Sara asiya - misssaraasiya

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Pinkii said:
Hi Sara 👋🏽 , you’re a goldigging witch.

I used to like her, but her staying completely dead silent when her countrymen were literally being slaughtered fighting for their freedom completely put me off her

Now she wants people to raise their voices for palestine!? duck off. Saying people aren’t feminists or care about human rights, where was your bleeping feminist views when women of your country and blood were dying!?

( just to say- people definitely need to speak about Palestine just her stance on it is very hypocritical )
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If you’re talking about the mahsa amini stuff she did speak up?
 
Well if that’s true she should have spoken up more. However, it is still good on her for using her platform to speak up for Palestine. Everyone should, regardless of whether they’ve spoken up about other issues in the past or not.
 
Honeybee1 said:
Well if that’s true she should have spoken up more. However, it is still good on her for using her platform to speak up for Palestine. Everyone should, regardless of whether they’ve spoken up about other issues in the past or not.
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As i said, everyone should be talking about the genocide happening, my issue is her being on her moral high horse and chatting tit about people who arent posting about it or seemingly living their lives whilst this is going, when she was literally doing the same during the protests in her own country ( which is stil going on and people are still being executed and she is still silent about this- )

You don’t get and choose when you’re an activist and you sure as hell don’t get to mouth off about the people who are doing the exact same thing as she did.

Hypocritical behaviour.
 
Is it just me that finds her texts between her fiancé and her weird? I just find his texts to be quite vomit inducing and the fact that he’s saying “you’re never going to work” and that he’s asking her for photos of where she is, is something I’ve seen many controlling men say before. They usually say that to make you dependant on them financially. Really find it strange that she goes out of her way to share this like it’s something really amazing…. I think it’s really lovely for a man to tell you that he wants to support you financially and that you don’t have to work anymore because he wants to support you, but I can’t help but feel as though she is entering something that is quite sinister and is too occupied with being in love to realise. While it may be cute that he wants to support her, it is not cute to rely on a man for your finances, after a while you will start to feel trapped. The fact that she has zero interest in working or even having her own business to make her own money says a lot about her. I used to see her posts and I always used to think she was really pretty etc. But I think she needs to seriously wake up and smell the coffee.
 
Do you have a screenshot? I missed this. I think she’s deeply unhappy in herself and that she thinks it’s due to the fact she has to work. I think the appeal of not working will lose its sparkle very quickly and she’ll still be unhappy. And getting married is not going to make her any happier either. I think she has a very negative mindset, and entering a marriage like this is a recipe for disaster, and if it doesn’t work out she will have no income of her own
 
I’ve not seen these? I just went on her profile in the first time in forever though and she only has 3 posts?! Bit odd.

uglybettybetty said:
Is it just me that finds her texts between her fiancé and her weird? I just find his texts to be quite vomit inducing and the fact that he’s saying “you’re never going to work” and that he’s asking her for photos of where she is, is something I’ve seen many controlling men say before. They usually say that to make you dependant on them financially. Really find it strange that she goes out of her way to share this like it’s something really amazing…. I think it’s really lovely for a man to tell you that he wants to support you financially and that you don’t have to work anymore because he wants to support you, but I can’t help but feel as though she is entering something that is quite sinister and is too occupied with being in love to realise. While it may be cute that he wants to support her, it is not cute to rely on a man for your finances, after a while you will start to feel trapped. The fact that she has zero interest in working or even having her own business to make her own money says a lot about her. I used to see her posts and I always used to think she was really pretty etc. But I think she needs to seriously wake up and smell the coffee.
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I thought she was a kept woman these days?! She hasn’t worked in months and seemed so happy about it. She has always had older boyfriends (at least from she has shown on social media) and her tiktok shows her opening and unboxing lots of designer and high end stuff, I assumed it’s because the fiancé is loaded.
 
Amyk86 said:
Do you have a screenshot? I missed this. I think she’s deeply unhappy in herself and that she thinks it’s due to the fact she has to work. I think the appeal of not working will lose its sparkle very quickly and she’ll still be unhappy. And getting married is not going to make her any happier either. I think she has a very negative mindset, and entering a marriage like this is a recipe for disaster, and if it doesn’t work out she will have no income of her own
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His texts are really love bomby 🙂🙂🙂 maybe it’s me being hyper suspicious but I have experienced so many men like this and they cover it by saying it’s because they love you and they want you to be happy. But really it’s because they love having control over you. It’s really weird that she makes such a big hooha over not working like as if it’s some big accomplishment that a man is her saviour and financing her…. to me that is actually really sad and it goes to show how simple minded she is. I don’t see this relationship lasting at all in general she seems like a really erratic unstable person
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DaisyDaisy87 said:
I’ve not seen these? I just went on her profile in the first time in forever though and she only has 3 posts?! Bit odd.
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It’s on her TikTok page
 
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It could be a cultural thing where he’s the breadwinner and she takes care of the house and will be be responsible for raising their future children … lots of cultures follow this and if they’re happy then why not. My mum and dad had thing kind of arrangement and they’ve been happily married for 35 years
 
