Thismummystory #5 my husband’s, my toddler’s stuck to my tit, i hate most of my kids but I'll never admit

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God that reel is just an excuse for her to throw in as many BIG words as she can isn't it 🙄

I am surprised she hasn't milked the 'diagnosis' (if it's real) more, which makes me think it's not. Imagine the content/reel she could have made about waiting times, how hard is it to get support or an appointment etc etc. Endless moaning guaranteed. The fact that she hasn't done that suggests to me that she diagnosed him because 'mama knows best'. He might well be autistic, but certainly not for the things she claims him to be, that's just attention seeking behaviour of a child who's been pushed aside side and pawned off with endless toys etc since Princess Cocopop's arrival.
 
My brother is autistic, and....if she hasn't got a diagnosis for him officially then shame on her! I hate this whole thing of we all have a bit autism in us...its an insult and completely untrue. If she has got a diagnosis for him then I think she needs to state that. How would she know anyway, she's too busy obsessing about coco to care about the other children. If he is on the spectrum, how about take a break from posting reels about so say 'scaremongering about sleep patterns' and advocating it completely normal for your child to not get a good night's sleep and you doing ridiculous things like.'boobnastics' which doesn't help....and go and focus on helping your son! By helping I mean without buying him stuff to keep him happy!
 
gee13 said:
I find it sad that she wants to put a label on him tbh.
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OK, first off, I saw the reel, and as the mother of an actually autistic boy I found it offensive.

The captions are simultaneously schmaltzy, pretentious and insincere.

This is a woman who’s thought hard about this, how to present it in a way to get maximum views. But it’s not real life. I have never ever ever thought about my child in those dehumanising terms. I also would never exploit my child’s autism in that way, obviously 👀

My hunch is he hasn’t been diagnosed officially. If he had, I would expect her to be real. To talk about the process, to educate others about what it’s like. The fact she hasn’t done that, but instead made a cutesy reel full of cliches and word vomit… nah. This is all for show.

But, can I just say how incredibly offensive it is to hear people criticising parents for labelling their kids. Autism isn’t a label, it’s a neurodevelopmental condition. My son was born autistic. If I hadn’t chosen to get him diagnosed (not labelled, diagnosed) he would still be autistic. He’s entitled to grow up knowing who he is and why he’s different.
 

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maytoseptember said:
OK, first off, I saw the reel, and as the mother of an actually autistic boy I found it offensive.

The captions are simultaneously schmaltzy, pretentious and insincere.

This is a woman who’s thought hard about this, how to present it in a way to get maximum views. But it’s not real life. I have never ever ever thought about my child in those dehumanising terms. I also would never exploit my child’s autism in that way, obviously 👀

My hunch is he hasn’t been diagnosed officially. If he had, I would expect her to be real. To talk about the process, to educate others about what it’s like. The fact she hasn’t done that, but instead made a cutesy reel full of cliches and word vomit… nah. This is all for show.

But, can I just say how incredibly offensive it is to hear people criticising parents for labelling their kids. Autism isn’t a label, it’s a neurodevelopmental condition. My son was born autistic. If I hadn’t chosen to get him diagnosed (not labelled, diagnosed) he would still be autistic. He’s entitled to grow up knowing who he is and why he’s different.
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Christ I haven’t watched the reel but just seeing those screenshots you posted make me want to vomit. You’re right, she’s really gone out of her way to make sure she gets the content “right”. I genuinely wonder if she knows what all those words mean 🙄

In regards to the word label, I think I have probably used it in conjunction with George because I don’t believe she has had him diagnosed. She shares every single aspect of her life that I cannot believe she managed to get to appointments privately… so I would say she has labelled him, because it suits her parenting. She’s tit at it so she has labelled him this way to excuse it.
 
I’m still thinking about how awful that reel is. I can tell you how offensive it is to use your child’s autism (self-diagnosed or otherwise) for clout.

But I’m still convinced it’s self-diagnosed at the moment.

