Pregnancy Off Topic #5 “Are men ok??”

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Definitely get it checked by one of the other 2. We were told Baby R definitely didn’t have one by the hospital when he couldn’t stay latched to BF but with all his feeding issues and now watching him struggle to stick his tongue out further than his lips it’s obvious he has one. He also drinks a bottle well and gains weight but I wish we’d pursued it. So she may not have one but it’s definitely worth getting a second opinion if you’re seeing them anyway 😊

Dr Browns bottles are good so hopefully you see an improvement! Infacol or dentinox in her bottle should definitely help if she’s getting trapped wind. It just takes the bubbles out so she doesn’t end up with wind stuck anywhere.

Hopefully the lactation consultant can give some help and advice today!
 
Greencatfysh said:
Glad you can get some support but sorry you are going through all that. I have had CBT in the past and found it quite helpful just to talk to a third party (a bit like on here!) I only had 3-4 sessions and then felt that was enough.

We are still struggling with feeding. Baby doesn’t latch to the boob well and when she does she falls asleep within 2 mins. She’s then formula fed too but that seems to give her awful wind and struggles to poop. So my days are either battling to breastfeed her or dealing with winding her (both involving lots of screaming). Sometimes I worry I’ve done something wrong and rarely have a calm and happy baby to coo over 😣😣
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We have a private lactation consultant coming this morning and a cranial osteopath tomorrow to try and see if we can sort things out. After that I think I need to try a different type of milk to see if that helps with her formula digestion issues.
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I'm very nervous about the whole coil thing but I guess if it doesn’t work out I can have it removed.

I'm so sorry you're struggling. Wee man had silent reflux and colic and it was an absolute nightmare until we got him the right formula. I was unable to breastfeed (despite being milked like a cow in the hospital) as I didn't produce any milk so I can't offer any advice there. As Rasp said it would be worthwhile having her latch checked and her checked for a tongue tie before you go down the route of changing formulas or dietary changes for you. With mine I always just offered milk on demand and fed them until they pulled away. Once we got past those first few weeks we got onto more of a schedule and not so much constant gobbling! It's hard when you're in the trenches, I really feel for you. I hope you manage to find the right solution soon.
 
raspberryjuice said:
Definitely get it checked by one of the other 2. We were told Baby R definitely didn’t have one by the hospital when he couldn’t stay latched to BF but with all his feeding issues and now watching him struggle to stick his tongue out further than his lips it’s obvious he has one. He also drinks a bottle well and gains weight but I wish we’d pursued it. So she may not have one but it’s definitely worth getting a second opinion if you’re seeing them anyway 😊

Dr Browns bottles are good so hopefully you see an improvement! Infacol or dentinox in her bottle should definitely help if she’s getting trapped wind. It just takes the bubbles out so she doesn’t end up with wind stuck anywhere.

Hopefully the lactation consultant can give some help and advice today!
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Thanks! It was definitely helpful this morning. She gave me a plan to get my supply up, as she said it’s likely my supply isn’t high enough if baby is falling off the boob all the time. But also that it’s likely she has some kind of tie, as she checks all the boxes for one. So those two things combined will be what is making it so difficult. She said to get a second opinion on the tongue tie so we’re just going to go private on that too, as the NHS have a 3 week wait - and want to try and get this sorted asap so I have a sustainable plan. It was nice to have my needs paid attention to - she said not to do anything if it’s painful and if it’s all making me miserable then it’s not worth it and that baby needs a happy mum more than a breast over a bottle. 💞
 
@Greencatfysh I don’t really have any advice as such but just to say, across your two posts, I could have written them with my 1st… and I managed to breast feed until nearly 3, couldn’t get them off it tbh! I never dreamed it would go that long and as I’ve said many a time I probably should have given up for my own happiness. I’m not saying because it worked out for me it’s a matter of perciverance and you should continue, it’s not that simple but rather you’re not alone. If you see someone breezily feeding, don’t feel it’s the norm, they’ve likely struggled previously, I know very few people that didn’t have some kind of problem.

I kept giving myself small goal posts, 1 month, 2 months and so on and it gradually got easier.
We had the witching hour too, it’s hard. We resorted to dancing fruit and Disney and super simple songs on YouTube as a distraction. Dancing fruit calms this one right down too. TV at a few months old might not be great, but going out of your mind isn’t sustainable so needs must 🤷🏼‍♀️ ‘Tiger in a tree’ hold had some success too.
Mine was so gripey, their tummy dodgy plus eczema we suspected CMPA so I did no milk or soya but to no avail, they just gradually grew out of it. They did bottle refuse after I stopped offering it while trialling the CMPA diet so we stopped formula around maybe 8-10 weeks but I think it was more coincidence that the formula causing a problem. Infacol helped a little.
Cluster feeding is killer but if you can, go for it and a bottle to help isn’t the end of the world. That said, only time I over fed was when I topped up with formula because I thought they hadn’t had enough and it caused fountains of vomit so gradual if using a bottle to help the cluster feeding might be better.

