TTC #11 The Long & Winding Road

[LittleMissMuffet]

Thank you. I started counselling recently and amongst other things, picked a person with experience of working with people experiencing fertility problems, and I lined up an appointment with her for Friday so it’s a good time to unpack why my head is a bit fried.
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Thank you. I think it was a bit of a ‘confirmation’ that I’m a ‘failure’ that’s got me a bit sad. That maybe I have loads of eggs/follicles but they’re not viable ones. That 18 months has all been a bit of a hopeless endeavour and it won’t just magically and gently happen for us. Not that the Doc put it that way, he was kind and nice. But it almost doesn’t matter what someone tells me or how, I’ll end up ‘blaming’ myself.

I do indeed have PCOS (and PCO!) and they specifically test AMH to decide the type of medication they give you to prevent the over stimulation. It’s nice to get a bit of confirmation that he did indeed know his onions! I think he founded the clinic we are with, though it’s now part of a national chain. He didn’t recommend the most expensive options so I didn’t feel like it was a money making scheme.

It’s ok to feel angry and upset. It’s ok to be sad. You’re grieving something. No one who thinks about starting a family dreams of going through ivf. From everything you've said, you’ve had a heck of a time with work on top of that you’ve had to deal with dismissive drs and it’s bleeping horrible being told you need to lose weight when you are at your most vulnerable. Any medical procedure is a big thing and it’s so normal to feel overwhelmed and upset. Therapy is an amazing idea - the only thing I would say is that it is incredibly draining so try to make time for yourself after sessions. It isn’t a quick fix and you do have to work on making your brain totally rethink everything it’s taught itself as a defence mechanism for x many years. But it’s also good to get it all out and for hopefully someone to tell you that you need to be a bit kinder to yourself.

 

[Tretps29]

Hi All! Has anyone tried a contraception cup? Any good? I have never seen anything like it!!?

Not a Contraception but a fertility cup. I used it religiously both times I feel pregnant. The months I sporadically used it I didn’t fall pregnant. So I’m not sure but I would recommend it x

 

[Gg_xoxo_]

Can anyone help with these charts? I’m happy with the test strips, I’ve done that for a long time but this was my first month checking BBT.
it’s impossible for me to do it at the same time every morning because of a toddler who has different wake times and my working hours.
I do it as soon as I wake up though, and as close in time as I possibly can. I know things like illness can affect it so I’m trying not to overthink.
HOWEVER… I’m confused. Why did it spike on the same day as my peak LH? Should it not have been a day or so later? Am I not ovulating?

 

[aalmaalm]

Im not sure if any of you can help, but I have reallyyy irregular cycles! Sometimes my period can me 5-7 days, sometimes it could be a lot longer. Always been like this when not on any birth control.
back when I was about 18 I fell pregnant the day after my period stopped. That’s how I know how irregular they can be and when ovulating etc. now back to present day we started trying for another baby - I had been using ovulation strips etc but it was getting me down when we weren’t conceiving so I just stopped taking them for my own sanity! Last month/this month my period was again longer. The day after it stopped we did the deed. Now about 9 dlater I’m feeling a bit crampy & have been feeling nauseous. I went to buy a sandwich in Tesco earlier and the thought of them all made me feel sick, I came away with a plain cheese one . A couple of days ago I thought I was coming on my period AGAIN but it just seemed to be a slight bit of spotting (I didn’t have spotting with my previous). Also today at work I had hardly drank anything but I needed a wee so bad several times all before 1230pm! Could I be pregnant? Am I reading too much into it? Is it too early to get these things? It’s to early to test I think!