Teen Mom UK #35

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I’m assuming her landlord is an idiot who doesn’t pay to have gas safety checks? I’m sure they’re meant to be done once a year when renting to someone? And they should’ve provided those types of alarms the same as they provide and check fire alarms? Judging by the state of the property whoever owns it doesn’t care.

Edit- just looked online if a landlord doesn’t provide the person renting with a gas safety certificate and have the yearly checks done then they can be fined £6000 or get 6 months in prison. It’s taken seriously! I hope she isn’t renting from them anymore ffs
It’s a legal requirement to have both fire and carbon monoxide alarms installed in all rented premises. They’ll also need a yearly gas check with a certificate you must have a copy of as well as the landlord getting a copy
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Sorry just seen your edit
 
Found it weird and unfair of sassi to go on to zenaya about missing her when she goes on holiday and to then say about her heart beating in a different place to hers???!! Talk about mess a childs head up and make her feel guilty for going away?! She should be bigging up the holiday and making it exciting for her not putting sad thoughts into her young head! And amber is always going through something but its things she could sort for herself too, she seems to enjoy being lazy and sitting around in sadness, if she had more motivation she could change so much about her life. Also being a mother who had no choice but to live in a hostel for many months with my child, it did strike a nerve to see amber say silly things like ‘beth might want us to go and we will be on the streets’ okay but you wouldnt though amber because 1 you have a car, absolute worst case youd have to live in it, 2 you have family and friends, 3 mtv would not see you lot on the literal streets and 4 the COUNCIL WOULD GIVE YOU A HOTEL/HOSTEL. She just always seems so depressing and dramatic she would drain me
Am I missing something with this opinion. I don’t get why it’s seen as manipulation to say you’ll miss your child. That’s her mum, she’s gonna miss her. I think it’s good for a child’s self esteem to know they’re loved and that they’ll be missed? I thought you were the same person from the last thread so it’s more than one person holding this view lol. She asked if she was excited etc beforehand I’m sure anyway?
 
I know all kids play up, but both Brooklyn and Hudson just seem particularly difficult? Tantrums etc... also Hudson has a dummy in 24/7 just like Brooklyn did.

Extended dummy use IS often a sign of SEN though. People keep saying they don’t have ADHD but Ste has a diagnosis and ND conditions are more often than not passed on - one look at my family to know this.

I have children with ADHD and autism so I know this. But also, two of my girls with a dx were extended dummy users and neither was / is poorly behaved. In fact, they are placid. I think if they had been boys, maybe they wouldn’t be so easy.

I think that boys with ND conditions can be very hard work when young. ND Girls often present differently. My cousin has two boys (one is ND) and their mum suffered from quite severe depression when they were little and she had a husband! And they are both highly educated professionals.

So it’s easy to say Amber is lazy etc but we only get a snapshot of how things are. She is worn down because she is surrounded by selfish people who should be there for her but they aren’t. I would go crazy if I were in her shoes.
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Am I missing something with this opinion. I don’t get why it’s seen as manipulation to say you’ll miss your child. That’s her mum, she’s gonna miss her. I think it’s good for a child’s self esteem to know they’re loved and that they’ll be missed? I thought you were the same person from the last thread so it’s more than one person holding this view lol. She asked if she was excited etc beforehand I’m sure anyway?

It’s because it could potentially make Zenaya feel that she’s responsible for her mother’s feelings.
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I’ve always noticed the irony that the children I know who tend to keep their dummy and bottles til they’re much older are always the worst behaved children even when they have the dummy or bottle 🤣 these parents let them keep it to make their lives easier and to try and keep them quiet and it clearly does not work. If they’re misbehaving regardless why not just get rid of all that tit anyway?

That’s really judgmental - my children are very well behaved. And two of them had a dummy longer than I wanted.
 
Am I missing something with this opinion. I don’t get why it’s seen as manipulation to say you’ll miss your child. That’s her mum, she’s gonna miss her. I think it’s good for a child’s self esteem to know they’re loved and that they’ll be missed? I thought you were the same person from the last thread so it’s more than one person holding this view lol. She asked if she was excited etc beforehand I’m sure anyway?
I don’t get it either tbh. Even with Sassi saying that you could see how happy Zenaya was to be going away. Clearly did no harm
 
Amber - Comes across as very lazy but agree she's depressed. Was Ste always this bad as a dad as he seems to have become a terrible father.

