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The concept of santa is weird and I don't understand why parents bang on about how magical it is. It's not. You're lying to your kid that a stranger comes into their home while they sleep and gives them gifts. It's bizarre.

People who say that they were smacked/ignored/neglected by their parents and they turned out fine did turn out fine. I hate this constant thing of "we're raising snowflakes" cause now we're nice to kids and try to understand them. Do you know how helpful it would have been for me to have had parents who really tried to listen to me? It could have prevented so many issue and upsets for me later on.

Autism and ADHD are not over diagnosed, especially not in women and girls. I know people who have been on a waiting list for over 15 months to see someone for a diagnoses. If it is being diagnosed too much then maybe that's a sign that we are recognising ND kids more which means more support. I'd rather it be over diagnosed and the kids that do have these issues get the help and support they need than no recognition and no support cause let me tell you, it is a bleeping struggle when you have them as a kid and it's not diagnosed until adulthood and you realise why you couldn't shape yourself to the "normal" world, why everyone was annoyed with you all the time, why you were incredibly isolated, why you felt like a failure of a human being at age 8!
 
dancingqueen5678 said:
The concept of santa is weird and I don't understand why parents bang on about how magical it is. It's not. You're lying to your kid that a stranger comes into their home while they sleep and gives them gifts. It's bizarre.

People who say that they were smacked/ignored/neglected by their parents and they turned out fine did turn out fine. I hate this constant thing of "we're raising snowflakes" cause now we're nice to kids and try to understand them. Do you know how helpful it would have been for me to have had parents who really tried to listen to me? It could have prevented so many issue and upsets for me later on.

Autism and ADHD are not over diagnosed, especially not in women and girls. I know people who have been on a waiting list for over 15 months to see someone for a diagnoses. If it is being diagnosed too much then maybe that's a sign that we are recognising ND kids more which means more support. I'd rather it be over diagnosed and the kids that do have these issues get the help and support they need than no recognition and no support cause let me tell you, it is a bleeping struggle when you have them as a kid and it's not diagnosed until adulthood and you realise why you couldn't shape yourself to the "normal" world, why everyone was annoyed with you all the time, why you were incredibly isolated, why you felt like a failure of a human being at age 8!
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I don’t really agree with the Santa part (although I can see your point) but absolutely yes to everything else. 👏🏻 ❤️
 
dancingqueen5678 said:
The concept of santa is weird and I don't understand why parents bang on about how magical it is. It's not. You're lying to your kid that a stranger comes into their home while they sleep and gives them gifts. It's bizarre.
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If I have a child I can't see myself doing the santa thing. Same with elf on a shelf or Christmas eve boxes.

dancingqueen5678 said:
Autism and ADHD are not over diagnosed, especially not in women and girls.
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Also agree with this too. So much better to have support then to struggle half of your life wondering what the f*uk is wrong with you before you do get help. It's also harder to undo a lot of the damage it does do to your self esteem.

I don't have autism but I know that If I had early childhood intervention and support I too wouldn't have got as bad as I did at 24 when I was at rock bottom.

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I don't understand star wars and I've tried to get into it.

Set phasers to stun all the way.
 
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rainbowlemon said:
If I have a child I can't see myself doing the santa thing. Same with elf on a shelf or Christmas eve boxes.



Also agree with this too. So much better to have support then to struggle half of your life wondering what the f*uk is wrong with you before you do get help. It's also harder to undo a lot of the damage it does do to your self esteem.

I don't have autism but I know that If I had early childhood intervention and support I too wouldn't have got as bad as I did at 24 when I was at rock bottom.

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I don't understand star wars and I've tried to get into it.

