Meg78
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Pleased for you, but could you please put things like that behind a spoiler so it isn’t triggering for others?
TTC #8 A great adventure is about to begin…
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!noseyparker!
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My period was two days late and I got my hopes up. I work at a university and essentially temp for different departments day to day which is really interesting! But it does mean this and next week I'm working with OBGYNs and thinking about babies and pregnancy as part of my work as well as my personal life. It's so interesting but also so frustrating.
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Possibly a stupid question, but here goes…I got my coil removed today and we now going to start “not not trying” and see what happens for a few months without putting pressure on it. My question is, for anyone who has been in this situation, where you’re not actively tracking your cycle yet but seeing what happens, did you immediately change your lifestyle in terms of not drinking, diet/excise changes, etc. or did you just live as normal and see what happens?
Possibly a stupid question, but here goes…I got my coil removed today and we now going to start “not not trying” and see what happens for a few months without putting pressure on it. My question is, for anyone who has been in this situation, where you’re not actively tracking your cycle yet but seeing what happens, did you immediately change your lifestyle in terms of not drinking, diet/excise changes, etc. or did you just live as normal and see what happens?ThisIsMyDragName
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Oooh hiya! This is where I’m at. Well, sort of. Haha! Had my coil out 31st May, first thing that resembled a period was a couple of weeks ago. Have had a mental health set back that has kind of even put ‘trying but not trying’ on hold. It was recommended to me that I started folic acid asap as I think it’s optimum to have been taking it for a month or two leading up to falling pregnant if you can. Admittedly, I fell off that bandwagon lately, haha! I’ve not really been a big drinker in the last couple of years anyway, but I do still drink, just moderately. I had come off my SSRI to see if I could cope without it just because SSRI effects on foetuses/newborns seemed a bit unknown, but it turned out I couldn’t handle my anxiety so I’ve gone back on. I don’t take any other meds. Im generally trying to be a bit fitter and healthier because I have piled on a bit of weight since the old pandemic. That’s about it for me!First time poster
Thank you! I had a copper coil so I’m immediately fertile in theory, assuming all is well. I started folic acid about 3-4 weeks ago now. I was wondering because I have quite a few events in the weeks ahead and whilst we’re not actively trying but also not not trying, I just wondered would it be totally irresponsible to drink “just in case”, but I think I’ll follow your advice and just drink in moderation.
wishing you well on your journey 
Meg78
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Your lifestyle and diet affect the quality of your eggs (and his sperm) so any changes you make in advance can only be a positive thing, it takes about 3 months for changes to start taking effect, so deffo worth a try!First time poster
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I’m at that annoying stage in my cycle where you convince yourself you have every possible symptom of early pregnancy 
the mind games are unreal.
the mind games are unreal.Bingobango
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Me too! I am not a patient personI’m at that annoying stage in my cycle where you convince yourself you have every possible symptom of early pregnancy
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So I'm due to start my period sunday but just thought I would do an ovulation test for fun as I had no pregnancy tests and I ha e a strong line. Have I ovulated again?
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I think it’s hard to tell but I did exactly this at around the same time and had a similar result and was pregnant, so it is a possibility!
Meg78
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Yuuuuuup! I’m 5 days late, BUT I ovulated a week late as I wasn’t well, but still my mind is all likeI’m at that annoying stage in my cycle where you convince yourself you have every possible symptom of early pregnancy
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Brewtime87
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I'm keeping everything crossed for you!
Bingobango
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Oh I hope so. Partner came home with some actual tests. I'm scared to do one now incase I'm getting my Hope's up. I mean technically I've still got till sunday before testing.
littlepup
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I'd just test - worse thing that can happen is it's negative and you test again in a few days.
