Popsy Clothing Cult #14 Well done Sandra you've got an actual <redacted> in the group

[MotorheadLife]

No, he lost weight and I reckon that's the main reason he feels so amazing. Because he hated the way he looked as a morbidly obese man...body dysphoria.

I’m not sure he’s lost that much. He’s lost some I agree.
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There is a certain breed of white women on the Internet, generally in their 40s or 50s who have colourful hair, dress "quirky" and have self-diagnosed neurodivergence plus a self-diagnosed chronic illness. I've got three on my personal feed and they are just like the Popsies, over sharing every little detail about doctors appointments and what they've forgotten and what hurts this week. They don't have much else going on and it certainly seems to be about attention and bandwagons.

Oh yes, I know I lot of these! I had someone once ask how they would get a diagnosis for my chronic illness.they weren’t happy when I told them you actually needed to have the symptoms….

 

[WeTalkAboutBruno]

Why are so many of them poorly ?

Professional victims.

 

[ZeroCraic]

Why are so many of them poorly ?

The non sarcastic answer is that Popsy appeals to a certain demographic - and the clothes are easy to manage for someone with chronic ill health as they don't have to deal with tight fabrics, zips or buttons etc. There is a huge co-morbidity between certain chronic illnesses - as as Fibromyalgia, POTS, EDS and other auto-immune conditions - and neurodivergence which also explains why a lot in that demographic are also autistic or have ADHD etc.

Part of ASD and particularly ADHD is a tendency to overshare - this also comes from the fact a lot of people don't believe us when we tell them we're ill, or neurodivergent so we feel the need to go into excess detail. We also struggle to read social cues.

As for self diagnosis - if you existed within the realm of neurodivergence and these kind of chronic illnesses you'd learn that getting in front of the appropriate medical professionals is very difficult, with long waiting lists or barriers to getting referred in the same place. Not having an official diagnosis doesn't mean you don't have the condition though. Obviously. And as my own GP said - before I had to wait almost two years for an official Fibromyalgia diagnosis 'if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, chances are it's a duck and we'll treat it like that'.

Autistic/ chronically ill people often have to become experts in their condition. This is doubly true if we're also advocating for our children who are also likely to be unwell as it's all genetic. While there are no doubt some people who just love attention etc, an awful lot of us are coming from an informed and experienced place. And by informed I don't just mean TikTok videos.

Living with chronic illness takes over your life and affects almost every aspect of it. It's not surprising we talk about it - we don't have the wealth of other experiences and opportunities healthy people have.

 

[Thespywhotalksalot]

There is a certain breed of white women on the Internet, generally in their 40s or 50s who have colourful hair, dress "quirky" and have self-diagnosed neurodivergence plus a self-diagnosed chronic illness. I've got three on my personal feed and they are just like the Popsies, over sharing every little detail about doctors appointments and what they've forgotten and what hurts this week. They don't have much else going on and it certainly seems to be about attention and bandwagons.

How do you know they are self diagnosed?

As a white woman in my 40s, who is autistic and has EDS, and has previously had colourful hair, I’m getting kinda pissed off with this stereotype. What does it matter if ND women tend to favour certain clothing and hair colour choices?

 

[harveydean]

How do you know they are self diagnosed?

As a white woman in my 40s, who is autistic and has EDS, and has previously had colourful hair, I’m getting kinda pissed off with this stereotype. What does it matter if ND women tend to favour certain clothing and hair colour choices?

It doesn’t matter. But it is a stereotype for a reason…

 

[Thespywhotalksalot]

It doesn’t matter. But it is a stereotype for a reason…

Yes because being ND, something about us draws us towards certain clothing and hair preferences. The stereotype is that we are deliberately trying to be quirky and pretending to have these conditions which is bullshit. I was called quirky as a child in the same school uniform as every other kid. Now I’m an adult who can wear what I like and have the confidence to wear what appeals to me, the insinuation is that I’m doing it because I want to be seen as quirky or want attention.

 

[Droosie123]

The non sarcastic answer is that Popsy appeals to a certain demographic - and the clothes are easy to manage for someone with chronic ill health as they don't have to deal with tight fabrics, zips or buttons etc. There is a huge co-morbidity between certain chronic illnesses - as as Fibromyalgia, POTS, EDS and other auto-immune conditions - and neurodivergence which also explains why a lot in that demographic are also autistic or have ADHD etc.

