TheLongMum #3 Life couldn't be harder, I ponder from Lake Garda...

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Nixen said:
Why can’t she work full time? She bleeping hates her kids anyway. Just let them live with their dad and be done with it. Ahhh but then she wouldn’t get any maintenance or as many benefits… good to know they’re handy for something eh
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I think that’s unfair. Regardless of what she says I’m sure she doesn’t want to put them in before/after school childcare every day and miss that time with them.
Work should be more flexible. The 9-5, 5 day week is not doable for everyone and that’s ok.
 
I don’t Understand why if she’s soooo qualified she can’t get a ‘simple’ data entry job. I handed my notice in and got offered an interview and job the next day (for part time admin work) are the hours I do ideal for my situation. No. Do I make it work. Yes. the key thing is she doesn’t WANT to work. So consistently finds excuses. Oh they’re not flexible. Oh I want hybrid working. Unfortunately when you’re looking for job you’re the one that has to be flexible and prove yourself. Then in time you can start asking for flexibility from the company.
 
So she's moaning about not being offered flexible work by the job centre, but she's had so much time to find something herself. I don't really believe that part time admin work is that hard to find tbh, loads of jobs come up in schools which would be term time only, or there's temp work, and like Anna says, she's very employable on paper.

She just can't be arsed and is bitter about her insta career not taking off.
 
She's just so low effort with everything except preening herself.

If she wanted to really make a go of her instagram she should have used this time when C was in nursery to really drive it.
Grind out content, snip the snarky attitude and build up her space.

But she hasn't. She's left everything to the last minute and is now taking issue she can't pick and choose roles because C has grown past the magical age of no questions asked with DWP.

She could have found a part time admin role in the meantime if she wanted but she's waited until the absolute 11th hour and now it's too late. I got one of those roles and it was great, but I went back to work when my kid was 11 months old. It was a balance.

She wants everything for the minimal amount of effort or input from her and it just doesn't work like that.
 
It must really sting knowing she had a chance at real success with her insta and because of her own laziness and lack of effort it's failed and she's going to end up back in the real world doing an entry level office job and probably spiralling into depression, as a direct result of her own actions (or lack thereof). I'd kill for the insta gig, imagine being able to work so flexibly! It's the bloody dream. She had it on a plate.
 
JellyDonut said:
She honestly thinks she is far too good or important for the job centre or having to work. She is a lazy entitled stuck up witch who thinks the world owes her a living.
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This!!
stuck up witch sums her up perfectly. Does she hear herself?! I liked anna,quite liked some of her ads, like her fashion but my god she’s got no drive, she’s a lazy witch. She needs to be made to bleeping do anything she’s had enough time to find her own job. When I think of my own sister, got herself an awesome job,fits In with school, works her arse to bone for her kids and I see bleeping anna preening her bleeping hair.
 
What is all this mental load bullshit again? I'm a solo parent (so no involvement from my kids dad whatsoever) and I don't lay about the house complaining about my mental load...? Does she mean like being the only parent who sorts appointments, booking clubs, docs appts etc? Because honestly welcome to the real world babe. Even when my kids dad was involved, he never did any of that tit. And it's not exactly hard. This woman has got a shock coming when she gets one of those really easy data entry roles she's massively overqualified for, and discovers she can't do it because she can't get her tit together.
 
jaggedlittlebill said:
What is all this mental load bullshit again? I'm a solo parent (so no involvement from my kids dad whatsoever) and I don't lay about the house complaining about my mental load...? Does she mean like being the only parent who sorts appointments, booking clubs, docs appts etc? Because honestly welcome to the real world babe. Even when my kids dad was involved, he never did any of that tit. And it's not exactly hard. This woman has got a shock coming when she gets one of those really easy data entry roles she's massively overqualified for, and discovers she can't do it because she can't get her tit together.
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Fellow single parent here. Just because it’s what a lot of women deal with it doesn't mean it’s ok and we all have to suck it up. It means quite the opposite.
 
jaggedlittlebill said:
What is all this mental load bullshit again? I'm a solo parent (so no involvement from my kids dad whatsoever) and I don't lay about the house complaining about my mental load...? Does she mean like being the only parent who sorts appointments, booking clubs, docs appts etc? Because honestly welcome to the real world babe. Even when my kids dad was involved, he never did any of that tit. And it's not exactly hard. This woman has got a shock coming when she gets one of those really easy data entry roles she's massively overqualified for, and discovers she can't do it because she can't get her tit together.
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I am completely sympathetic with people struggling to balance parenting, running a house alone and full time work. I do it and sometimes it's a bloody slog.
However Anna has more than enough time to manage her mental load, at least half a week of it childfree, and jobless. If I didn't have my full time job thrown in I would probably be able to manage my mental load just fine 🙃
 
b20212017 said:
Fellow single parent here. Just because it’s what a lot of women deal with it doesn't mean it’s ok and we all have to suck it up. It means quite the opposite.
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She has more than enough time to get things done, with plenty left over for shopping, pampering, trips up north etc. I won't feel sorry for a woman who makes a mockery of the actual slog most women face.
 
jaggedlittlebill said:
She has more than enough time to get things done, with plenty left over for shopping, pampering, trips up north etc. I won't feel sorry for a woman who makes a mockery of the actual slog most women face.
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At no point did I mention Annas mental load or what she does /doesn’t have to cope or deal with. My post was specially (and quite clearly) about the dismissal of the mental load as a concept.
 
b20212017 said:
I think that’s unfair. Regardless of what she says I’m sure she doesn’t want to put them in before/after school childcare every day and miss that time with them.
Work should be more flexible. The 9-5, 5 day week is not doable for everyone and that’s ok.
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What makes you think she would care about them going to breakfast club or after school club? She’d be thrilled. She takes no joy in those children.
 
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