Meg78
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You say that like seeing yet another negative doesn’t rip your heart to shreds
heysugarrr
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I’m a bit like you, I stopped my pill mid July. We were in an “if it happens, it happens” mindset but I immediately noticed my mind switching saying “okay well take folic acid in case it does happen” and then downloading the ovulation apps
I’ve stopped drinking too.
littlepup
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Fair enough, we all do it differently. I test from the moment I can. I don’t feel the crush of it so much until it’s due day and really over.You say that like seeing yet another negative doesn’t rip your heart to shreds
I didn’t conceive in over 4 years but I didn’t test then, the wait then to only see AF was equally as crushing.
Been TTC a year now since MC and for me testing is like a gentle let down almost. The closer AF gets, the more I get my hopes up, symptom spot, believe this month is really the month, the more of a killer it is. Being 4 days early this month was actuallly almost a relief that I new sooner than later. It helps me but I understand it won’t for everyone.
Still, even if I didn’t test early, if I were late, couldn’t pinpoint exact ovulation/conception or really strong symptoms I would get it over with, the negative feels the same today as it will tomorrow to me.
…Though I hate feeling stupid for believing it could’ve happened and the testing can exacerbate that.
There’s no right or wrong way, just whatever you’re most comfortable with
I’m a bit like you, I stopped my pill mid July. We were in an “if it happens, it happens” mindset but I immediately noticed my mind switching saying “okay well take folic acid in case it does happen” and then downloading the ovulation apps
my personality would be quite similar, so I am *trying* to be chill and enjoy for a while. It’s difficult to know what to do, I have a few big events in the next 3-4 weeks and if I didn’t drink, there would be questions and speculation, which I reaaaally don’t want while I’m not pregnant. If I was pregnant, I’d go full covert and pretend I was drinking.
Meg78
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Thinking about it I do similar but with BBT, if it rises for up to 18 days after ovulation it’s likely a green light, so seeing it go down a bit is like letting me know softly it’s probably not this month. There just something about waiting for a line to develop that bunches up all the nerves in my stomach and makes me get lime eyes, convincing myself I can see something, or I should wait another minute, just in case….. numbers on a thermometer aren’t quite so easy to fool myself withFair enough, we all do it differently. I test from the moment I can. I don’t feel the crush of it so much until it’s due day and really over.
I didn’t conceive in over 4 years but I didn’t test then, the wait then to only see AF was equally as crushing.
Been TTC a year now since MC and for me testing is like a gentle let down almost. The closer AF gets, the more I get my hopes up, symptom spot, believe this month is really the month, the more of a killer it is. Being 4 days early this month was actuallly almost a relief that I new sooner than later. It helps me but I understand it won’t for everyone.
Still, even if I didn’t test early, if I were late, couldn’t pinpoint exact ovulation/conception or really strong symptoms I would get it over with, the negative feels the same today as it will tomorrow to me.
…Though I hate feeling stupid for believing it could’ve happened and the testing can exacerbate that.
There’s no right or wrong way, just whatever you’re most comfortable with
User767676
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I am almost the opposite and take the digitals for the hard no! I hate the squinting at a test, putting it to the window, getting the torch out. Mind you seeing the words not pregnant is worse ! I also have a 100% record of taking the test and AF coming the next day and I wonder why I couldn’t have waited a day and saved some money!Thinking about it I do similar but with BBT, if it rises for up to 18 days after ovulation it’s likely a green light, so seeing it go down a bit is like letting me know softly it’s probably not this month. There just something about waiting for a line to develop that bunches up all the nerves in my stomach and makes me get lime eyes, convincing myself I can see something, or I should wait another minute, just in case….. numbers on a thermometer aren’t quite so easy to fool myself with
I’m just about to enter the fertile days (whilst the house is boiling
), how is everyone else doing ?
threeSMEGfridges
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Feeling remarkably reassured by the return of my period.
I had a silent miscarriage and naturally passed on 28/06. Bled for a further 6/7 days. Period started 08/08 which means my cycle restarted promptly once I finished bleeding after the m/c.
I had a silent miscarriage and naturally passed on 28/06. Bled for a further 6/7 days. Period started 08/08 which means my cycle restarted promptly once I finished bleeding after the m/c.
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