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Lizzie Mintdrop said:
What she said was basically a denial. She's not perfect, I'm not saying she is but it's sickening reading you all saying he's a victim when he walked out and left a newborn. If she's so terrible, why did he leave her with two small children? I wouldn't leave my tiny baby with someone whose behaviour was so disgusting that I had to leave.
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Honestly this has been done to death previously. We don’t have his side. Anna is an unreliable narrator. Personally I don’t judge him because we don’t know what went down from his perspective. That doesn’t mean he’s a stand up guy, it’s more that I don’t have the information to form a conclusion.

I also don’t believe having a baby is a license to act badly. I can completely understand why Anna was frustrated in that moment, I had many similar moments when my baby was newborn and my partner was often going to the gym or sticking to prebaby routines around work. I was often holding the baby for 14 hours. But I never once "lunged" or lost it with him.

I also wonder what would be said if he'd taken the children with him? or chucked her out? What were his options? Stay in an environment where the kids are seeing conflict every day, split up a mother and her newborn, or leave? And are they really abandoned when their father remains in their life, seemingly quite a bit?
 
Bunbun1 said:
Honestly this has been done to death previously. We don’t have his side. Anna is an unreliable narrator. Personally I don’t judge him because we don’t know what went down from his perspective. That doesn’t mean he’s a stand up guy, it’s more that I don’t have the information to form a conclusion.

I also don’t believe having a baby is a license to act badly. I can completely understand why Anna was frustrated in that moment, I had many similar moments when my baby was newborn and my partner was often going to the gym or sticking to prebaby routines around work. I was often holding the baby for 14 hours. But I never once "lunged" or lost it with him.

I also wonder what would be said if he'd taken the children with him? or chucked her out? What were his options? Stay in an environment where the kids are seeing conflict every day, split up a mother and her newborn, or leave? And are they really abandoned when their father remains in their life, seemingly quite a bit?
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Let's put it this way, I'm not speculating on his options because I don't believe he left her because she was violent. He left her because he wanted to, he moved on very, very quickly.
 
Lizzie Mintdrop said:
Let's put it this way, I'm not speculating on his options because I don't believe he left her because she was violent. He left her because he wanted to, he moved on very, very quickly.
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I think he is also still in that relationship, whereas Anna has had more soft launches than I’ve had hot dinners. Yes he might have been a bit of a tit partner during those newborn days, but he walked in from work ie he managed to keep himself in a job to pay for her to stay at home with the kids. He looked after the kids so she could work in Waitrose so he worked and looked after the kids - I don’t think he was some dead beat dad? She has told us about guys she’s split up with, starting political arguments with their friends in pubs etc, throwing plates and screaming at her kids. The guy might be a total knob but Anna is no delight herself. Maybe he just realised it was toxic as duck. Did he want another baby or did she? Cos she clearly always gets what she wants!
 
Mochalatte said:
I think he is also still in that relationship, whereas Anna has had more soft launches than I’ve had hot dinners. Yes he might have been a bit of a tit partner during those newborn days, but he walked in from work ie he managed to keep himself in a job to pay for her to stay at home with the kids. He looked after the kids so she could work in Waitrose so he worked and looked after the kids - I don’t think he was some dead beat dad? She has told us about guys she’s split up with, starting political arguments with their friends in pubs etc, throwing plates and screaming at her kids. The guy might be a total knob but Anna is no delight herself. Maybe he just realised it was toxic as duck. Did he want another baby or did she? Cos she clearly always gets what she wants!
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I didn't say she was a delight. If he didn't want another child, maybe he could have used protection?
 
Lizzie Mintdrop said:
Let's put it this way, I'm not speculating on his options because I don't believe he left her because she was violent. He left her because he wanted to, he moved on very, very quickly.
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How do you know?

It's interesting that that only time you come into this thread is when Anna's ex is mentioned. The last time you posted here was in May, when you called him a prick because he didn't get her a card from the kids. Why are you so invested in him being the bad guy?
 
Bunbun1 said:
How do you know?

It's interesting that that only time you come into this thread is when Anna's ex is mentioned. The last time you posted here was in May, when you called him a prick because he didn't get her a card from the kids. Why are you so invested in him being the bad guy?
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I'm not really, I'm just saying he's not perfect and I don't think the narrative in here is correct just because some woman came on here, whipped you all up saying she knew him and then, seemingly, cleared off, never to comment again
 
Lizzie Mintdrop said:
I didn't say she was a delight. If he didn't want another child, maybe he could have used protection?
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This is such a reach. Maybe Anna was on the pill - or told him she was? It takes two people to make a baby and women have been known to trap men in this way. Think about it. In the post I spoke about yesterday Anna writes that they were both unhappy but "we hoped a new baby would paper over the cracks". It sounds like she thought having a second child would solve all their relationship problems, who knows how much say he had in the matter. Maybe he was planning to leave and then she fell pregnant and he didn't want to go ahead with it but felt he had no choice? Who knows.

Also I'm fairly certain they share custody 50/50. She's moaned dozens of times that she doesn't receive child maintenance from him, the only way that's possible is if they share custody equally or if he's unemployed which I don't think he is.
 
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Lizzie Mintdrop said:
I'm not really, I'm just saying he's not perfect and I don't think the narrative in here is correct just because some woman came on here, whipped you all up saying she knew him and then, seemingly, cleared off, never to comment again
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That doesn't really answer why you're not active on these threads unless someone mentions *that* ex, and all of a sudden up you pop to say what an awful guy he is.
 
Blurring his face like he's some celebrity child 🤣 he must think she's bleeping loopy honestly.
 

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Sorry but this made me lol. She's VERY UNWELL but lying in bed fully clothed with a full face of slap including eyeshadow and lipstick 🤣 also stop being so bleeping dramatic, apparently getting on a flight with a cold is "absolutely terrifying" jesus christ woman there are people dying in warzones but you're crying about having blocked ears on a flight however the duck will you cope? She is PREPOSTEROUS.
 

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jaggedlittlebill said:
Sorry but this made me lol. She's VERY UNWELL but lying in bed fully clothed with a full face of slap including eyeshadow and lipstick 🤣 also stop being so bleeping dramatic, apparently getting on a flight with a cold is "absolutely terrifying" jesus christ woman there are people dying in warzones but you're crying about having blocked ears on a flight however the duck will you cope? She is PREPOSTEROUS.
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My heart bleeping bleeds.
 
Imagine being in a position to be boarding a flight to Tuscany and you're so spoiled and pathetic that you post a story crying about your ears hurting on the plane. Absolute ick and a half.
 
jaggedlittlebill said:
Sorry but this made me lol. She's VERY UNWELL but lying in bed fully clothed with a full face of slap including eyeshadow and lipstick 🤣 also stop being so bleeping dramatic, apparently getting on a flight with a cold is "absolutely terrifying" jesus christ woman there are people dying in warzones but you're crying about having blocked ears on a flight however the duck will you cope? She is PREPOSTEROUS.
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You read my mind! I was totally in disbelief of the amount of make up and grandmas sparkly jumper in bed!
Honestly I think she should be celebrating that it looks likely she and BOTW are going to actually make it to the holiday, I was expecting a breakup by now.

also the cheap second hand coats looked old and second hand. Good for that price, but they looked beat up. I think we all know why Anna didn't want her mum buying herself something nice.
 
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