Rio and Kate Ferdinand #2
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is it the in thing nowadays to put this all over IG & other 'celebs' to gush how sorry they are to hear this, broken heart emoji etc.....or am I out of touch with social media & this is they way of telling people collectively? 
JEndontgetoutmuch
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I don’t understand why you’d want to
Share this with a load of random people? Bizarre.
Share this with a load of random people? Bizarre.
Ndrangheta
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I was a bit hesitant to post a comment about this tragic news. Because it is tragic and I feel sorry for the lady. But because I loathe Rio Ferdinand I feel I need to agree with you and the previous post.
Mythoughts
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I guess people want to raise the awareness of these kind of things but I do also think why would you announce it like that?
JEndontgetoutmuch
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I’d understand it had she already announced the pregnancy. But I feel putting a post out there for the public to see and read is just to feed your social media score. I’ve had 4 miscarriages in my life. The support of my close family and friends is what I needed. Not from
Strangers and not to secure interviews and magazine deals. It all seems a little tasteless and conceited.
Strangers and not to secure interviews and magazine deals. It all seems a little tasteless and conceited.
LoopyLou47
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'Raising awareness is such crap' with celebs, yes, with regards to cancer diagnoses, raising awareness of symptoms like Dame Deborah, or raising awareness of the importance of screening, but women can't 'do' anything to avoid miscarriages. I've had early miscarriages. Actual medical professionals are looking into reasons for multiple miscarriages, but one miscarriage is just, sadly, just nature saying that embryo was not viable. I suspect the publicity from the dead wife her husband cheated on is fading, and that's the real ' awareness' she wants to raise.
Lovestolurk
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I agree. I think rather than “raise awareness” of like you say unavoidable first trimester miscarriages it’s actually more important to normalise it. For mine I kept the news close. I didn’t announce it on my social media. But when I was pregnant later and had my second son I spoke about them matter of fact when people asked me “oh had you been trying long” or things like that. I would say I had a couple of first trimester losses. They’d say oh I’m sorry. I’d say thank you it was very difficult at the time. And leave it at that.
For me photos of hospital socks and sad faces in hospitals doesn’t normalise it. It’s attention seeking. I understand women have the overwhelming urge to want to acknowledge their baby but checking your like count and what celebs have sent their condolences yuk.
JEndontgetoutmuch
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Exactly, to come out of your procedure and immediately take a photo to share online is just beggy. If she went away now, and that was it, I’d just view as an act of embarrassing attention seeking and leave it as that . But somehow reckon we will see her on Lorraine in the next month or so.
Lovestolurk
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Loose Women bookers are emailing her agent right now.
Ndrangheta
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A sober, reflective article in The Observer in about a months time would have been nice.
Yesweknowyouhavekids
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She’s an attention seeker basically. Seems she has seen the attention Lauren Goodger has got
And wtf is he doing keep having kids with his new woman when he should be concentrating on the ones off his late wife who will be let’s face it utterly screwed up knowing how he treated their mum now he’s acting like the perfect husband and father starting again. I hate men like him
And wtf is he doing keep having kids with his new woman when he should be concentrating on the ones off his late wife who will be let’s face it utterly screwed up knowing how he treated their mum now he’s acting like the perfect husband and father starting again. I hate men like him
Renegadedancer
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Very sad. But no need to announce it and post a pic in your hospital gown. She’s so thirsty for air time.
GoldSilver
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Why not? People share happy news, why shouldn’t they share sad news?
Phil Anne Throw Pee
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Raising awareness of miscarriage, which, astonishingly, still seems to be a taboo topic - great. Posting from your hospital bed on Instagram? Not great.
I get addressing it but I can’t help think when these z listers share its more for their own personal gain rather than raising awareness. Horribly theses topics benefit their engagement with followers, gain followers and then they get a sky news headline. I always feel the ones with
More impact are the ones talked about a fess after it’s happened rather than posting from hospital beds? I know I sound harsh but it’s just my thoughts
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mummykayles
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Whilst I agree raising awareness can only be a good thing, taking a photo from her hospital bed is not. Same as these people that 'check in' at hospital on social media or - even worse - post a photo of their hospital band or a drip in their arm.
absolute-omnishambles
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I actually think the picture she has posted is fine because not many people actually know that an early loss may still need surgery to remove and a hospital stay. (and it’s not a just a ‘big period’ as someone once said to me)
There is still such shame in pregnancy loss. Some can see it as ‘nature’s way’ and move on. Some can’t, but still suffer in silence-but hiding it because they know there will be someone telling you awkwardly that it wasn’t meant to be or acting like you just had a late period and got excited.
1st trimester losses are a waiting game of bad scans, then an agonising wait for 2 weeks to check that your baby really is dead and non-viable in case your dates were wrong. Then Misoprostol and horrible contraction pains at home or going in for your D and C and being in the same waiting room as excited pregnant women with viable babies growing in them. Then retained tissue and bleeding and the terrible fear that you can’t carry babies, whilst feeling unwomanly and a complete failure because your sex education teacher basically made you think that sex = baby. Now a positive pregnancy test doesn’t even = baby.
I am no fan of Kate, but anything that normalises miscarriage is a good thing. And someone who has very much made her image ‘super blended family super mum’ posting about her miscarriage is a good thing. Because it happens, so often, and so many people feel like they have to hide it.
This will make so many women feel much less alone. I bet her inbox is filled with women sharing their stories.
There is still such shame in pregnancy loss. Some can see it as ‘nature’s way’ and move on. Some can’t, but still suffer in silence-but hiding it because they know there will be someone telling you awkwardly that it wasn’t meant to be or acting like you just had a late period and got excited.
1st trimester losses are a waiting game of bad scans, then an agonising wait for 2 weeks to check that your baby really is dead and non-viable in case your dates were wrong. Then Misoprostol and horrible contraction pains at home or going in for your D and C and being in the same waiting room as excited pregnant women with viable babies growing in them. Then retained tissue and bleeding and the terrible fear that you can’t carry babies, whilst feeling unwomanly and a complete failure because your sex education teacher basically made you think that sex = baby. Now a positive pregnancy test doesn’t even = baby.
I am no fan of Kate, but anything that normalises miscarriage is a good thing. And someone who has very much made her image ‘super blended family super mum’ posting about her miscarriage is a good thing. Because it happens, so often, and so many people feel like they have to hide it.
This will make so many women feel much less alone. I bet her inbox is filled with women sharing their stories.