Jim Chapman #6 Tan's a cheat, Sarah came after, now please tell us what happened to Martha

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Mamabear29 said:
Oh I never said it was- I said cheating was 100% wrong. I just wanted to point out it is rarely black and white. For example I know a woman who had an out of the character one night stand as she was suffering depression after a miscarriage. I have a friend who had an emotional affair because she was frightened to leave her narcissistic controlling now ex. I refuse to villainfy tanya on limited information,or any woman.
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Totally this. Cheating is not right - it's hurtful no matter why it happens, but there are a lot of reasons why it happens. Some because the person is a selfish pr*ck and other times not.
 
I'm on Sarah's side of this. Being accused of being a homewrecker for years, through moving in and getting engaged and having a baby with no proof is just cruel. People who were Tanya/Jim stans need to move on. They so clearly wanted different things. Jim always wanted to be a dad and have kids. So after separating from Tanya he went and found someone who wanted the same thing. Was it catty to allude to Tanya cheating on Jim? Absolutely. But I'd sure as hell be catty too if I was bombarded day and night on Instagram by people saying they hoped I miscarried my baby or wish my baby had a different mum.
 
ladylulu said:
I'm on Sarah's side of this. Being accused of being a homewrecker for years, through moving in and getting engaged and having a baby with no proof is just cruel. People who were Tanya/Jim stans need to move on. They so clearly wanted different things. Jim always wanted to be a dad and have kids. So after separating from Tanya he went and found someone who wanted the same thing. Was it catty to allude to Tanya cheating on Jim? Absolutely. But I'd sure as hell be catty too if I was bombarded day and night on Instagram by people saying they hoped I miscarried my baby or wish my baby had a different mum.
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If you really believe she’s being bombarded day and night on Instagram you’ll believe anything.
She’s probably got some and has made it into a much bigger situation than it really is. In reality no one gives a toss about her just as no one gives a toss about Jim or Tanya. They’re all irrelevant trying to cling on to any kind of drama to get some attention.
 
Dwightschrute said:
Personal opinion but that is not Sarah’s place to share that information! If it had to be said then it should’ve come from Jim saying I want to put a line under this, I never cheated but Tanya did please do not mention it again.

Ewwww icky behaviour from Sarah! She’s literally got a career as an influencer off the back of Jim who got his platform off the back of Tanya 🤣
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I don't know... if I was being called a bleep and worse every day, I might snap and tell the truth. Why should she take the crap when it had nothing to do with her and Tan gets all the sympathy.
 
Jelly Bean said:
I'm not *that* surprised by this info tbh.
I am surprised by why Sarah said it, and why now. I can't believe it is because of some clearly unhinged trolls messaging her.
As others have said Jim leaving Gleam must play a part.
Maybe Tanya has said something or was planning to say something and she is getting in first? Maybe mutual friends/family of T and J have snubbed Sarah?
Not sure I believe trolls pushed her into doing it.
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I don't think you can underestimate the damage of relentless trolling - particularly if you're getting the blame for something someone else did. People have done desperate (and irreversible) things to stop the hate. Some personalities can ignore it but most of us wouldn't be able to. Jim and Tan should have stepped up to take the heat. Also, there is no way she would have posted this without Jim's blessing. He wouldn't want her to have deal with all the crap that Tanya is actually responsible for - if he was a decent partner he would have taken screenshots of some of the worst comments and made a statement about it all.
 
Rascally Rabbit said:
I don't know... if I was being called a bleep and worse every day, I might snap and tell the truth. Why should she take the crap when it had nothing to do with her and Tan gets all the sympathy.
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I find it very hard to believe she is receiving that much trolling. Jim and Tanya are both equally irrelevant these days. Any hardcore fans they used to have will now be grown adults. Yes you will always get a few deranged ones but they would’ve trolled her for any reason they could find.

I think Sarah focuses on the few troll messages she gets and blows it out of proportion. Sadly it’s what comes with being an influencer, she’s not being targeted by thousands of people on a daily basis, it will be a few nutjobs who she should block and ignore.
 
getawaywithit said:
Even today— look at how Tanya’s page was immediately spammed with tons of ‘dirty cheat’ comments immediately, when Sarah’s page has NEVER looked like that— she flips out at like one weird random one.
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Sarah didn't 'grow up' with trolls the way the others did. She is new to all this. It must be overwhelming. Besides, why should she not defend herself when she is being accused of something some else has done. Screw that! I'd want to set the record straight.

mg95 said:
As an emotionally mature adult, I totally agree. But to be fair, Sarah and Jim did try that approach. I’ve seen numerous posts from both of them saying they did not cheat, Sarah met Jim after the divorce, they’re going to block and call out haters, etc. None of it has worked. I still don’t think this was the right approach though because now she’s just thrust weirdo fans onto another woman’s comment section. Cheating, while morally reprehensible, doesn't mean anyone should be subject to verbal abuse or public humiliation.

I think Sarah and Jim both feel very bitter about the constant accusations, knowing that Jim was the “wronged” party in actuality, and they’ve lost the capacity to care whether Tanya now gets the heat.