Are those two teenage daughters she’s looking after? Tbf she is working, just for him and his ex missus doing “free” childcare rather than in an office 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
Honeybee1 said:
It could be a cultural thing where he’s the breadwinner and she takes care of the house and will be be responsible for raising their future children … lots of cultures follow this and if they’re happy then why not. My mum and dad had thing kind of arrangement and they’ve been happily married for 35 years
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That’s the thing 35 years ago! This type of thinking in 2024 is shocking. Sometimes women just seem to want to be put in a box😭 like let’s leave that behind please! Women shouldn’t be dependent on a man, ever. It’s not nice when you’re unhappy in an abusive controlling relationship and you can’t leave because your man takes care of everything. Also it can’t be solely a cultural thing because there are so many women I know who are from the same culture as her who have started businesses and are independently killing it.
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She’s just lazy, physically and mentally
 
uglybettybetty said:
That’s the thing 35 years ago! This type of thinking in 2024 is shocking. Sometimes women just seem to want to be put in a box😭 like let’s leave that behind please! Women shouldn’t be dependent on a man, ever. It’s not nice when you’re unhappy in an abusive controlling relationship and you can’t leave because your man takes care of everything. Also it can’t be solely a cultural thing because there are so many women I know who are from the same culture as her who have started businesses and are independently killing it.
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She’s just lazy, physically and mentally
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Disclaimer in it’s not for me, but under capitalism/patriarchy I can see why so many younger women are opting out for the “soft life”, especially where their earning potential is low. I don’t agree with it as invariably all these trad/trophy wives end up alone, skint, careerless, etc by their mid to late 40s but I can’t be vexed at someone enjoying the good times before the tit hits the fan. If there any young women who wish this was them seek comfort in the fact you won’t ever age out of financial independence nor retire into poverty.

The guy is creepy/cringe typing like that too. Hopefully she’s at least done a full financial audit to make sure that there’s real money there and he’s not just a spender. You wouldn’t catch me child minding some other woman’s kids instead of work though lol.
 
The thing is though as a woman you need to protect yourself, as much as we want to believe our marriages will last, its not always the case, and what do you do when you’re 50 and single and no career prospects. This is why so many women stay in miserable/toxic relationships

My other issue with her on this, is her absolute condescending attitude towards anyone who might not be in the same position, making out other partners arent worthy enough if god forbid they can’t support their other half like her rat looking man.

i’ve been on both sides, my husband supported me to stay home for 5 yrs but honestly i got bored 🤣 don’t get me wrong i hate working but i also hated doing nothing all day.
 
Pinkii said:
The thing is though as a woman you need to protect yourself, as much as we want to believe our marriages will last, its not always the case, and what do you do when you’re 50 and single and no career prospects. This is why so many women stay in miserable/toxic relationships

My other issue with her on this, is her absolute condescending attitude towards anyone who might not be in the same position, making out other partners arent worthy enough if god forbid they can’t support their other half like her rat looking man.

i’ve been on both sides, my husband supported me to stay home for 5 yrs but honestly i got bored 🤣 don’t get me wrong i hate working but i also hated doing nothing all day.
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definitely. I mean, she probably earns some minor coins from TikTok. But you would think she would want to start a business or something to invest in her future? Just blindly trusting this man is insane. Unless she is just in it for the money right now and knows that she isn’t going to be around forever so she’s putting up with the babysitting. She strikes me as the type of woman who would suck a man dry of his cash and then disappear.
 
Pinkii said:
The thing is though as a woman you need to protect yourself, as much as we want to believe our marriages will last, its not always the case, and what do you do when you’re 50 and single and no career prospects. This is why so many women stay in miserable/toxic relationships
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I agree with this on a personal level, and this is how I choose to run my actual life. But realistically if your earning potential is low then this argument falls apart? Especially if there are children and associated childcare costs involved. It’s not as if she’s given up a well paid professional career to do this in which the usual #girlboss white feminism criticisms apply, she’s having a break from the monotonous grind of capitalism as a woman who hasn’t managed to do well in it/establish herself so I really can’t hate. The entry level admin role will still be there for her when she ages out of sugar babyhood.
 
I find some of her content cringey for various reasons but seriously can’t hate on her for doing what tons of women younger than her are doing. She has found herself a man who is willing to keep her in the soft life. He gets a younger more attractive than him wife, hopefully some babies if that’s what they both want. She gets to live the kind of life she wasn’t ever going to get with the road men she used to associate with.

I don’t think she is an admin assistant or in an entry level role however she wasn’t earning anywhere near what he earns. I know it’s the prescribed narrative these days but duck it, who cares. There is a big difference between abusive relationships and women living the soft life. Not talking about trad wives either. Just seems like she’s got herself a simp and she wears the trousers in that relationship. Not something I would personally want but it seems to be working the for her.
 
Spilttea said:
He gets a younger more attractive than him wife, hopefully some babies if that’s what they both want. She gets to live the kind of life she wasn’t ever going to get
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🎯 as cringe as it is, it’s a mutual exchange. Oftentimes cries of “gold digger!” are laden with misogyny that places no value on a woman’s (in this instance, and usually, but not always) unpaid domestic labour. Most men wouldn’t be able to have access to family life if it weren’t for the unpaid/unacknowledged labour of women.

To the #girlboss feminist point obviously it’s not a long term plan, it doesn’t necessarily come with private pension contributions, but because of a breadth of systemic problems a lot of young(-ish) women find themselves in poorly paid roles that they don’t find satisfying, so opt out. Some circles would see that as a failure, some see it as get the bag sis, as long as she’s not recruiting or harming young girls I don’t think feminism cares about what bad life choices she makes lol
 
Okay fair enough I get what you’re saying about the soft life etc etc but the way she goes about sharing about it is absolutely cringe worthy. How long has she even known this man? In nearly all instances like this there is always a catch. Plus how could anyone be in a relationship knowing it’s a “mutual exchange” that makes it sound like a business deal😭😭😭 yuck
 
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