Both of these are spot on! I’d be absolutely mortified if I’d messaged that number of people for dinner and they all said no, but I also probably wouldn’t do it last minute.
I think self-reflection is exactly what Lily lacks the most. If she had self-reflection, her career wouldn’t be as pathetic as it is and she’d probably have more people willing to grab a last minute dinner with her.
I also think the last minute aspect had something to do with it too. I’m not one that loves last minute plans unless I’m already in the city and someone asks me to get together for dinner. I like to have a clear picture of my day the night before so I can mentally prepare for it, so a last minute dinner would throw me off. Though, most people in my life know that about me because I know that about myself.
Lily just wants someone there to dine with her as a stop-gap for her loneliness not an actual companion to share a meal with.