So awful these types in your family.
I have experienced narcissists you have this anxiety around them, pleasing and pandering to to their needs in hope to make them less chaotic and unpredicatable.
Living with daily drama is just the norm so you are always in fight or flight mode youre not able to comprehend the psychological side until youre older. You can even get in bad relationships as you think it's normal to do all to please someone and get nowt back.
Remember it's from our families we learn behaviours.
A psychologist at 29 said you understood as soon as you felt brave enough to challenge their behaviour you saw them for who they really are.
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Youre feeding a monster with the attention they needed. Dont feed the monster!!! Cut them out and work on yourself mentally as you have contorted ideas of normality alongside anxiety etc. You see you are a victim.
A personality disorder cannot be fixed!