TheLongMum #3 Life couldn't be harder, I ponder from Lake Garda...

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JellyDonut said:
The fact that she is a sInGlE pArEnT means she cannot possibly have a job, nobody has ever been a single parent and worked before didn’t you know? Anna has it harder than anyone. She needs as much time as possible to have her Invisalign appointments/Botox/fillers/nails/hair/chazza shop hauls/wanking/date nights
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OF COURSE I'm so sorry your relationship didn't work out Anna, let the state pay for you forever in compensation
 
These days I’m fairly punctual (I wasn’t always) but I used to hate it when I’ve struggled to get somewhere on time for whatever reason completely unconnected to the person I am meeting and then the person has told me that my lateness is because I disrespect them, and made it about them.
No late person is just sat at home thinking yeah I could be on time but duck them, I’m going to sit here and make them wait…
when I was a kid my mum was often late. For example she finished work with enough time to get to my school at finish time with 5 mins leeway and sometimes she’d be an hour late picking me up (yes the teachers hated it) because she’d decided to go to the supermarket first. It was often a prioritisation issue- eg if there was something to clean eg some washing up and someone waiting for her to pick them up she’d need to clean first. Sometime I’d need to be somewhere and she’d be filling a mop bucket because it’ll only take her a minute to do the floors and they’ll dry while we’re out 😂
Back when I was a teenager it annoyed me, but everything annoyed me, as an adult I can see it’s not about me, it’s her problem.
She lives a fair way away so I don’t arrange to meet her at specific times anyway so it’s not really a problem now, it’s more she’s visiting on x day and expects to arrive within this time window, and is normally here 30 mins after she said she’d be. If she was closer I wouldn’t be arranging to do things at certain times or if I was I’d be telling her to meet me earlier, or I’d meet her at hers so I could say no, we don’t have time to mop the floors, no leave that mug till later, we need to leave…
Basically this is a long way of saying if someone is late it’s generally not about you or a conscious choice, and if you do have a constantly late person in your life and you’re not adjusting your expectations then you’re only winding yourself up.
I’d say those stories today again show a lack of coping skills.
 
From what I remember from being on jobseekers/UC don't they start offering you any old job at this point and you have to accept it otherwise they stop your benefits? I'm just trying to imagine how that will go down.. 🤪 I might be wrong. But they offered me shifts at a pork pie factory and believe me I've never got my ass in gear faster
 
jaggedlittlebill said:
From what I remember from being on jobseekers/UC don't they start offering you any old job at this point and you have to accept it otherwise they stop your benefits? I'm just trying to imagine how that will go down.. 🤪 I might be wrong. But they offered me shifts at a pork pie factory and believe me I've never got my ass in gear faster
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I think (and I could be wrong) because she’s ‘technically’ working (as the worlds worst influencer) the process may be different
 
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I’m sure she could manage working in waitrose again or even working in a coffee shop, then she would probably get the pastries she is always buying for free
 
I know it might sound mean but I'm really glad they're on her case about getting a job. Too bleeping right her "self employment" isn't gainful, she's made about a grand in the last 2 years. She seems remarkably chirpy in her last story considering she's been told to get a job immediately, which makes me think her head is firmly buried in the sand and she probably thinks they won't follow up with their threat if she bats her eyelashes and cries a bit.
 
She cannot be surprised about this. She makes next to zero effort with it, she's awkward and sarcy in her commentary and presentation and does duck all but moan the majority of the time.

And she was making a decent living off it last year while dodging her bills and swanning off on holiday on her followers dime?
She's an absolute fraud.
 
I don’t think she’s too worried. She will just claim she has poor mental health and that’s why she can’t possibly be expected to work (no shade at those who genuinely do, but Anna just seems lazy and entitled to me).

Maybe she is convinced that her knight in shining armour (and a fat bank balance) will appear any moment now, or that brands are suddenly going to love hher and want to gift her loads of free products and pay her millions to advertise for them 🙄

She worked in Waitrose before maternity leave with Cicely I think it was. She has claimed many times since that it was awful and she hated it and would never go back. Probably because they made her do actual work.
 
I’ve just done a UC claim with a client who was working social media as their main job, but work has slowed down massively and they have some mental health stuff going on.
UC are showing no mercy. Basically their argument is that if my client can spend hours posting stuff on social media and creating media etc, they can do basic office admin or work that can be done remotely aka phone or online work. It’s also been suggested that some voluntary work to build up some new skills that might be helpful for paid work is going to be expected.
And this is with full GP support saying that their mental health is a bit of a mess at the moment and being off work with limited capacity for work is what the GP supports. We have some money being granted but she’s got to look for work she can do and is going to be followed up on and expected to be showing willing.

We were told to make sure her social media will be checked (this was by an advocate we’ve been getting advice from about the process) because they know people are stupid, take the p and claim they can’t work then share pics of themselves on holiday/at the pub/selling stuff to make money…

UC won’t take kindly to Anna swanning around buying tacky furniture and flogging wine whilst claiming she can’t work.

She’s in for a bit of a shock.
 
IAlreadyDespiseYou said:
We were told to make sure her social media will be checked (this was by an advocate we’ve been getting advice from about the process) because they know people are stupid, take the p and claim they can’t work then share pics of themselves on holiday/at the pub/selling stuff to make money…

UC won’t take kindly to Anna swanning around buying tacky furniture and flogging wine whilst claiming she can’t work.

She’s in for a bit of a shock.
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If they're checking her social media she's FUCKED. She's living the life of riley on government money. I feel sorry for people who would genuinely struggle to work but we all know Anna's just lazy. She's perfectly capable of spending all day shopping, therefore she's capable of working.
 
IAlreadyDespiseYou said:
I’ve just done a UC claim with a client who was working social media as their main job, but work has slowed down massively and they have some mental health stuff going on.
UC are showing no mercy. Basically their argument is that if my client can spend hours posting stuff on social media and creating media etc, they can do basic office admin or work that can be done remotely aka phone or online work. It’s also been suggested that some voluntary work to build up some new skills that might be helpful for paid work is going to be expected.
And this is with full GP support saying that their mental health is a bit of a mess at the moment and being off work with limited capacity for work is what the GP supports. We have some money being granted but she’s got to look for work she can do and is going to be followed up on and expected to be showing willing.

We were told to make sure her social media will be checked (this was by an advocate we’ve been getting advice from about the process) because they know people are stupid, take the p and claim they can’t work then share pics of themselves on holiday/at the pub/selling stuff to make money…

UC won’t take kindly to Anna swanning around buying tacky furniture and flogging wine whilst claiming she can’t work.

She’s in for a bit of a shock.
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Would you mind me asking how much this person gets in monetary support? I would love to know what Anna receives as nails/Botox/lip filler is very expensive and I do wonder how much she does have left over to spend on her girls. If any at all. She doesn’t really mention buying them new clothes or shoes.
 
So basically, she will get more benefits but be pushed harder to find work/decently paid work. Maybe I’m reading it wrong, I’ve been up since 4am lol
 
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