first birth but she has also raved about Ada’s birth and how healing it was for her. She didn’t need to travel to Holland for that experience. I had a traumatic first birth (in April 2020 may I add) and mistakes were made but to call the general treatment by NHS maternity services “barbaric” and “appalling” is completely unnecessary. She needs serious therapy.
Finally this post she has put on her stories -
Of course this resonates with Ash and I think we can all appreciate elements of this but it just shows what a narcissist she is. She basically blames struggling postpartum because suddenly things aren’t all about her anymore and she has the reality of looking after a baby whilst not being “protected or cared for”.
willowtree2
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That’s the first we’ve heard of Tommy not being allowed in. I do know that you had to be in full blown labour or 4cm dilated. I laboured on a ward for 14 hours without my hubby with just one other woman who had been there for 5 days in on/off labour alone. I try not to dwell on it. It was tit yes but me and her had each others backs 
Try that for loneliness Ash.
Not a single parent - dads included, think ‘oh parenthood is similar to my life before having kids’. What bleeping planet is she on? EVERY parents life changes but the difference is she loathes being a parent and is fucked up from lockdown. She’s too much of a narc to think she needs to sought help because as usual SHE isn’t the problem, it’s the governments. And the only thing to do about is slag them off on social media, or do a shifty podcast with the prime ministers sister.
God she’s such a bore. Sorry if it sounds harsh but I have zero sympathy for people who sit and moan blaming everything/one else instead of actively seeking help for themselves.
Try that for loneliness Ash.
Not a single parent - dads included, think ‘oh parenthood is similar to my life before having kids’. What bleeping planet is she on? EVERY parents life changes but the difference is she loathes being a parent and is fucked up from lockdown. She’s too much of a narc to think she needs to sought help because as usual SHE isn’t the problem, it’s the governments. And the only thing to do about is slag them off on social media, or do a shifty podcast with the prime ministers sister.
God she’s such a bore. Sorry if it sounds harsh but I have zero sympathy for people who sit and moan blaming everything/one else instead of actively seeking help for themselves.
JarvisCockerSpaniel
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They do so many ‘big ticket’ stuff with their kids, it’s not necessary and it’s not relatable. Poor things are either understimulated or totally overstimulated with lights and noise and life sized characters looming in their faces. No other parent I know fills their weekends with tit like this all the time.
I see they obviously got bored of taking Alf to the local soft play, but since she’s obsessed with being in London why don’t they try some of what that has to offer? There’s an amazing story play Centre at Stratford, loads of the museums have themed play sessions too- Mudlarks gallery in Canary Wharf is brilliant. Huge open spaces in the parks and adventure playgrounds. Like does she actually think ‘London parents’ are at bloody Hamleys every weekend?!
She could actually have some relatable ‘London mum’ content if she wasn’t too lazy to do anything where she might have to encourage or engage with her own children.
I see they obviously got bored of taking Alf to the local soft play, but since she’s obsessed with being in London why don’t they try some of what that has to offer? There’s an amazing story play Centre at Stratford, loads of the museums have themed play sessions too- Mudlarks gallery in Canary Wharf is brilliant. Huge open spaces in the parks and adventure playgrounds. Like does she actually think ‘London parents’ are at bloody Hamleys every weekend?!
She could actually have some relatable ‘London mum’ content if she wasn’t too lazy to do anything where she might have to encourage or engage with her own children.
littlepup
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They should have him assessed for DCD. At least then they may be able to understand his needs better.
So she’s saying Tommy wasn’t with her now? Absolute lies based on her own previous accounts. Disgusting woman.
Ashley’s problem is her arrogance, which probably started to compensate for her deep insecurity and loveless childhood. Then she got boobs and attention and started to believe her own hype. Boarding school will have made her feel exceptional too.
With birth she did a spon hypno birth course and clearly fell for the scam that if you are mentally strong labour won’t hurt… So she probably got sucked into that no epidural, no examinations bs… she’d run marathons. It shouldn’t hurt for someone as exceptional as her. Other women struggle but not Ash. Then the pain shocked her and she was outraged because “nobody told her birth was painful”
Then with parenthood it’s the same. She’s not like other mums who struggle. Her kids were meant to fit in her handbag and tag along to luxury holidays and dj gigs. Them being actual people with their own needs and personalities never occurred to her. And now it’s too late.
So sad
With birth she did a spon hypno birth course and clearly fell for the scam that if you are mentally strong labour won’t hurt… So she probably got sucked into that no epidural, no examinations bs… she’d run marathons. It shouldn’t hurt for someone as exceptional as her. Other women struggle but not Ash. Then the pain shocked her and she was outraged because “nobody told her birth was painful”
Then with parenthood it’s the same. She’s not like other mums who struggle. Her kids were meant to fit in her handbag and tag along to luxury holidays and dj gigs. Them being actual people with their own needs and personalities never occurred to her. And now it’s too late.
So sad
JarvisCockerSpaniel
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I wasn’t allowed anyone else in the room with me when I was scanned to confirm a miscarriage, and no it didn’t make sense and it was horrible and just another nonsensical part of how the pandemic was handled. My point is there are enough actual truthful accounts out there that her actively lying and making tit up is insulting beyond belief.
BusyDoinNuffin
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I’m so sorry to read this x
I think what precious Ash fails to remember is that midwives, nurses, medics etc are not there purely to serve HER. They are also people with lives and their own personal struggles. One of my best friends was in their final year of medical college when lockdown happened. Instead of feeling sorry for themselves they went back home and straight to work in their local hospital.
They were responsible for screening visitors as well as many other things in oncology. Having to emotionally support patients who had just been given the most scary and devastating news then explaining to their loved ones why they couldn’t just run straight into the ward to comfort their loved ones at a time they needed them most. Having to swab and test people already in a state of distress. My friend watched people die alone then would go home, exhausted and uncomfortable due to the PPE and sit alone in their bedroom because they couldn’t risk being around family. They would then carry on studying for their finals. They never once complained but I knew their mental and physical health were suffering. My point is - f@ck off Ash with your pseudo lock down drama purely for validation and content. Be grateful that you were on the receiving end of the best possible care from humans who were also facing extremely dark times but still did their job with a smile on their face and compassion. Even now, instead of self pity my friend tries to take a positive from that situation and I certainly think the experience has made them an even better doctor.
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