I feel like that is something she would deffo do so I will keep high alert which is awful as why do I have to feel unsafe at work as though someone is out to get you. If someone can have issue with you over nothing then imagine if you actually did have an issue what would she do. She’s already made jokes about sabotaging someone before and I personally won’t be leaving even a drink unattended near her. I’ve also seen her snooping through my work when she’s not my supervisor so shouldn’t be, probably trying to catch me out on something. I don’t know where she makes the time to do that when we are so busy. Just exhausting why I must stay so vigilant, it’s draining. Also I don’t need her to like me, but you would at least not make it obvious that you dislike someone for not reason at work and be civil. And not including someone at work is a form of hostile behaviour though
Have you confronted her or put her in her place?
“you seem uncomfortable with that suggestion, would you like to explain why?”
“I’m not getting positive vibes about that but I’d love to understand a different perspective if you don’t mind sharing?”
“it feels as though you’re not on board with that idea, if really love to hear an alternative solution”
Or straight up..
“I think that was a valuable contribution but your response is saying you don’t agree. Can you explain”
“I’d rather you looked at me when you were addressing me to avoid confusion”
“Please don’t interrupt me when I’m speaking, when I’m finished you’ll know because I’ll ask for a response”
“It would help if you looked at me and addressed me by my name to avoid confusion”
If you want to point it out to the group…
“I’d really like to put my thoughts out for consideration but I feel like you’re undermining me, is there a reason for that?”
“Excuse me, I’d like to make my contribution and I’d appreciate it if you’d let me speak without patronising me. You can respond when I’m finished“
“I noticed you rolled your eyes, do you disagree?”
“I’d appreciate it if you could let me speak without being dismissive before I’ve finished.”
“I’d really like to understand why you’re not prepared to consider that?”
I’m the most generic version of a small, average, white, blonde so have never experienced racism but as that person I’ve experienced a lot of arseholes and judgmental people. I suspect this person is just a
witch. However, being a POC is a protected characteristic so if you feel it’s a motivator for that person or if you just want to challenge them on it and think you can prove it, You can absolutely screw them over for it if you want to.
“I often feel as though you show outward diarespect toward me and I can’t help but wonder if it’s my skin colour that motivates that?”
Bullies deserve to be challenged and outed.
It really does feel like cheating sometimes
he doesn’t want filler stuff as he says it’s more clutter for others to clear when he dies (cheery I know!) I’m thinking maybe something to make his time there more comfortable/enjoyable, or maybe something to pass the time? Help!