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get your wine and popcorn ladies it's kicking off again
 
Charlie is setting up for this weekends drama

Scapier88 said:
View attachment 431743get your wine and popcorn ladies it's kicking off again
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Why’s yours bigger than mine?!

Georgethecat said:
Tbh Charlotte would probably find it hard to find work, but if she did she would qualify for 80% back of childcare costs via universal credit I think there are similar options if she was to go back to studying.

The Charlie and brett saga continues, Charlie's posted a screen shot of Brett saying he won't help her get Harlow in a routine after her stories of struggling to get Harlow to bed at night. She's probably ready for a toddler bed now, my wee one was over the cot by that age and then done really well in his 'big boy bed' was excited for bedtime every night, bless.
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Would Charlotte even try? Isn’t she classed as her mums carer still? I’m just thinking maybe with her getting possibly carers allowance for being her mums carer it might put her off going to work.
 

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Like Charlie said when Brett had troubles with her climbing out of her cot, she’s basically his problem when he has Harlow. Brett has her 1 or 2 night a week I very much doubt it’s going to make a difference to Harlows routine it’s Charlie that needs to do a routine as Harlow resides with her most of the week.
 
But In her defence, she’s not asking for him to come help, she’s asking for them to work together to give her a consistent routine. It’s a fair request and would benefit both parents and little Harlow in the long run


Trace said:
Like Charlie said when Brett had troubles with her climbing out of her cot, she’s basically his problem when he has Harlow. Brett has her 1 or 2 night a week I very much doubt it’s going to make a difference to Harlows routine it’s Charlie that needs to do a routine as Harlow resides with her most of the week.
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I’m not in the Brett fan club so don’t come after me. But I think Charlie’s post is really immature. It has no reason to be shared, it’s a convo between them two as parents. I agree with Brett when he was having trouble she basically fucked him off and didn’t want to help but now it’s affecting her she wants help from him. I think she’s genuinely caused him that much grief that he just doesn’t want to speak to her anymore, he seems in a really bad place at the moment and it’s probably just making it worse. Especially putting it on Instagram! No wonder he doesn’t want to have a convo with her he’s probably sick of them getting plasted all over. I also feel like everything that has happened with Mia has made Charlie want a bit more attention and join in with the whole baby daddy drama
 
I agree with both sides, Charlie is petty posting that, and she did duck him off re the cot situation when he was banging meth. Should keep it private between them, olly has posted a video of Harlow looking for him at Charlie's when he's obviously away back to base after being at Charlie's during the week. So it's hardly Bretts routine that's affecting Harlow - she's gotten used to Oliver being around, is now playing up and looking for him. She's just going though a phase of not sleeping as well as Oliver being away, maybe she's having a developmental leap and learning a new skill, growth spurt, all these things can affect kids sleep patterns! If Charlie sticks to her routine Harlow will soon adapt and be back to being a good sleeper. Do we know if Brett moved out of janes? As that will be another change in her life that will affect her, but things will calm down and she will settle back into it so no need for Charlie to be calling Brett out on basically nothing.
 
Blondeangel2515 said:
Charlie is setting up for this weekends drama


Why’s yours bigger than mine?!


Would Charlotte even try? Isn’t she classed as her mums carer still? I’m just thinking maybe with her getting possibly carers allowance for being her mums carer it might put her off going to work.
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They said on the girls birthday live taht her sister is her carer.theres plenty of covid safe jobs she could get and if they were that worried they'd be shielding not going to basildon walking around bnm and when clothes shops open going to them and parks etc lots of mums to little ones dont work,benefits are clearly helping her stay at home.its a joke
 
xoxo GG said:
One night out of a routine for a kid can definitely be a deal breaker. It isn’t out of order to ask to work together to find something that works for them all over just expecting him to follow something that may not work for him
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I work evenings/nights in a NHS front line role, if my kids dad didn’t work with me on routine, bedtime would be a nightmare. They both need to grow the duck up. At the minute, they are all about one upping the other.
 
keytotruth said:
They said on the girls birthday live taht her sister is her carer.theres plenty of covid safe jobs she could get and if they were that worried they'd be shielding not going to basildon walking around bnm and when clothes shops open going to them and parks etc lots of mums to little ones dont work,benefits are clearly helping her stay at home.its a joke
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i work 37 hours a week and have a child. I get UC too but actually I’m no better off working financially. Before I was working I had no childcare to pay for, but now it makes me sick the cost of nursery’s 😂😂 I just know that if I was at home 24/7 with my almost 4 year old We would both be going crazy 😂😂 i think it’s more appealing to some people the fact that you get practically the same amount to do nothing..
 