Chloe- she doesn't want Jordan away from her because she's worried he will cheat again.

Sassi - Sassi's reactions are just like her mums, it explains everything now. It's a get on with it attitude. Don't know how Sassi can say her mum is her comfort blanket. Feel sorry for her as she seems depressed.

Mia- good news about her dad, olly seemed nice this episode and excited to see Marliya. Surely he can't be a worse influence than Manley.
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Amber - Comes across as very lazy but agree she's depressed. Was Ste always this bad as a dad as he seems to have become a terrible father.

Chloe- she doesn't want Jordan away from her because she's worried he will cheat again.

Sassi - Sassi's reactions are just like her mums, it explains everything now. It's a get on with it attitude. Don't know how Sassi can say her mum is her comfort blanket. Feel sorry for her as she seems depressed.

Mia- good news about her dad, olly seemed nice this episode and excited to see Marliya. Surely he can't be a worse influence than Manley.
 
Amber:
It’s visible Amber is struggling, I just wish someone from MTV would actually intervene and get her proper therapy and help with her boys.The fact the father of her child - who could have been killed would rather get a haircut? Disgusting.
She clearly has no support from her immediate family and possibly not a lot of friends must feel extremely.

Mia: I actually think she’s my favourite. Manley is horrible and immature and treats the mother of his children with complete disrespect. I feel sorry his children sees his attitude.

Sassi: I feel sorry for Sassi. She is clearly lonely and depressed and out of a toxic relationship. Zenaya is the most gorgeous little girl!

Chloe: I feel so sorry and upset for Jordan. Clearly not happy with Chloe. The tattoo with his friends is so lovely!
Just feel like Chloe doesn’t work hard considering all the “goals” she had to be a midwife. It’s disappointing that she went down the influencer route.
 
I still dont understand how Chloe & J got that house with no proper jobs? If MTV pays £5k ish someone said (lets face it the other girls look skint and any plastic surgery is freebies).

Influencers arent paid alot are they for teen mom level fame? £1k ish a post? Or am I wrong

Someone has given them a massive lump of money IMO imagine her dad as part of inheritance planning for his factory business. Wish theyd be honest!! Not s fair comparison to amber and co who are skint
 
Am I missing something with this opinion. I don’t get why it’s seen as manipulation to say you’ll miss your child. That’s her mum, she’s gonna miss her. I think it’s good for a child’s self esteem to know they’re loved and that they’ll be missed? I thought you were the same person from the last thread so it’s more than one person holding this view lol. She asked if she was excited etc beforehand I’m sure anyway?
I understand your view on that but i work with children and have a degree and can tell you for a fact her telling her repeatedly in a more negative tone of voice she will miss her and mentioning how the hearts beat in different places is not good for zenaya and as somebody mentioned will make her feel responsible for her mums feelings. For example she could potentially be on holiday and feel guilt for her mummy being ‘sad’ now and that her choice to go to the holiday and feel excited isnt what her mum would want. She actually didnt verbally reply to sassi about the hearts comment and shrugged her shoulders uncomfortably. A simple change in the tone of voice and language used could of changed the dynamic completely, ‘i cant believe you are going on holiday for a whole week, iam going to miss you but you are going to be having such an amazing time and i cannot wait to hear about it when your back’ for example turns a emotional time into a positive…
 
I still dont understand how Chloe & J got that house with no proper jobs? If MTV pays £5k ish someone said (lets face it the other girls look skint and any plastic surgery is freebies).

Influencers arent paid alot are they for teen mom level fame? £1k ish a post? Or am I wrong

Someone has given them a massive lump of money IMO imagine her dad as part of inheritance planning for his factory business. Wish theyd be honest!! Not s fair comparison to amber and co who are skint
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The same way they got the first house on an 18 year old’s wage as the sole earner
 
