Thank you for the encouragement! When my husband got up, I went over my plan and he agreed with it. I called the surgical group, explained our situation, they got him an appointment for tomorrow at 10:15 a.m.! They said it was a good idea to bring him in for a consultation and depending on what is decided, they had one opening for surgery on Wednesday morning. My regular vet and this ER vet group were both called by this surgical group, Merlin's records and all images have been sent, so we're ready to go!
We spent all day with him and came home around 6:00 p.m. He was 100% himself, except he wouldn't/couldn't pee. By 4:00 pm, he still had not urinated, his bladder was getting full and he had to be catheterized again. On top of it, he now has a UTI, which he didn't have until today, possibly due to the excess catheterizations. He finally ate, it was as if someone had given him a few puffs of whacky weed because he had two helpings of food - side effect of the anesthesia, which is great, because he can't eat after 11:00 pm tonight. We could be in much worse shape (not that I'm tempting the gods!).
I'm the type of person who needs to constantly move forward - I'm not controlling, but I can't sit idle and wait for things to crash around me, particularly when I have good reason to suspect they are going to crash, without a plan A, B, and C. I have to see where I'm going in order to make today a good day. As long as I know what the next step is and can plan for it, I can usually keep moving. So once the appointment for tomorrow was scheduled, I felt lighter and able to move forward. My sweet boy is on his way to relief, whatever that means for him medically.
Thank you all again for your words of encouragement and support. We care about one another here and I am most grateful!