Toddler Advice #8 Jingle bells, the house smells, toddler’s still awake; biting, and almighty tantrums what more can I take?!

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My boy went to a Christmas party with his morning and nursery this afternoon. I decided to leave out his Christmas Day outfit for my partner to dress him in, against my better judgement, because it’s Christmas and he won’t wear it much. Thought I’d share with you what I found in his bag this evening:

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Brand new on 😩 I’m not sure he could have got filthier if he tried 😂 Not even sure what some of these stains are. Left it soaking in a cocktail of stain removers and warm water, and hoping for the best. Pray for me!
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At least it looks like he had a good time? :ROFLMAO: :ROFLMAO:

That reminds me, my husband brought our middle girl a white dress to wear on Thanksgiving. White. For the child we call the Tiny Terrorist. It's like he hasn't been here for the past year and a half :ROFLMAO:
 
Anybody know how to tell if a toddler is behind on their speech?

My LO has had quite a few ear infections, she's 20 months and I keep seeing she should be between 50-200 words at this age, she barely speaks 20 so I'm just wondering if she might have an issue with her ears which could be affecting her speech.

No idea if I'm being OTT or if that is actually a reasonable thought process 🤪
 
RandomFrog said:
Anybody know how to tell if a toddler is behind on their speech?

My LO has had quite a few ear infections, she's 20 months and I keep seeing she should be between 50-200 words at this age, she barely speaks 20 so I'm just wondering if she might have an issue with her ears which could be affecting her speech.

No idea if I'm being OTT or if that is actually a reasonable thought process 🤪
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Baby Biscuit was probably the same around that age, but within a couple of months she suddenly wouldn't shut up 😂 she's 2 now and she's picking up new words every day.

If you're worried you could ring your health visitor for a chat, but she may just need a few more weeks.
 
RandomFrog said:
Anybody know how to tell if a toddler is behind on their speech?

My LO has had quite a few ear infections, she's 20 months and I keep seeing she should be between 50-200 words at this age, she barely speaks 20 so I'm just wondering if she might have an issue with her ears which could be affecting her speech.

No idea if I'm being OTT or if that is actually a reasonable thought process 🤪
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I went to see a speech and language therapist with my boy at 18m. Was told 50 words by 2.
 
I also thought it was 50 words by 2. Baby wotsit is on 28 regular words & sounds now at 20 months and possibly a few that are hard to catch. All of a sudden he’s starting copying words and sounds. I see loads same age with so many more….seems to be so many guidelines floating around to how many they should be saying.
@Clickbait good to hear a professional said 50 by 2!!
 
I once thought maybe mine was.. I’ve not counted the words recently but I remember it felt like it was just overnight once that he just came out with more and more words and sounds out of nowhere ! I’m sure we’re over the 50 at least..

Though he seems to struggle with a few sounds and has never said mummy/mumma daddy/dadda 😕
We’ve always called ourselves that in front of him and calling ourselves that as much as possible and it think it’s more the sounds of some words that he just can’t say. Like he can’t seem to say any D words and he does seem to come out with something that could be him trying to say daddy sometimes.

Still been trying to get rid of it unsuccessfully atm but as example he calls a dummy a bumbum (instead of how we call it his dumdum) 🤣

Unless things change I think we’ll bring it up at his 2 year review
 
Feel like Iv hit a low point tonight. I feel so ill, I’m shivering them boiling. Feel bloody exhausted from these split night. Iv just sat and cried and I couldn’t stop in front of baby wotsit. Now I feel awful he saw me crying. There’s still so much to do. Got a 3 hour drive on Tuesday and I’m dreading it. I just wanna stay at home but then I feel awful for baby wotsit it will just be me and him. I feel like I’m failing him so badly and I just feel so alone
 
WotsitG1 said:
Feel like Iv hit a low point tonight. I feel so ill, I’m shivering them boiling. Feel bloody exhausted from these split night. Iv just sat and cried and I couldn’t stop in front of baby wotsit. Now I feel awful he saw me crying. There’s still so much to do. Got a 3 hour drive on Tuesday and I’m dreading it. I just wanna stay at home but then I feel awful for baby wotsit it will just be me and him. I feel like I’m failing him so badly and I just feel so alone
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You are not failing him. The fact you’re so cut up about it shows what a great mum you are and baby wotsit is lucky to have you.

Try not to let yourself stress about anything. If things aren’t all done it will not be the end of the world and even if it was just you and baby worst, he will still have the most amazing day.
 
WotsitG1 said:
Feel like Iv hit a low point tonight. I feel so ill, I’m shivering them boiling. Feel bloody exhausted from these split night. Iv just sat and cried and I couldn’t stop in front of baby wotsit. Now I feel awful he saw me crying. There’s still so much to do. Got a 3 hour drive on Tuesday and I’m dreading it. I just wanna stay at home but then I feel awful for baby wotsit it will just be me and him. I feel like I’m failing him so badly and I just feel so alone
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You are certainly not failing him.
Our Christmas this year is me working Xmas eve night shift & then sleeping xmas day until around 2pm. Sandwiches and a walk in the afternoon & a chilled evening where little miss plays with her new toys & I lay on the sofa.

Xmas is what you make of it, and tbh your little one will love whatever you do, even if it's just the two of you.

