Sober Curious tattlers support thread (Dry January and beyond!)

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Prgirl_cesca

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We have had some great monthly threads but let's start a little community moving forwards.

All of us are curious of a sober life and the benefits it brings. This isn't AA and some of us are happy just cutting down booze when others are teetotal or nothing.

But here to support each other 😊😊😊

I feel like having barely drank since January I am finally not even missing the booze. I have some social plans this month and am not even having the will I/won't I debate in my head about drinking anymore.
 
I'm dry (did have a cheap can of pink gin last night tho) and have been for a few years.

I'm not very good at drinking in moderation and i get horrific hangovers.
But the main reason i don't drink is medical. It affects my medication in a way that means 1 night drinking results in 3 days of depression, rage and panic attacks and nobody can be dealing with that 🙄
 
I don't drink either. Alcohol (especially red wine) was a migraine trigger so I don't touch it anymore. I've never been into drinking at home but I really noticed this in the last year - I had friends spending £100+ a month on booze (stocking up on wine, fizz, beers etc) which seemed insane. My hangovers were hellish too, throwing up every time and I just thought nah, this isn't worth it anymore.

I turned 30 this year and people gave me bottles of prosecco and gin etc that I've not touched and my cupboards are full of the stuff! Doubt I'll ever get through it at this rate 😂
 
Pinkpen 84 said:
I need find my “curious” again. April has not been even dry( ish). I’m tired of it now, so I’m joining in guys. Have a lovely weekend everyone 💙❤
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Same.

I was doing very well until April then Easter weekend and birthday celebrations plus lots of Prosecco as gifts meant it all went to pot and I have drank every weekend in april. I have one bottle left which I’m having tonight then I will plan to be dry for the remainder of may. I have no booze in the house and I won’t go and buy it myself so hopefully that’ll be fine, I really got into the groove of it in jan/feb and was loving the fresh mornings. Any social meet ups planned I’ll drive to so no temptation.

to be kind to myself, my try jan app still shows 95 dry days so far this year plus when I have drunk it’s been 1 or 2 glasses rather than 1 bottle each occasion so that’s not too bad compared to last year!
 
Platformcrocs said:
I don't drink either. Alcohol (especially red wine) was a migraine trigger so I don't touch it anymore. I've never been into drinking at home but I really noticed this in the last year - I had friends spending £100+ a month on booze (stocking up on wine, fizz, beers etc) which seemed insane. My hangovers were hellish too, throwing up every time and I just thought nah, this isn't worth it anymore.

I turned 30 this year and people gave me bottles of prosecco and gin etc that I've not touched and my cupboards are full of the stuff! Doubt I'll ever get through it at this rate 😂
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Where do you live? I can take that off your hands? In the interests of your sobriety of course 😆😜 I need to stop drinking but urghhh it’s hard,
 
Gave up last June ahead of some treatment (which didn’t work). Gave myself 3 days “off” for Christmas but mainly had Bucks Fizz so quite light - hit the 10 month mark yesterday 😊 Am planning on having a really lovely bottle of wine at dinner to celebrate our wedding anniversary in August - God help my husband trying to get me home!
People have asked if I feel better for it - can’t say I do although my eyes are brighter and skin better but I don’t “feel” better (maybe due to other medical issues going on).
I definitely didn’t have an issue but I just loved drinking wine....loved it and have had moments of actually salivating daydreaming about wine but am proud of myself (determined b*tch is me 😂)
 
Yay more non drinkers!

I have had alcohol on I think 4 occasions since December 2019 now. Partly I get awful hangovers so it’s just not worth it for me and partly I just really don’t like drunk me!

What do you do in social situations? I’m thinking work pub trips etc. I just avoid as people can get really weird about not drinking and I don’t want to feel like a Debbie Downer sitting in the corner with my Diet Coke 🤣

Very pleased to see there are lots more no/low alcohol options now, I went out on Saturday and had 2 very nice low alcohol cocktails which weren’t a thing before!
 
Tee total here! I've never really drunk, had a couple of phases where I'd have one or two, but I just don't like the way it makes me feel.

I suppose I'm a different kettle of fish, but in answer to the social situations question, I just drink lime and soda, soda water, diet pop etc. I don't really care if people take issue with it, and I'm always honest about why I don't drink - my dad was an alcoholic, and I don't like the way it makes me feel. If it makes them feel uncomfortable, then so be it.

I don't mind people having a drink - each to their own - but really like being around drunk people. It's quite tedious.
 
I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.
 
Lollypad said:
I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.
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I just get a non alcoholic beer and say “haha lightweight these days, would need a nap.” You’re still joining in, just suiting yourself.
 
Lollypad said:
I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.
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Tell them you are on antibiotics or have to drive that night. After they have had a few drinks they won't care what you are drinking.
 
Lollypad said:
I had a couple of days last week where I had a couple of drinks (3 units a day max) as was with friends... and my anxiety ramped right back up again. I'm just not sure I can handle drinking any more, and I'm actually OK with that.
My biggest concern is going for lunches with clients and saying I'm not drinking and how to handle that without looking "boring" or "stuffy"... still working out the details I think.
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I think that if you simply say ‘I will have a soft drink please’, people shouldn’t argue. There are multiple reasons why someone may not drink and you shouldn’t be seen as boring because you don’t want alcohol.

I had a pimms last Saturday with a friend which was my first drink since New Years. She messaged me this morning to say she had booked a table at a pub this evening but I’m unsure whether I will have a drink at the moment.

I have a friend coming over from Ireland next week and a reunion with our friends. Luckily, these friends know it can increase my anxiety and that I’m also on a lot of medication which I probably shouldn’t mix with too much alcohol. So one or two drinks are fine but no more and I’m ok with that.

I feel so much better in myself now that I don’t drink regularly and I don’t miss the stuff at all!
 
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