I understand your view on that but i work with children and have a degree and can tell you for a fact her telling her repeatedly in a more negative tone of voice she will miss her and mentioning how the hearts beat in different places is not good for zenaya and as somebody mentioned will make her feel responsible for her mums feelings. For example she could potentially be on holiday and feel guilt for her mummy being ‘sad’ now and that her choice to go to the holiday and feel excited isnt what her mum would want. She actually didnt verbally reply to sassi about the hearts comment and shrugged her shoulders uncomfortably. A simple change in the tone of voice and language used could of changed the dynamic completely, ‘i cant believe you are going on holiday for a whole week, iam going to miss you but you are going to be having such an amazing time and i cannot wait to hear about it when your back’ for example turns a emotional time into a positive…

and yes the situation isnt ‘that deep’ but when you put your parenting and situations on a tv show of course it will be met with observations and critisisms, it would appear sassi could be pushing her current struggles and sad feelings onto zenaya, for example if sassi had a boyfriend and was going away with him whilst zenaya was on her holiday, would we be seeing the same sad tone and strange comment regarding distance? Probably not, showing that sassi needs more ability to regulate her emotions
 
I still dont understand how Chloe & J got that house with no proper jobs? If MTV pays £5k ish someone said (lets face it the other girls look skint and any plastic surgery is freebies).

Influencers arent paid alot are they for teen mom level fame? £1k ish a post? Or am I wrong

Someone has given them a massive lump of money IMO imagine her dad as part of inheritance planning for his factory business. Wish theyd be honest!! Not s fair comparison to amber and co who are skint
I think Chloe does get family help of course but I also think she is less extravagant than the other girls, nights out/away seem to be promo’s. She doesn’t holiday as much and I’m sure she always goes to Corfu and stays with an aunt? Her mortgage is probably lower than the other girls rent, she does have an expensive car though so monthly payments for that are probably quite high. Jordan worked up until he became her ‘employee’ and she is the only girl with a 2 income household. She also seems to get better influencing deals than the other girls, Tesco’s, the lingerie thing etc. I think she is just smarter with her money. Jordan will get a fee for the show also.
 
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The same way they got the first house on an 18 year old’s wage as the sole earner

I was going to say the same. Also, the same way Chloe got a brand new Mercedes for her first car.
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I think Chloe does get family help of course but I also think she is less extravagant than the other girls, nights out/away seem to be promo’s.

I’ve seen her with Cartier bracelets on - those aren’t cheap!!
 
I quite agree with the posters talking about Mia and sassi and how they talk to the girls when they’re going with their dads. My opinion might have been quite different a few days ago I’ll admit. I think it’s all in the language and tone, of course it’s ok to tell your child you’ll miss them but saying it in such a negative tone is most definitely going to have an impact. This week my stepchild who lives with us half the time decided randomly he didn’t want to see us anymore. When we got to the bottom of it, it turns out his mum has been saying alsorts that she’s lonely when he’s at his dads, crying all the time to him (she’s just split up with her boyfriend). She basically guilt tripped him for having a family at his dads house who love him and want to spend time with him and it’s severely negatively impacted him and he’s feeling really anxious now and feeling responsible for his mums feelings and wellbeing. We have a similar set up to Darren and sassi and my husband actually said he can see a lot of similarities between sassi and my stepchild’s mum. In our situation she fails to keep my husband informed of things that happen at school on her time. It’s frustrating
 
I’m not denying that Brooklyn and Hudson might have ADHD but that terms gets tossed around sooo much recently. Everyone’s child seems to have ‘adhd’ and it’s used an excuse for their naughty behaviour. Now I am diagnosed ADHD and so is my father, so I get it can run in family’s, but I feel Amber just uses it as an excuse to not discipline. ‘It’s okay, he has adhd’ kind of thing. I still got disciplined by my parents for acting out, I still had consequences. Not an excuse to not parent them. There’s a difference between struggling with symptoms of ADHD and just being plain naughty.
 
I might be in the minority here but I don't agree at all with Beth grabbing Hudson and the way she shouts in his face. That is EXACTLY the behaviour she's telling him off for! No child is naughty, behaviour is communication. His needs are NOT being met which is why he is the way he is.
Amber needs early help intervention, some citalopram, counselling and a parenting course centred around gentle parenting.
No I totally agree with you here. Amber needs boundaries for the boys absolutely but there’s no way Beth should be treating Hudson like that. How are you disciplining a child by behaving exactly as he was, the only difference being that he’s a toddler that’s unable to regulate his emotions and Beth’s an adult that should know better.. not to mention he’s out of his home and completely out of any routine (yes I know there’s not much of one) but he’ll be finding that so difficult. I wholeheartedly believe those boys have additional needs of some kind. Amber is a class I’ve case of generational trauma being passed down, she needs to heal herself before it’s too late for her kids
 
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