Part of ASD and particularly ADHD is a tendency to overshare - this also comes from the fact a lot of people don't believe us when we tell them we're ill, or neurodivergent so we feel the need to go into excess detail. We also struggle to read social cues.

As for self diagnosis - if you existed within the realm of neurodivergence and these kind of chronic illnesses you'd learn that getting in front of the appropriate medical professionals is very difficult, with long waiting lists or barriers to getting referred in the same place. Not having an official diagnosis doesn't mean you don't have the condition though. Obviously. And as my own GP said - before I had to wait almost two years for an official Fibromyalgia diagnosis 'if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, chances are it's a duck and we'll treat it like that'.

Autistic/ chronically ill people often have to become experts in their condition. This is doubly true if we're also advocating for our children who are also likely to be unwell as it's all genetic. While there are no doubt some people who just love attention etc, an awful lot of us are coming from an informed and experienced place. And by informed I don't just mean TikTok videos.

Living with chronic illness takes over your life and affects almost every aspect of it. It's not surprising we talk about it - we don't have the wealth of other experiences and opportunities healthy people have.

Amen to this. Easy to manage clothes are a must for someone like me. Chronic pain, chronic disorganisation skills and general overwhelm once I add in a full time job and an autistic son. I’m also autistic (diagnosed) . I live life to the full bit it is exhausting. So leggings, a few bright tops and yes the occasional Popsy dress are my go to items for work and home stuff.
I used to laugh at the Spoon Theory stuff but by god I now totally get it. No spoons left after a day at work.
I still cannot think of a time where I would wear those polyester pyjamas from Popsy though, give me cotton any day.

 

[Thespywhotalksalot]

Amen to this. Easy to manage clothes are a must for someone like me. Chronic pain, chronic disorganisation skills and general overwhelm once I add in a full time job and an autistic son. I’m also autistic (diagnosed) . I live life to the full bit it is exhausting. So leggings, a few bright tops and yes the occasional Popsy dress are my go to items for work and home stuff.
I used to laugh at the Spoon Theory stuff but by god I now totally get it. No spoons left after a day at work.
I still cannot think of a time where I would wear those polyester pyjamas from Popsy though, give me cotton any day.

The reason I bought my first Popsy dress was because it was stretchy and my should dislocates so easily.

 

[harveydean]

Yes because being ND, something about us draws us towards certain clothing and hair preferences. The stereotype is that we are deliberately trying to be quirky and pretending to have these conditions which is bullshit. I was called quirky as a child in the same school uniform as every other kid. Now I’m an adult who can wear what I like and have the confidence to wear what appeals to me, the insinuation is that I’m doing it because I want to be seen as quirky or want attention.

If you like it, then don’t worry what others think?

 

[Fillyjonk]

This is Tattle. Tattle is where we snark, where we share opinions without being made to feel bad, it's kind of an unfiltered place.

Have things been said that feel like an attack on me? Yes. On many threads. On this thread too. My sister's partner is a transwoman. I truly believe she is a woman. She is not a pervert, she does get a thrill out of wearing women's clothes, she is not trying to get more attention than cis women. But I let people share their opinions here because it's Tattle and it isn't about me and my feelings.

 

[Thespywhotalksalot]

If you like it, then don’t worry what others think?

I do wear what I want with no fucks given. What pisses me off is the insinuation that I plan my health conditions and clothing choices for attention.

 

[harveydean]

I do wear what I want with no fucks given. What pisses me off is the insinuation that I plan my health conditions and clothing choices for attention.

I’m not being argumentative, but I’m wondering if I’m missing something? You will get more attention if you dress “quirky” in rainbow dresses, matching necklaces and bright blue hair. Of course you will?

That's totally different to “planning” health conditions.

 

[Droosie123]

I get loads of attention when I wear a Popsy dress, I don’t have many but when I wear one I usually get compliments about them. Of course they could be secretly thinking “what a weirdo” but at 58 I have zero fucks to give about other peoples opinions of what I wear . So yeah if a Popsy dress is worn it’s teamed with colourful tights and a cardi . Not a Popsy cardi but a colourful cardi of some kind. Life is too short for dull clothing all the time, sometimes I have to colour it up a bit.
I would never post my photo on the group though in case one of you fuckers nicked it to post here .

