TTC #11 The Long & Winding Road
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LittleMissMuffet
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It’s ok to be sad about it and of course you would be. Sending you a big hug x
ThisIsMyDragName
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Couldn’t even manage an ugly cry but felt close to tears all bleeping day. Bahhhh so annoying.
My boobs are insanely tender at the moment. I could reel off a list of ‘symptoms’ but it’s probably just PMS being an hole which will lead to an hole period and feelings of failure. It will be interesting to see when my period comes, though. I must be about 3 1/2 months into my insane supplement regime for PCOS and last cycle was a ‘perfect’ 28 days. Will be interesting to see if that was a one off or not. I’ve recently bounced around between 30-33ish days before last cycle.
Tretps29
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Right I might be bat tit crazy but it kinda helps with my ttc anxiety.
I’ve put together a table of 10DPO columns and looked on my fertility app and written in the symptoms I have/had for 3-10DPO for each month …both the months i fell pregnant (both times mc) and those cycles I haven’t fallen pregnant.
The outcome - all PMS symptoms are exactly the same as pregnancy symptoms.
I get horrendous period flu before my period which can be exactly the same as pregnancy.
So my very unscientific anecdotal evidence…you can read into your pms symptoms as pregnancy really really easily
The one and only thing that is different. I get super thirsty when I’m pregnant and crave sparkling water which I don’t whilst I’m having pms.
I suppose this means you alone know your body best x
I’ve put together a table of 10DPO columns and looked on my fertility app and written in the symptoms I have/had for 3-10DPO for each month …both the months i fell pregnant (both times mc) and those cycles I haven’t fallen pregnant.
The outcome - all PMS symptoms are exactly the same as pregnancy symptoms.
I get horrendous period flu before my period which can be exactly the same as pregnancy.
So my very unscientific anecdotal evidence…you can read into your pms symptoms as pregnancy really really easily
The one and only thing that is different. I get super thirsty when I’m pregnant and crave sparkling water which I don’t whilst I’m having pms.
I suppose this means you alone know your body best x
ThisIsMyDragName
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Meh. I think I’m out. Spotting on DPO9, now spotting today which is heavier on DPO11. Gutted but not surprised.
Tretps29
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Sorry to hear that
I think I’m 6or7 DPO No obvs symptoms so I’m pretty sure I’m out too.
Sometimes you just know your body x
When do you guys test? Do you do the first response ones 6 days before your period is due, or just wait for the period to arrive or not? I did first response at 5 days before my period was due and negative, so just assumed that’s out. I’m now 13DPO and I just know my period is about to come so it’s a whatever really, but just wondering if you guys bother with the first response tests?
I got pregnant in August, on day 25, a voice in my head told me to do a test. Weird. I did and it was mildly positive, I totally ignored this as I wasn't "trying". 2 days later I did another (early response) test. The line was darker and I started crapping myself. The tests were 4 years old and expired. I ran my final one (not early response) under the tap as a control and crapped myself further when that came up negative. I then got more cheap tests (all positive) and started on the Clearblue. I went to the doctor's and her test came up positive (day 28). This shitshow taught me that the home tests, even the cheap ones are quite sensitive.
ThisIsMyDragName
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I hate my own bodySorry to hear that
No obvs symptoms so I’m pretty sure I’m out too.
Sometimes you just know your body x
. 27 day cycle which was totally random for me. Ah well, the only consolation is the PMS has relaxed so I’m not bleeping crying all the time 
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I once bought a twin pack of those ultra early digital test things because I was CONVINCED. I had become extremely smell sensitive, nauseous, sore boobs etc. was negative (and rightly so as my period came along however many days later). I usually use those Premom sticks for LH and HCG. Just re-ordered a load because I’d run out but it was pointless anyway!
LittleMissMuffet
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I’m currently 2 days late according to one period app and one day late according to another. I’m reluctant to do a test as I’m away and don’t want to feel upset when I see a negative (I was 4 days late back in jan, was convinced I was pregnant because I’m never that late but the test was negative and I kid you not - an hour after it I started. So mean!) apart from tender boobs which I get every month, I have no symptoms.