Set phasers to stun all the way.
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It's so upsetting and frustrating to me now seeing the patterns of behaviour that went for me as a kid that are so glaringly obvious. I feel like I could have avoided a lot of MH issues later on if it had been spotted younger and I could have had the adequate support. Instead I grew up feeling like there was something wrong me cause I couldn't do what the other kids could and I didn't understand things that they did. I always say as a kid it felt like all of the other kids knew the rules of the game and I didn't and everyone was annoyed at me for not knowing like I should have known them but I didn't. I also spent a lot of my life in situations that made me miserable cause I either felt like I should or was worried my friends would hate me.
 
I can’t stand fireworks. Don’t ask me to come out to any kind of bonfire/firework display. No thanks.

Taking the knee - take it or don’t take it. It’s a complete waste of time.

the term ‘poc’ - why can’t we just say that we are black, brown, Asian, Indian, white or whatever. Or how about not saying anything at all???

Ashley Banjo and diversity. Please duck off and get off my tv.
 
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My unpopular / secretly popular opinion is that the majority of us all have the pretty much the same opinion on most of the current hot topics, trends and general gobshittery that goes on, but are too tired / bored / disinterested or scared to voice them. I hate policing my perfectly legitimate thoughts and opinions because they are no longer deemed acceptable by a vocal minority whose opinion I frankly don't care about, but have made taking offence or being outraged an actual occupation. How have we got here? I don't know, but I don't like it.

On a similar vein I hate when people bang on about how awful the UK is. I want to know where else these people have lived because although it's not perfect, nowhere is so where exactly are we comparing it to.
 
Shesaidwhat? said:
I think Greta Thunberg is a twit. I drive to work and I’m killing the planet. She zips around the globe and she’s saving the planet. I don’t buy the she gets trains everywhere line.
I seen on Twitter almost everyone seems to be saying how terrible it is that the climate protestors got ink thrown at them but I can understand it.
I have zero sympathy for anyone that’s stopping ambulances reaching hospital or watching a woman plead with them to let her be able to see her sick mum in hospital and still not let her through.
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I dislike her with a passion

Gym&Tonic said:
Oh god yes. This with bells on! I can easily and regularly do go without alcohol for weeks on end. If you need to ‘go sober’ for a month to make a point then you have a problem and would be better of looking for an AA meeting and stopping altogether.

A huge percentage of people in the U.K. have an alcohol dependency and we normalise drinking too much with ‘Wine O’Clock’ and so on. It’s the reason alcohol was still considered ‘essential’ during lockdown when you couldn’t even buy books, magazines or even children’s clothes. The NHS couldn’t have coped with loads of fitting people in alcohol withdraw on top of everything else.
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I believe that in South Africa they banned the sale of alcohol in lockdowns for this very reason
 
Crabbypatty00 said:
My unpopular / secretly popular opinion is that the majority of us all have the pretty much the same opinion on most of the current hot topics, trends and general gobshittery that goes on, but are too tired / bored / disinterested or scared to voice them. I hate policing my perfectly legitimate thoughts and opinions because they are no longer deemed acceptable by a vocal minority whose opinion I frankly don't care about, but have made taking offence or being outraged an actual occupation. How have we got here? I don't know, but I don't like it.

On a similar vein I hate when people bang on about how awful the UK is. I want to know where else these people have lived because although it's not perfect, nowhere is so where exactly are we comparing it to.
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Feel the same about the erasure of women. It's anonymous here but I wouldn't be able to say anything in public with my real name attached. I don't have a thick enough skin. I don't want to share a bathroom with a man or have my young sisters try on clothing with a man in the next cubicle. Why not create third spaces like Center parcs did instead of changing all the female ones?

My aunt is a GP. She had a trans patient. She didn't prescribe x drug because she had never prescribed it before and was unsure of dosage. The patient complained about her. Lots of having to apologize . Same with the doctor who was reported after her husband complained about the doctor asking the muslim mother to remove her niqab (the extra veil that covers the face not headscarf) so he could hear her properly whilst he treated her daughter. Agree some people will find anything to be outraged by and it's not worth the agro if someone reports you.
 
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