TTC #7 Even miracles take a little time…

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Spencerskates said:
Rang the doctors and spoke to a really unhelpful girl who just read the ‘no further action needed’ and said I didn’t need to do anything and didn’t even know what the tests were for.

I’m having such a tough time with this and feel so lonely, I’ve tried speaking to my OH but don’t feel like he understands either. He’s very much a ‘it’ll happen when it happens’ and I can’t keep going like that. I feel like our whole lives are on hold - he has all of these career ambitions and I don’t, I just want to be a mum.

I’ve had an eating disorder all my teens and twenties and while I’m doing better with that now I’ve obviously gained a lot of weight and I feel so disconnected to my body and like it’s not even mine. I’ve got nothing that fits me and every month I just keep telling myself it’s fine because we could be pregnant but we never are and all I’m getting is fatter.
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The best thing you can do right now is look after yourself. Fill your evenings with cooking healthy food and going for nice walks. Go blackberry picking or wander to the pub for dessert after dinner. You have to find a baseline to keeping yourself calm and happy because you’ll need that when baby does come anyway 😊
 
Spencerskates said:
Rang the doctors and spoke to a really unhelpful girl who just read the ‘no further action needed’ and said I didn’t need to do anything and didn’t even know what the tests were for.

I’m having such a tough time with this and feel so lonely, I’ve tried speaking to my OH but don’t feel like he understands either. He’s very much a ‘it’ll happen when it happens’ and I can’t keep going like that. I feel like our whole lives are on hold - he has all of these career ambitions and I don’t, I just want to be a mum.

I’ve had an eating disorder all my teens and twenties and while I’m doing better with that now I’ve obviously gained a lot of weight and I feel so disconnected to my body and like it’s not even mine. I’ve got nothing that fits me and every month I just keep telling myself it’s fine because we could be pregnant but we never are and all I’m getting is fatter.
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I don’t have many words to say sorry but please know you’re not alone ❤ It’s very easy for family/friends to say it will happen when it happens cos they haven’t been in our shoes and people naturally want to say positive things even though it isn’t helpful. We all know the reality here so keep talking away to us. I’ve actually started writing a diary about our ttc journey just to get my thoughts down onto, would this help you at all?

as roarke said, now is the time to find your baseline and do things that will both keep you busy but also find enjoyment in life whilst ttc ❤️
 
Heyguysswipeup said:
Having the mirena doesn’t stop you from ovulating so technically you could have ovulated on the 17th so it’s not showed up on your OPKs since? I personally just waited until I had my first period after the mirena to start tracking so you have the correct dates from your first day of your cycle. You could just have regular sex this month if that’s possible for you?

12dpo, bbt has dropped before baseline so just waiting for AF to come. Roll on month 14 🤞
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Thank you for this! Think I’ll do this and wait until my period shows before I carry on tracking ☺️x
 
Went to the zoo yesterday and was of course surrounded by babies, children and pregnant mums. It was heartwarming to see but I felt SO much that I wanted the same for myself. I was daydreaming about what life could be like for me and my partner one day with a baby of our own and god it’s painful to think about how it could never happen due to my two fertility conditions🙁
 
Spencerskates said:
Rang the doctors and spoke to a really unhelpful girl who just read the ‘no further action needed’ and said I didn’t need to do anything and didn’t even know what the tests were for.

I’m having such a tough time with this and feel so lonely, I’ve tried speaking to my OH but don’t feel like he understands either. He’s very much a ‘it’ll happen when it happens’ and I can’t keep going like that. I feel like our whole lives are on hold - he has all of these career ambitions and I don’t, I just want to be a mum.

I’ve had an eating disorder all my teens and twenties and while I’m doing better with that now I’ve obviously gained a lot of weight and I feel so disconnected to my body and like it’s not even mine. I’ve got nothing that fits me and every month I just keep telling myself it’s fine because we could be pregnant but we never are and all I’m getting is fatter.
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Oh lovely I'm in exact same boat as you, my bloods were 'satisfactory-abnormal and no further action required' and that was back in March, I'm getting no where further either! I feel like my husband just doesn't understand and I'm feeling so angry all the time, I physically hate him at the moment, I just can't stand to be around him, he is infuriating me and I feel so alone. I can't cry in front of him because he's just like 'what are you crying for' and I have all this rage simmering and i feel like I've got past the sad/denial stage now to just hurting and rage and I don't know what to do
 
make-mine-whiskey said:
Oh lovely I'm in exact same boat as you, my bloods were 'satisfactory-abnormal and no further action required' and that was back in March, I'm getting no where further either! I feel like my husband just doesn't understand and I'm feeling so angry all the time, I physically hate him at the moment, I just can't stand to be around him, he is infuriating me and I feel so alone. I can't cry in front of him because he's just like 'what are you crying for' and I have all this rage simmering and i feel like I've got past the sad/denial stage now to just hurting and rage and I don't know what to do
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I’m so sorry ☹️

How close are you to be able to ask for a referral to the fertility clinic?
 
make-mine-whiskey said:
Well we've been trying for 18 months, hubs has his 2nd test test next month so I guess we just have to wait and see what that comes back as
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I’d start the process of getting a referral if you can - there’ll be a massive influx of people using the services next year so the sooner you can get in the system the better. Keeping everything crossed for you 💛
 
yellowhighlighter said:
Can anyone recommend a cycle tracker app? I have tried Flo but found it really overwhelming and felt it made me focus on the tiniest of details.
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I found Flo to the the least reliable always got the start of my period wrong and would constantly send me messages which weren’t helpful to someone trying not to stress when TTC 🤣 I use the iPhone one in health which is pretty reliable. My friend swears by natural cycles but you have to take your temperature everyday, although she’s stopped doing that now and it works fine for her still
 
16DPO, no AF, bloating like nuts...wtf is going on. no signs of her but maybe she is coming as im bloating....i am testing negative still.
 
Helloimnew said:
Period due in 5 days. My boobs are hurting at the sides and top. Other symptoms have gone away now. Did anyone have really sore boobs and not be pregnant? They’ve been sore for at least 5 days now.
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AF arrived last night. Earlier than usual this month. We’ve been trying for about 7 months now. So disheartening as I got pregnant in the first month or trying with my first.
 
My sister gave birth today and I got a BFN this morning. Yesterday I had snot like pink CM so I hlwas hoping it was implantation bleeding but the test was negative this morning. My AF is due on Saturday.
 
Helloimnew said:
AF arrived last night. Earlier than usual this month. We’ve been trying for about 7 months now. So disheartening as I got pregnant in the first month or trying with my first.
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My boobs were sooo sore this past cycle- I was convinced it meant a BFP but AF came along :( we’ve been trying a similar amount of time to you for our second-first one came about quite easily for us too. I feel so under pressure that I want to give my LG a sibling which I don’t think is helping but my heart aches for it!
sending you lots of positivity for your next cycle❤
 
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