The worst thing is, she isn’t even trying to describe how autism affects her child’s day to day life. The anxiety. The sensory issues. The struggles with communication and friendships. The overwhelm and meltdowns. I wouldn’t change my child but I wish I could change the world for him to make his life easier.

Those cringey captions are all me me me and how her child’s self-diagnosed autism makes HER feel. She should be ashamed of herself.
 
Still in shock over the possible self diagnosed autism reel and all the negative words she’s put over the top of him… so many labels. Why hasn’t there been any transparency with the autism diagnosis journey? So surprised she hasn’t been on criticising the process to get him diagnosed and wanting to share the experience with her followers. Something seems amiss here and out of character. If so, it’s once again George demonstrating an awful example of parenting… this time basically saying it’s okay to be diagnosing their children’s behavioural/neurological health status without official assessment. This is not ok to label your kids like that and could be damaging if not actually the right diagnosis/diagnoses.
 
maytoseptember said:
I’m still thinking about how awful that reel is. I can tell you how offensive it is to use your child’s autism (self-diagnosed or otherwise) for clout.

But I’m still convinced it’s self-diagnosed at the moment.

The worst thing is, she isn’t even trying to describe how autism affects her child’s day to day life. The anxiety. The sensory issues. The struggles with communication and friendships. The overwhelm and meltdowns. I wouldn’t change my child but I wish I could change the world for him to make his life easier.

Those cringey captions are all me me me and how her child’s self-diagnosed autism makes HER feel. She should be ashamed of herself.
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Agree it’s all about how hard this is for her. As with all of her parenting. It’s always hard FOR HER.

But imagine her kid sees this about himself! I really really despise this type of mumfluencer who has no qualms seeking out their kids
 
applesandbananas123 said:
It should be illegal to put your child's face and struggles all over the Internet for money (or for a glo mamma award)
It's exploitation.
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I don’t know how it doesn’t keep her up at night thinking about the kind of people there are in the world. The kind of people that have access to hundreds and hundreds of videos and photos of her children, including ones of her breastfeeding her toddler. Not to mention she’s filmed them in swimming costumes and also filmed them in the bath just to name a few, it makes me feel sick. I am ALLLLLL for breastfeeding, I nursed my first until he was over 3, but I can’t imagine plastering photos and videos of him twiddling my nipples all over social media.
 
Omg, that evening “decompression” rant about the older boy’s obsession with screens. To me sounds like her boys are addicted and she need to put some real boundaries in place. Then she goes on about how she has got other rules like no screen at dinner?! No screen in the morning??! And they never push back on that…sorry I’m pretty sure they always have screens.

I agree in the fact you don’t be all or nothing with screens but have some BOUNDARIES and stay CONSISTENT! My days, she can’t deal will toddlers, she can’t deal with pre-teens. What can she deal with? How the heck is she up for an award?!? Awful awful parenting. Literally makes my skin crawl and so angry.

She act that having for 4 kids is so much, I come from a big family. My husband is one of 6 and each of his siblings have at least 4 kids each. I currently only have one (pregnant with my second). I see how my sister laws deal with screen and their multi children and it is simple, put in the boundaries and be consistent. Also actually play and chat to your child. You need to actually parent don’t just sit and video every damn minute of the day and speak to your online friends. The thing is they are just copying their parent’s behaviour. She is forever on her phone. Of course they will want to be on screens too.

I don’t know why I still follow her. It’s a trainwreck. Its like watching a trainwreck.
 
Booboopants said:
Surely we have some evidence that they get screens before school? I’m sure I’ve heard in the background? What lies is she mumbling on about? Either change it or own it. Don’t lie!!!
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justthinking. said:
Omg, that evening “decompression” rant about the older boy’s obsession with screens. To me sounds like her boys are addicted and she need to put some real boundaries in place. Then she goes on about how she has got other rules like no screen at dinner?! No screen in the morning??! And they never push back on that…sorry I’m pretty sure they always have screens.