Hinchhater1442
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hello! I’m sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask but I’m not sure where is
I got a positive pregnancy test on Tuesday (day my period was due) and today I’ve had some bleeding. I know it can be implantation bleeding but I’m struggling to work out the difference of that vs MC. How much blood could/would be present for MC does anyone know? Or is there no clear answer because it varies?
it was bright red, wouldn’t fill a pad, but was enough that it has transferred a little onto my pj bottoms - so not just ‘a tiny amount only noticeable when wiping’ as the websites say. I’m so confused about what to do as looks like this early on no one would see me anyway so do I just wait it out?
thank you and sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask this
I got a positive pregnancy test on Tuesday (day my period was due) and today I’ve had some bleeding. I know it can be implantation bleeding but I’m struggling to work out the difference of that vs MC. How much blood could/would be present for MC does anyone know? Or is there no clear answer because it varies?
it was bright red, wouldn’t fill a pad, but was enough that it has transferred a little onto my pj bottoms - so not just ‘a tiny amount only noticeable when wiping’ as the websites say. I’m so confused about what to do as looks like this early on no one would see me anyway so do I just wait it out?
thank you and sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask this
Greencatfysh
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Unfortunately it’s too early to be able to say, it could be implantation bleeding as you say and I’ve learnt from these threads that a fair amount of bleeding is considered normal in the early weeks
fingers crossed for you, keep an eye on it getting heavy enough to fill a pad.
LittleMissMuffet
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First of all - please don’t apologise! It’s ok to ask questions - it’s a wild old ride. Bleeding doesn’t always mean a MC. I would take another pregnancy test. That may provide a bit more reassurance. Monitor the bleeding. If it’s stopped I’d be more inclined to think it was implantation. It is scary and unsettling but try to remain positive. Fingers crossed! X
ThisIsMyDragName
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Decided I needed to increase my SSRI and through sheer luck, got a telephone appt this morning which happened about 5 minutes after I called up asking for an appt which I didn’t even think I’d have today. I think I won the NHS lottery this morning! The GP was so nice, didn’t get a hard time about being on this medication whatsoever. Was in agreement going back up a level was right for me and low risk to pregnancy. Said any reductions are a conversation to have if/when I’m actually pregnant but even then, staying on it through pregnancy wouldn’t be some terrible thing. I made a really off the cuff comment that once again I’d ended a cycle with my period and not pregnant, and before I could say anything else he just went ‘Im sorry’ and first I was a dork and thought my reception had cut out on my phone and he was asking me to repeat myself but no. He was actually just being nice and being human. I about broke at that point! Anyway. No further forward with TTC but hopefully further forward with my mental health which won’t make the progress any worse!
My stress and anxiety have caused me to lose 3kg this week. This is not ideal because it’s my usual crap not eating behaviours but I’m now 0.5 away from being at the absolute upper limit BMI to get full treatment at the fertility clinic we’re booked to go to. So… every cloud has a silver lining I suppose! I’m enormously fat so me losing 3kg is probably like someone else losing 50g
My stress and anxiety have caused me to lose 3kg this week. This is not ideal because it’s my usual crap not eating behaviours but I’m now 0.5 away from being at the absolute upper limit BMI to get full treatment at the fertility clinic we’re booked to go to. So… every cloud has a silver lining I suppose! I’m enormously fat so me losing 3kg is probably like someone else losing 50g
LittleMissMuffet
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I’m so glad you got a dr who actually had empathy.Decided I needed to increase my SSRI and through sheer luck, got a telephone appt this morning which happened about 5 minutes after I called up asking for an appt which I didn’t even think I’d have today. I think I won the NHS lottery this morning! The GP was so nice, didn’t get a hard time about being on this medication whatsoever. Was in agreement going back up a level was right for me and low risk to pregnancy. Said any reductions are a conversation to have if/when I’m actually pregnant but even then, staying on it through pregnancy wouldn’t be some terrible thing. I made a really off the cuff comment that once again I’d ended a cycle with my period and not pregnant, and before I could say anything else he just went ‘Im sorry’ and first I was a dork and thought my reception had cut out on my phone and he was asking me to repeat myself but no. He was actually just being nice and being human. I about broke at that point! Anyway. No further forward with TTC but hopefully further forward with my mental health which won’t make the progress any worse!