I am so not a 100 Popsy dress owner though, that’s bizarre and it’s why this thread exists. Some of it is just cult like and you really can own too much polyester. I will only buy now if the pattern is to my taste, the style is right for me and it’s available in cotton. I own one of the newer styles named Nyla, it’s cotton, it’s a wrap style dress and I love it. Some other patterns I also love but are not cotton so I won’t buy,

 

[ZeroCraic]

This is Tattle. Tattle is where we snark, where we share opinions without being made to feel bad, it's kind of an unfiltered place.

Have things been said that feel like an attack on me? Yes. On many threads. On this thread too. My sister's partner is a transwoman. I truly believe she is a woman. She is not a pervert, she does get a thrill out of wearing women's clothes, she is not trying to get more attention than cis women. But I let people share their opinions here because it's Tattle and it isn't about me and my feelings.

It is, and I'm not above it. Someone asked why they are so poorly - I answered.

'Where we share opinions without being made to feel bad' has to extend to some level to where we explain our conditions or our reality without being made to feel bad too. I wasn't having a go in response - I was sharing information that I thought might make people understand the dynamic of these groups and these people better. That info isn't just my opinion. It's fact.

The stereotypes are reductive and often wrong. EG when we think ADHD up until fairly recently we'd think hyperactive little boy. We now know ADHD presents in a lot of different ways and was overlooked in women in generations. There's a whole generation of women in our 30s/ 40s/ 50s who have finally been enabled to understand why we have struggled so hard through things others find easy and trying to process that is a bit of a brain duck.

 

[LittleMissOnions]

Life is too short for dull clothing all the time, sometimes I have to colour it up a bit.
I would never post my photo on the group though in case one of you fuckers nicked it to post here .

I am so not a 100 Popsy dress owner though, that’s bizarre and it’s why this thread exists. Some of it is just cult like and you really can own too much polyester.

I completely agree with you on this, no one should be like Geri Halliwell and only wear the one colour way, but at the same time making a clothing range part of your personality is just weird.

That said I don’t agree with not wanting to appear here, if I did own a dress I would completely troll this group, I’d be emptying the contents of my hoover on the carpet, knitting my hair into a scarf and/or headband, whilst leaving one of the dog’s toys on the sideboard in the hope you would confuse it for a sex toy.

Appearing on this thread would make my week!

 

[ZeroCraic]

I’m not being argumentative, but I’m wondering if I’m missing something? You will get more attention if you dress “quirky” in rainbow dresses, matching necklaces and bright blue hair. Of course you will?

That's totally different to “planning” health conditions.

Some people just wear the clothes because they like them - not with the purpose of attracting garner attention. Correlation does not equal causation.

I took the planning health conditions to be a reference to the insinuation that we face all over the place that we aren't really living with conditions and illnesses. We just want attention.

Does that help? Again not being argumentative just trying to explain?

 

[PryingPenny]

I think some of this came because Timantha has been drip feeding us things which suggest he is ready to seek more attention due to his health. People are anticipating he will blame this on his menstrual cycle etc

 

[jordishaw]

Amen to this. Easy to manage clothes are a must for someone like me. Chronic pain, chronic disorganisation skills and general overwhelm once I add in a full time job and an autistic son. I’m also autistic (diagnosed) . I live life to the full bit it is exhausting. So leggings, a few bright tops and yes the occasional Popsy dress are my go to items for work and home stuff.
I used to laugh at the Spoon Theory stuff but by god I now totally get it. No spoons left after a day at work.
I still cannot think of a time where I would wear those polyester pyjamas from Popsy though, give me cotton any day.

Slinking in to say that although I enjoy lurksnarking here and on the Snag threads, I do find myself wincing from time to time at some of the size comments. I'm a fat old woman, I also live with lymphoedema which flares up unpredictability and can make getting dressed extremely difficult, so my wardrobe includes stuff that I feel extremely grateful for even though I probably look like a circus tent when wearing it because at least all the guy ropes are secured.

 

[JuneJuneHannah]

Why have none of the Popsy twats asked how much the splashback cost? I am sure she is dying for them to know how loaded she is that she could afford that and a Popsy addiction.

 

[LittleMissOnions]

Pictures of the splashback brag for the banned.

The positioning/size of the butterflies make my teeth itch