As for split nights, solidarity right here! My little one is going through them again. They're so hard & they are soul destroying. They do eventually stop & they do eventually sleep, it just feels like it's lasting forever whilst your in the midst of them
 
WotsitG1 said:
Feel like Iv hit a low point tonight. I feel so ill, I’m shivering them boiling. Feel bloody exhausted from these split night. Iv just sat and cried and I couldn’t stop in front of baby wotsit. Now I feel awful he saw me crying. There’s still so much to do. Got a 3 hour drive on Tuesday and I’m dreading it. I just wanna stay at home but then I feel awful for baby wotsit it will just be me and him. I feel like I’m failing him so badly and I just feel so alone
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Sending lots of love. You’re not failing him at all, wherever you’ll be he’ll have a magical Christmas because he’ll be with you. If you want to stay at home honestly do it, especially if you’re not feeling well.

I’ve got everyone coming to me and then baby is off to her dads in the afternoon. I’m dreading it too and feel so guilty that I’m not looking forward to her second Christmas but I just feel so sad and empty and guilty that I’m not giving her the family Christmas with parents together that I wanted for her. And faking it and trying to do the most to make up for us no longer being together is frankly exhausting
 
This might be quite a niche one but healthcare mamma's how do you do it?

I'm working Monday & Xmas eve night shift & because of that I've had my Xmas dinner tonight and had a little Xmas party with my sisters family. It was lovely but now everyone's gone it's hitting me that I'm missing Christmas because I won't be playing santa for my little girl, I will be tired when I get home so I won't be spending the morning with her when she's got her gifts. I won't be seeing my family until boxing day, when i will be splitting the day between my family and hubby's family as it's the only day we have to fit everyone in as I'm back at work on Friday.

I feel sick tbh that it's my girls second Christmas and I feel like I'm gonna miss out on it. I've done loads of christmassy stuff (seen santa, christmas carols, christmas light walks) but I feel like the day itself (which she will probably spend feeling massively overwhelmed and overstimulated) I'm missing.

I hate this part of parenting. I feel like I am constantly overwhelmed with guilt that I'm trying to provide a life for us, but it costs us time together as a family
 
Nosysamsie said:
This might be quite a niche one but healthcare mamma's how do you do it?

I'm working Monday & Xmas eve night shift & because of that I've had my Xmas dinner tonight and had a little Xmas party with my sisters family. It was lovely but now everyone's gone it's hitting me that I'm missing Christmas because I won't be playing santa for my little girl, I will be tired when I get home so I won't be spending the morning with her when she's got her gifts. I won't be seeing my family until boxing day, when i will be splitting the day between my family and hubby's family as it's the only day we have to fit everyone in as I'm back at work on Friday.

I feel sick tbh that it's my girls second Christmas and I feel like I'm gonna miss out on it. I've done loads of christmassy stuff (seen santa, christmas carols, christmas light walks) but I feel like the day itself (which she will probably spend feeling massively overwhelmed and overstimulated) I'm missing.

I hate this part of parenting. I feel like I am constantly overwhelmed with guilt that I'm trying to provide a life for us, but it costs us time together as a family
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I’m not in healthcare and my heart goes out to you here, but, I might be being a bit simple but can’t you move the “day” - she doesn’t know it happens on the 25th December and if you do it on a another day it means you get to enjoy it properly xx
 
WeHadFunRight said:
I’m not in healthcare and my heart goes out to you here, but, I might be being a bit simple but can’t you move the “day” - she doesn’t know it happens on the 25th December and if you do it on a another day it means you get to enjoy it properly xx
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With the shifts I'm working around it & the expectation from family to see them moving the days been difficult, it was an option but finding the day just didn't fit it 🤦‍♂
 
Nosysamsie said:
With the shifts I'm working around it & the expectation from family to see them moving the days been difficult, it was an option but finding the day just didn't fit it 🤦‍♂️
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In future, tell your family to manage their expectations better. You make your plans, then tell them when you're available to see them. If it doesn't work for them, tell them you'll see them in January.

We decided before we even had kids that Christmas Day was for us. Once the kids came along we still kept to that. We spend the day together at home, we eat what and when we want, we wear what we want, we do the whole day to our own schedule. I don't work in health care, but I certainly don't do 9-5. Christmas Day is the only day we're all guaranteed to be at home together, so we make the most of that. That's obviously not doable for you in your job, so pick a day that can be your day, and bollocks to everyone else!
 
Nosysamsie said:
This might be quite a niche one but healthcare mamma's how do you do it?

I'm working Monday & Xmas eve night shift & because of that I've had my Xmas dinner tonight and had a little Xmas party with my sisters family. It was lovely but now everyone's gone it's hitting me that I'm missing Christmas because I won't be playing santa for my little girl, I will be tired when I get home so I won't be spending the morning with her when she's got her gifts. I won't be seeing my family until boxing day, when i will be splitting the day between my family and hubby's family as it's the only day we have to fit everyone in as I'm back at work on Friday.

I feel sick tbh that it's my girls second Christmas and I feel like I'm gonna miss out on it. I've done loads of christmassy stuff (seen santa, christmas carols, christmas light walks) but I feel like the day itself (which she will probably spend feeling massively overwhelmed and overstimulated) I'm missing.

I hate this part of parenting. I feel like I am constantly overwhelmed with guilt that I'm trying to provide a life for us, but it costs us time together as a family
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I worked my daughters second christmas and honestly at this age it's just a day for them! We did "christmas day" on christmas eve cos she didn't know any different/understand santa. She was teething and miserable anyway 🤣
Don't feel too bad about it just now 💕 there will be Christmases you get to be more christmassy x
 
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