I hope it gets better for you and you can feed the way you want to but to echo the consultant and what I’ve said previously, fed is best, you can’t pour from an empty cup so take care of yourself in this. Don’t miss out on your baby xx
 
Greencatfysh said:
this really hits home for me 😪 I’ve spent a lot of the last few weeks worrying about everything and I’ll not get those back. The lactation consultant was helpful and has given us a plan to move forward so I feel in a better place now. CkThank you all again for the lovely support, this thread is priceless xxx
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I’ve been thinking about this again and while I stand by doing what’s right for you, actually I think there’s a lot of pressure to “enjoy the baby bubble” and I’ve added to it so I apologise. You should, if you can, but realistically you’re launched into this totally different dimension, everything changes in a moment and you’re expected to love it immediately when your flailing like a fish out of water because who can know what’s going to happen or what you’re going to face. You’re learning a new skill for the first time for probably ages and there’s so much pressure to get it right. I think I followed the party line of “enjoy! 🤗😍” because you hear it so much but it’s likely the norm is more of a struggle than any of us are led to believe. If you’re not loving it and just finding yourself, that’s ok too.

Anyway, sorry. How are things going?
 
Baby T is almost too big for his Moses basket, think that’s the first last that has really hit me. Going to put him in it one more time for a photo so I can see 1st time and last time.. it’s all very emotional isn’t it.. He’s doing so great, has started doing proper laughs and j feel like the funniest person in the world 😂😂 Hope you are all doing great x
 
Me and my boyfriend sat and went through all our photos from when the baby was born last night, it was so emotional looking back at how far he’s come. From being 12 weeks early to now being almost 6 months old, laughing, rolling and just being like a normal baby. It almost feels like all the NICU stuff was just a bad dream and didn’t actually happen to us. 💙💙
 
Elle Woods said:
Me and my boyfriend sat and went through all our photos from when the baby was born last night, it was so emotional looking back at how far he’s come. From being 12 weeks early to now being almost 6 months old, laughing, rolling and just being like a normal baby. It almost feels like all the NICU stuff was just a bad dream and didn’t actually happen to us. 💙💙
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He’s amazing and so are you 🩵🩵
 
Elle Woods said:
Me and my boyfriend sat and went through all our photos from when the baby was born last night, it was so emotional looking back at how far he’s come. From being 12 weeks early to now being almost 6 months old, laughing, rolling and just being like a normal baby. It almost feels like all the NICU stuff was just a bad dream and didn’t actually happen to us. 💙💙
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This makes me so emotional to read. You’ve come so far and I remember reading those first posts after he was born. You should be so proud of yourself 💙
 
Elle Woods said:
Me and my boyfriend sat and went through all our photos from when the baby was born last night, it was so emotional looking back at how far he’s come. From being 12 weeks early to now being almost 6 months old, laughing, rolling and just being like a normal baby. It almost feels like all the NICU stuff was just a bad dream and didn’t actually happen to us. 💙💙
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This had not helped with the post partum crying. So beautifu! You have all come such a long way 🩵
 
I'm just coming here to vent(kind of)
I've been feeling SO down the last few days, my toddler was sick for well over a week and now the baby is really really poorly, he's on antibiotics for a chest infection and everytime he coughs he gets diarrhoea and is really upset.
I haven't slept properly in about 2 weeks and I'm just feeling like a really tit mum.
My partner is doing everything he can he's hardly slept aswell between both boys being ill. It's just been a really hard 2 weeks and it's genuinely just making me feel really useless 💔
 
George01 said:
I'm just coming here to vent(kind of)
I've been feeling SO down the last few days, my toddler was sick for well over a week and now the baby is really really poorly, he's on antibiotics for a chest infection and everytime he coughs he gets diarrhoea and is really upset.
I haven't slept properly in about 2 weeks and I'm just feeling like a really tit mum.
My partner is doing everything he can he's hardly slept aswell between both boys being ill. It's just been a really hard 2 weeks and it's genuinely just making me feel really useless 💔
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I wish I could give you a hug ❤️ you are absolutely not a tit mum, nor are you useless! It sounds like you’ve got it really rough at the moment, I hope your baby is better soon. You’re a fab mum xx
 
All good here, 20’weeks old today.. going to get him the soft playmat tiles, some kind of sitting up thingy, some clothes and a few books.. I think.. 😂😂
 
In a world of endless colds here but we’re all good!
I’ve gone for bath toys, some sensory play stuff and then useful bits like things for weaning etc. I keep ordering things and say I’ll stop but there’s still 24 days to go 😂
 
Elle Woods said:
Hope everyone is okay 🩷💙

What’s everyone getting their babies for Xmas?
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We have a lot of baby toys that we kept when my eldest outgrew them. Popped into Aldi today and bought Wee Man a chenille blanket (was going to get one from John Lewis but this one is nicer and a quarter of the price), a Mamia silicone dish set and two of the Mamia bath toy sets, one with little animals and one with a seal wearing goggles.

I bought the boys two new Christmas books each to add to our seasonal book set. For Wee Man I got him Dear Santa (Christmas version of Dear Zoo) and There's A Little Snowman In Your Book. I get the seasonal books out at the beginning of the month, e.g. 1st October for Halloween, 1st December for Christmas, and they're the books we read during that season. Hopefully that makes sense
 
We’ve bought stuff as we’ve gone along and just given it to him as he’s needed it because he’ll have enough on the actual day from family and friends.

I’ve got him a few bits to open though just to get cute Xmas day pics 😂 Some instruments etc.
 
Hey all! Does anyone have any tips to buff out scratches on the (I think plastic) frame of the pram? Baby is only 12 days old and husband who has no patience tried to open the pram outside on the ground and scratched parts of it. It’s brand new and I just want to weep dramatically. Blame the hormones 😭
 
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