The Nurse Mum #15 not to be confused with Distracting Kaytee

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‘Make up therapy’ how about spending however much those headphones cost on actual therapy?!

It always annoys me when people say ‘xyz is my therapy’, because if you need therapy, nothing is going to work until you get it, get uncomfortable, and do some work on yourself
 
Jane Porcupine said:
Just caught up with her stories about therapy. So the therapy is wrong and she doesn't want to do it because it will be too difficult for her and she doesn't want to take her antidepressants because they make her nauseous. What a surprise. 🙄
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Of course it’s difficult! I think she likes the idea of someone listening to her talk about herself for an hour and I’m sure she could pay to have that sort of therapy but there’s no ‘talking therapy’ on the NHS.

The loss of a child will require some really complex treatment. I haven’t experienced that but I’ve had therapy in the past and it’s utterly draining. Sorry for the blatant merail but I have been on so, so many different anti-depressants that hadn’t been suitable for various reasons and I’m fine with the one I’m on at the moment - but there are still options. She just does not want to help herself. She couldn’t make it any more obvious that she wants people to give her money without her having to work for it and she wants to offload on the people she expects to give her money (TNM followers) while basically living a different life on the DK account
 
LennyBriscoe said:
Of course it’s difficult! I think she likes the idea of someone listening to her talk about herself for an hour and I’m sure she could pay to have that sort of therapy but there’s no ‘talking therapy’ on the NHS.

The loss of a child will require some really complex treatment. I haven’t experienced that but I’ve had therapy in the past and it’s utterly draining. Sorry for the blatant merail but I have been on so, so many different anti-depressants that hadn’t been suitable for various reasons and I’m fine with the one I’m on at the moment - but there are still options. She just does not want to help herself. She couldn’t make it any more obvious that she wants people to give her money without her having to work for it and she wants to offload on the people she expects to give her money (TNM followers) while basically living a different life on the DK account
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I’m the same as you, have had massive amounts of therapy over the years and antidepressants. Therapy isn’t easy is it, you have to get through the really dreadful stuff to start moving forward. I really struggled with it, but kept going because I know I had no other realistic option, (other than the obvious) I really hate to say, because I haven’t lost a child but she seems to want to play the grieving mother for the rest of her life. I know that’s mean though 😞
 
Mumof3 said:
I really hate to say, because I haven’t lost a child but she seems to want to play the grieving mother for the rest of her life. I know that’s mean though 😞
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Totally this. I follow another account and she’s just been through a horrific traumatic birth, nearly died herself and actually lost on of her babies. She has made some brief references to what happened but mostly her account is really positive, all about coming back fighting, stronger than ever… complete opposite end of the scale
 
Mumof3 said:
I really hate to say, because I haven’t lost a child but she seems to want to play the grieving mother for the rest of her life. I know that’s mean though 😞
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I kind of get this in a way tho. Grieving him is how she gets to love him now, and she doesn’t want to let go of that. It’s how she gets to be Jaxon’s mum.

As well as that, with Kaytee everything is bigger. If we look back to his life she was more tired than anyone else, more put upon, more alone. He woke more times then anyone else, he vomited more, his feeding and ‘meds’ were harder then other tube fed kids, everything was so much more difficult to manage… so yeah it follows that the Kaytees grief is so huge, so big, so all encompassing and so very difficult to ‘treat’.
 
Bunbun1 said:
I kind of get this in a way tho. Grieving him is how she gets to love him now, and she doesn’t want to let go of that. It’s how she gets to be Jaxon’s mum.

As well as that, with Kaytee everything is bigger. If we look back to his life she was more tired than anyone else, more put upon, more alone. He woke more times then anyone else, he vomited more, his feeding and ‘meds’ were harder then other tube fed kids, everything was so much more difficult to manage… so yeah it follows that the Kaytees grief is so huge, so big, so all encompassing and so very difficult to ‘treat’.
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I agree with this. I do understand it, and I think I’d be the same tbh. If anything ever happened to my kids is never ever get over it.
 
I don’t get why her girlfriend has come to visit. She’s mowing the lawn, building a bed and painting. She might enjoy it, but if it were me I’d not be that person! Couldn’t think of anything worse than all the travelling she did to then not get picked up from the airport to arrive and have jobs to do.
 
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