The.Yes.Life Abi Jenkins

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gummy-bear said:
I totally agree with this. She is drip feeding followers, dangling the carrot like she did with the ‘missing 48 hours’ video - when in reality the only thing that happened here was that Erin became severely distressed and had to be sedated a few times.
I am all for raising awareness but I also think a line is being crossed here from awareness to grief voyeurism. Is it really in anyone’s best interest to know intimate details about Erin in her last 24 hours?

She reminds me of the typical know it all, I’m right you’re wrong character you’d end up with as a colleague. Not actually that smart but thinks they know best on any topic. I reckon she’s absolutely exhausting to be around and likes the sound of her voice a little too much!
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Totally agree, it’s grief tourism and I’d go so far to say she’s exploiting Erin. Like you say, dangling a carrot to keep those followers hooked. Poor Erin, she was so genuine and straightforward too.

We’ll know she reads here if she changes her pyjamas 😂
 
The grief tourism is gross but not unexpected. This is one of the problems around social media and sharing so much of your life to your followers. These parasocial relationships that form can be quite creepy and boundaries get blurred. Scrolling TT yesterday I happened across an account that has made a tribute post to Erin, using photos and screenshots taken from her account, set to mawkish music. I hate things like that, it becomes like a competition to show who is the most upset or the biggest fan.
 
It may be a controversial opinion but I don’t think Erin’s story is for Abi to tell. What Erin has shared so far was her choice and is enough to raise awareness. Abi doesn’t need to keep using Erin because that just comes across as exploitation. It’s not Abi’s story to tell or share with millions about what happened in Erin’s last 24 hours etc. Erin deserves some dignity and respect and something should be kept private. We understand that it was a very distressing situation for her and it shows how cruel cancer can be but describing her pain and feelings in detail is utterly necessary. I don’t understand how that would benefit anyone?!
 
maytoseptember said:
The grief tourism is gross but not unexpected. This is one of the problems around social media and sharing so much of your life to your followers. These parasocial relationships that form can be quite creepy and boundaries get blurred. Scrolling TT yesterday I happened across an account that has made a tribute post to Erin, using photos and screenshots taken from her account, set to mawkish music. I hate things like that, it becomes like a competition to show who is the most upset or the biggest fan.
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100%, but I think Abi is being a grief tourist as much as anyone else. It’s those blurred lines that have shocked me a bit about Abi saying anyone can go to the funeral - she has no idea who she’s talking to and while most would be well intentioned, it could also be a problem
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Italy2 said:
It may be a controversial opinion but I don’t think Erin’s story is for Abi to tell. What Erin has shared so far was her choice and is enough to raise awareness. Abi doesn’t need to keep using Erin because that just comes across as exploitation. It’s not Abi’s story to tell or share with millions about what happened in Erin’s last 24 hours etc. Erin deserves some dignity and respect and something should be kept private. We understand that it was a very distressing situation for her and it shows how cruel cancer can be but describing her pain and feelings in detail is utterly necessary. I don’t understand how that would benefit anyone?!
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So other people won’t be alarmed if it happens to them is I think what she said last night. But I bet no two patients/families would be the same! I don’t think it’s her story to tell either
 
Notafarm said:
She definitely reads here. She mentioned on a live she was been compared to as Tom Moore's daughter.. I've not seen any articles or comments comparing them. It was discussed on tattle though 👀

She is a strange character
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I also believe she reads here too. She mentioned something in her latest video about “those of you who are worried i’ve been in the same pyjamas for 4 days”.
 
Italy2 said:
It may be a controversial opinion but I don’t think Erin’s story is for Abi to tell. What Erin has shared so far was her choice and is enough to raise awareness. Abi doesn’t need to keep using Erin because that just comes across as exploitation. It’s not Abi’s story to tell or share with millions about what happened in Erin’s last 24 hours etc. Erin deserves some dignity and respect and something should be kept private. We understand that it was a very distressing situation for her and it shows how cruel cancer can be but describing her pain and feelings in detail is utterly necessary. I don’t understand how that would benefit anyone?!
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I agree. I think they have shown the reality of palliative care at home, but Abi is just keeping herself in the spotlight. It’s all about her now. I don’t even know why she is still at the house. Especially if Erin’s eldest is at home with her husband. It wouldn’t surprise if Dan would be glad to see the back of her. I don’t think Harley should be hearing her making TikToks and doing lives talking about his mother.
 
Noooooo - she used Erin’s mascara?? I’m sorry but that’s weird af! She’s already married Erin’s ex and is taking on her son, now using her makeup. What’s next, squeezing her fat ass into Erin’s clothes?
She’s an incredibly strange woman! It’s almost as though she’s trying to take over Erin’s life and replace her.
 
Ellerose said:
Noooooo - she used Erin’s mascara?? I’m sorry but that’s weird af! She’s already married Erin’s ex and is taking on her son, now using her makeup. What’s next, squeezing her fat ass into Erin’s clothes?
She’s an incredibly strange woman! It’s almost as though she’s trying to take over Erin’s life and replace her.
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Yep, just rewatched it - she says "I borrrowed her mascara"
 
She has put funerals on her open FB page. Them poor boys they don't need their mum's funeral turned in to a show for strangers. Why isn't Erin's blood family stopping this, and raising safe guarding issues. Who invites tiktok followers to a funeral of someone they don't even know!
Abi is demented!
This could turn out like them crazy Facebook parties back in the day!

Absolutely awful as days go by you can see she don't miss Erin.. more like couldn't see the back of her so she can get begging off the back of the boys tragic starts to their lives!

Abi you woman if your reading this you are a complete wrongun and I can't wait for everyone to turn on you! Cos it's coming
 
SmugglerJess said:
She has put funerals on her open FB page. Them poor boys they don't need their mum's funeral turned in to a show for strangers. Why isn't Erin's blood family stopping this, and raising safe guarding issues. Who invites tiktok followers to a funeral of someone they don't even know!
Abi is demented!
This could turn out like them crazy Facebook parties back in the day!

Absolutely awful as days go by you can see she don't miss Erin.. more like couldn't see the back of her so she can get begging off the back of the boys tragic starts to their lives!

Abi you woman if your reading this you are a complete wrongun and I can't wait for everyone to turn on you! Cos it's coming
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Oh yes, I found it. Her profile also says that she is a ‘digital creator’. The only thing she is creative with is the truth. At least the donations are going to the funeral director, but will she make her TikTok followers aware of that.
 
maytoseptember said:
Well the thing about funeral etiquette is you don’t send invites, right? It’s not the done thing to turn people away either. But actually saying it’s OK for internet randoms to attend is wrong. Most would say it’s a private family funeral and not publicise when it’s happening.
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Exactly... Especially the woman who has been trusted to protect and support the to brothers 😞
 
Shaunthesheep80 said:
What are Abi's various social handles??
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