I can completely understand Charlie asking Bret to work together considering Harlow isn’t sleeping and Brett only has to deal with it twice a week or once considering friday is janes night 🙄 my 3 year old has to go to her dads everyother weekend and he used to just let her go to sleep whenever and it used to take over a week for her to get back into a routine to just be back out of it again the following week so we had to work together which all coparents should do.. however Charlie shouldnt of posted the screenshot of the messages it’s not appropriate and it’s looks petty..like look at me I’m trying so hard and he’s just being a prick.. which he is but still it doesn’t need to be blasted all over social media! Think they both need to grow up and do what’s best for Harlow and stop trying to score points.
 
Theboredone94 said:
I can completely understand Charlie asking Bret to work together considering Harlow isn’t sleeping and Brett only has to deal with it twice a week or once considering friday is janes night 🙄 my 3 year old has to go to her dads everyother weekend and he used to just let her go to sleep whenever and it used to take over a week for her to get back into a routine to just be back out of it again the following week so we had to work together which all coparents should do.. however Charlie shouldnt of posted the screenshot of the messages it’s not appropriate and it’s looks petty..like look at me I’m trying so hard and he’s just being a prick.. which he is but still it doesn’t need to be blasted all over social media! Think they both need to grow up and do what’s best for Harlow and stop trying to score points.
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i think charlie was being so mature asking him to work together and putting any bad feelings she may have towards him aside for the sake of their daughter having a consistent life at both parents houses - shame brett couldn't provide his daughter with the same courtesy isn't it

quick edit though i agree with you on she shouldn't have posted it, that was not needed at all

Wetmyplants said:
I work evenings/nights in a NHS front line role, if my kids dad didn’t work with me on routine, bedtime would be a nightmare. They both need to grow the duck up. At the minute, they are all about one upping the other.
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just want to say thanks for all the work you're doing, with an experience tonight with an infant and a hospital so very thankful for all the work people like you are doing x
 
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Secrettttts said:
i work 37 hours a week and have a child. I get UC too but actually I’m no better off working financially. Before I was working I had no childcare to pay for, but now it makes me sick the cost of nursery’s 😂😂 I just know that if I was at home 24/7 with my almost 4 year old We would both be going crazy 😂😂 i think it’s more appealing to some people the fact that you get practically the same amount to do nothing..
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I work too I know what its like I would i think be better off bot working but I couldn't do it I dont know how she does.i do get both sides but benefits must be enough with twins to stay home
 
I see in Brett a lot of what I saw in my ex who was mentally unwell. They take everything as a personal attack, he won’t be reading it as “let’s work together”, he’ll see it as an attack on his parenting. I agree one night out of routine can totally ruin it for the rest of the week, especially at Harlows age. I go hell bent on my MIL if she doesn’t put my son down for his afternoon nap. It really does throw them off for days and days.

However? Like someone has said, Harlow has been climbing out of her cot and if is restless at night too, that is usually a sign she’s ready for a bed now so they should try different routes before being argumentative with eachother. She could just say “I’m going to try and get Harlow into a cot bed now so if when you have her, you could follow a similar routine ready to transition her into one at your house too, please.” and Brett can still be blunt but polite and just simply say “Of course.”

They’re both too eager to get one up on eachother. They both need to breatheeeeee.
 
justheretonamedrop said:
I see in Brett a lot of what I saw in my ex who was mentally unwell. They take everything as a personal attack, he won’t be reading it as “let’s work together”, he’ll see it as an attack on his parenting. I agree one night out of routine can totally ruin it for the rest of the week, especially at Harlows age. I go hell bent on my MIL if she doesn’t put my son down for his afternoon nap. It really does throw them off for days and days.

However? Like someone has said, Harlow has been climbing out of her cot and if is restless at night too, that is usually a sign she’s ready for a bed now so they should try different routes before being argumentative with eachother. She could just say “I’m going to try and get Harlow into a cot bed now so if when you have her, you could follow a similar routine ready to transition her into one at your house too, please.” and Brett can still be blunt but polite and just simply say “Of course.”

They’re both too eager to get one up on eachother. They both need to breatheeeeee.
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can i just say i'm really glad you posted this because the top part was something i hadn't considered at all. so now i can be more considerate towards it in the future x
 
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