My stress and anxiety have caused me to lose 3kg this week. This is not ideal because it’s my usual crap not eating behaviours but I’m now 0.5 away from being at the absolute upper limit BMI to get full treatment at the fertility clinic we’re booked to go to. So… every cloud has a silver lining I suppose! I’m enormously fat so me losing 3kg is probably like someone else losing 50g
ThisIsMyDragName
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Thank you. He was amazing. I’m only dealing with him from now on. He was chalk and cheese compared to the female Dr I specifically sought out earlier in the year.
Aceofspades
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Decided I needed to increase my SSRI and through sheer luck, got a telephone appt this morning which happened about 5 minutes after I called up asking for an appt which I didn’t even think I’d have today. I think I won the NHS lottery this morning! The GP was so nice, didn’t get a hard time about being on this medication whatsoever. Was in agreement going back up a level was right for me and low risk to pregnancy. Said any reductions are a conversation to have if/when I’m actually pregnant but even then, staying on it through pregnancy wouldn’t be some terrible thing. I made a really off the cuff comment that once again I’d ended a cycle with my period and not pregnant, and before I could say anything else he just went ‘Im sorry’ and first I was a dork and thought my reception had cut out on my phone and he was asking me to repeat myself but no. He was actually just being nice and being human. I about broke at that point! Anyway. No further forward with TTC but hopefully further forward with my mental health which won’t make the progress any worse!
My stress and anxiety have caused me to lose 3kg this week. This is not ideal because it’s my usual crap not eating behaviours but I’m now 0.5 away from being at the absolute upper limit BMI to get full treatment at the fertility clinic we’re booked to go to. So… every cloud has a silver lining I suppose! I’m enormously fat so me losing 3kg is probably like someone else losing 50g
I’m really chuffed to have checked back in on this thread to see that things have improved slightly for you after you shared last week how hard you were finding it
it’s amazing what a half decent GP and a degree of understanding can do. You and I are at very similar points in regards to the fertility treatment. 7lbs to go for me…and like you, I had a wonderful consultant this time who instead of berating me for my weight, commended me for working hard on my health (physical and mental!) and as a result, lowering my bmi. It really makes a difference to be treat with some kindness.
Keep going everyone in your respective journeys
ThisIsMyDragName
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My weight loss was kind of accidental and done in my usual super harmful way that probably meant conception was always doomed for me this cycle. And therein lies my problem, it’s the only time/way I lose weight! You’ve been doing amazingly thoughI’m really chuffed to have checked back in on this thread to see that things have improved slightly for you after you shared last week how hard you were finding it
You and I are at very similar points in regards to the fertility treatment. 7lbs to go for me…and like you, I had a wonderful consultant this time who instead of berating me for my weight, commended me for working hard on my health (physical and mental!) and as a result, lowering my bmi. It really makes a difference to be treat with some kindness.
Keep going everyone in your respective journeys
Aceofspades
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Weightloss aside, It’s just good that you managed to advocate for yourself, get the medication you need, without being judgedMy weight loss was kind of accidental and done in my usual super harmful way that probably meant conception was always doomed for me this cycle. And therein lies my problem, it’s the only time/way I lose weight! You’ve been doing amazingly though
Tretps29
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I test from 7dpo, early I know but I have to due to my health. if I find I’m a pregnant I have to go to the hospital asap where they can start to administer drugs and give me a load of meds due to an immune disorder which makes me a high risk pregnancy. Basically sooner the better. I’ve been told to rock up and I’ll be seen there and then which is reassuring.
I absolutely know when I’ve been pregnant before very early on so even though I tested today at 8dpo I know it won’t be positive but I want to do it just in case I need to get to the hospital