I agree in the fact you don’t be all or nothing with screens but have some BOUNDARIES and stay CONSISTENT! My days, she can’t deal will toddlers, she can’t deal with pre-teens. What can she deal with? How the heck is she up for an award?!? Awful awful parenting. Literally makes my skin crawl and so angry.

She act that having for 4 kids is so much, I come from a big family. My husband is one of 6 and each of his siblings have at least 4 kids each. I currently only have one (pregnant with my second). I see how my sister laws deal with screen and their multi children and it is simple, put in the boundaries and be consistent. Also actually play and chat to your child. You need to actually parent don’t just sit and video every damn minute of the day and speak to your online friends. The thing is they are just copying their parent’s behaviour. She is forever on her phone. Of course they will want to be on screens too.

I don’t know why I still follow her. It’s a trainwreck. Its like watching a trainwreck.
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Watching that I was so confused?!

they DEFINITELY have screens at dinner time, well actually she doesn’t film the older ones much but she shows Grayson and Coco with them? So she’s saying the older 2 can’t have screens at dinner but it’s okay for the younger 😂
I found a grid post she did and this is actually the case! Wtf the younger 2 watching screens but they older ones not, it’s so bloody bizarre

it’s the post on 13th November

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justthinking. said:
Omg, that evening “decompression” rant about the older boy’s obsession with screens. To me sounds like her boys are addicted and she need to put some real boundaries in place. Then she goes on about how she has got other rules like no screen at dinner?! No screen in the morning??! And they never push back on that…sorry I’m pretty sure they always have screens.

I agree in the fact you don’t be all or nothing with screens but have some BOUNDARIES and stay CONSISTENT! My days, she can’t deal will toddlers, she can’t deal with pre-teens. What can she deal with? How the heck is she up for an award?!? Awful awful parenting. Literally makes my skin crawl and so angry.

She act that having for 4 kids is so much, I come from a big family. My husband is one of 6 and each of his siblings have at least 4 kids each. I currently only have one (pregnant with my second). I see how my sister laws deal with screen and their multi children and it is simple, put in the boundaries and be consistent. Also actually play and chat to your child. You need to actually parent don’t just sit and video every damn minute of the day and speak to your online friends. The thing is they are just copying their parent’s behaviour. She is forever on her phone. Of course they will want to be on screens too.

I don’t know why I still follow her. It’s a trainwreck. Its like watching a trainwreck.
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I have seen numerous examples of screens at meals and in the morning. Didn’t she post on her stories like 2 days ago when she was in bed and panned around and both boys were on iPads…?
 
ozblackcat said:
I have seen numerous examples of screens at meals and in the morning. Didn’t she post on her stories like 2 days ago when she was in bed and panned around and both boys were on iPads…?
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Without looking I’m defending her, I think she meant before school. They only went back to school today. I think weekend/holidays are a free for all.

I did notice a couple of time the older two don’t watch anything at dinner but the younger two do so the older two end of watching it over their shoulder anyway. All doesn’t make any sense.Maybe if she didn’t allow screens at all for EVERYONE then that would help things.
 
justthinking. said:
Without looking I’m defending her, I think she meant before school. They only went back to school today. I think weekend/holidays are a free for all.

I did notice a couple of time the older two don’t watch anything at dinner but the younger two do so the older two end of watching it over their shoulder anyway. All doesn’t make any sense.Maybe if she didn’t allow screens at all for EVERYONE then that would help things.
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That would mean upsetting Hokey Cokey and having to deal with Grayson so of course she wouldn’t
 
I get her with the screens with the older ones, especially when their friends do it so you don't want them to miss out socially etc and the whole thing of boundaries with screen time is hard and exhausting. But...with her i think it's a case of being so obsessed with coco breastfeeding her lieing on the sofa for hours with her 'nap trapped' that she literally.has no time for them. Her alternative is expensive days out etc. Never see her take them for a walk in the woods or anything!
 
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