It’s totally out of frustration with Tanya for never speaking up and defending them. Jim wanted this from her and he’s said so publicly. Maybe he asked her countless times and she refused to do it. They did talk the week before Jim proposed to Sarah, according to Jim. Tanya could have had lots of reasons not to though. Like, she never posts personal stuff unless it’s her boyfriend’s hairy arm wrapped around her waist, buried in a photo dump. She thinks she’s an actress and entrepreneur and posting personal stuff is beneath her. Or it’s the fact that Jim could’ve been a crappy partner and even if she cheated she didn’t feel the need to come out and defend him. Or she didn’t want to redirect any psycho fans her way to start accusing her of something that she might have done. Lots of reasons to remain silent.

A quick insta story just saying “Hi all, please don’t send hate anyone’s way. Everyone has moved on and we all have great respect for one another and and we are very happy” could have gone a long way though. She never did anything to imply Jim was a villain but she also never did anything to deny it, knowing what vile stuff was being flung his way. Maybe she got it just as bad but never complained so we don’t know.

Either way it’s a whole mess. If anyone was going to out this news though, it should not have been Sarah. Jim should have had the balls to say it himself. Sarah said it herself, she was not there and did not know Jim at the time. She doesn’t know what really happened, only Jim’s account of it. If Jim wanted to protect his daughter and his partner he shouldn’t have let Sarah do it like a lackey. This was on him to reveal because the wrong was supposedly done TO him. What a spineless move to get his baby’s mother to out the big secret he’s had on the tip of his tongue for the last few years.
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100% agree! Jim should have made the statement! Although, if he didn't have the balls to do it, then someone had to. Sarah is so new to this world of super-fans, whereas Jim and Tanya have grown up in it. The abuse has probably been seriously impacting her mental health. I know it would be too much for me... especially with a new baby. I think the whole thing is very sad but I don't blame Sarah for trying to take back some control.
 
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See I'm not sure Sarah has taken back any control.

If she wanted to take back control and protect her daughter and their family both Jim and Sarah should stop sharing Margot on social media. Heck, they could stop using social media all together and avoid ever receving a horrible DM from a troll.
 
Jim & Tanya have had years to slowly get used to trolling and develop a thick skin to it. I’m no fan of Sarah, but I can imagine it must have felt like being thrown in the deep end, before she had a chance to develop a thick skin to the trolls. So I guess it’s not surprising if Sarah has snapped, she may just be more sensitive to criticism, coupled with being a hormonal new mum.
 
Tea&Toast said:
Jim & Tanya have had years to slowly get used to trolling and develop a thick skin to it. I’m no fan of Sarah, but I can imagine it must have felt like being thrown in the deep end, before she had a chance to develop a thick skin to the trolls. So I guess it’s not surprising if Sarah has snapped, she may just be more sensitive to criticism, coupled with being a hormonal new mum.
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No one forced her to become an influencer.
No one forced her to go on Raya, a dating app for celebrities and influencers, to find a partner.
No one forced her to use her baby to make content and get brand deals.
No one is forcing her to carry on being an influencer.
 
Dwightschrute said:
No one forced her to become an influencer.
No one forced her to go on Raya, a dating app for celebrities and influencers, to find a partner.
No one forced her to use her baby to make content and get brand deals.
No one is forcing her to carry on being an influencer.
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Exactly , she is only earning a living because of being an influencer, mainly based on poor Margot, if she is having such a hard time get a real job lie the rest of us that doesn’t jut involve being paid 1000s for a post and loads of free stuff
 
Also to add, after "the big reveal" Sarah started gaining followers again. Not much compared to her 90k following, but after losing followers almost every day, this must be at least something 😏 I wonder if Sarah expected a bigger boost in followers 🤔

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Rascally Rabbit said:
Jim and Tan should have stepped up to take the heat.
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Tanya doesn’t owe either of them anything, why should she. It’s not her responsibility.
I don’t even think the comments Sarah are getting are anything but trolling. It doesn’t matter what the truth is, people will say what they think will hurt and distress Sarah. It’s always going to be something nasty about her child, it’s the easiest target, double whammy to mention Tanya. I’m surprised they didn’t mention her heritage too. These commenters aren’t really interested in Tanya, it’s just an excuse to be a bleep in comments for kicks.


Rascally Rabbit said:
The abuse has probably been seriously impacting her mental health. I know it would be too much for me... especially with a new baby. I think the whole thing is very sad but I don't blame Sarah for trying to take back some control.
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Turn off comments. Block key words. Get off IG. That’s taking back control. But she won’t because she needs the engagement figures so instead she’s set the negativity on Tanya. What about her mental health to drag up a 3+ year old issue that’s done and dusted. I’m not a fan of Tanya but it’s not one rule for Sarah and another for Tanya just because ‘she’s used to it’. Sarah is making a career out of this. It’s part of the job.

She’s also only shared one comment to her, one to Jim. She didn’t even say she got lots or got them regularly. And I’m still convinced it’s the one from months ago 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Tea&Toast said:
Oh I don’t have any sympathy for Sarah whatsoever, she’s making a nice living, I’m just putting myself in her shoes, I guess I would probably react the same way and I’d be pretty mad at Tanya for saying nothing.

I don’t follow Sarah on Instagram, but I tried having a look and I can’t see the post anymore, maybe she’s taken it down.
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it was a story, so it manually disappeared after 24 hours
 
Nkomoagogo said:
I applaud Sarah for having the balls to say that. She received some nasty comments relating to her child and herself, why would she not retaliate? Why should she take the higher road? She shouldnt have to block words or not read her dms. She is a woman standing up for herself. It should have been said by Tanya and Jim long ago but neither of them would as they are spineless. Just my opinion.
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Can someone post where she actually said all this?!!
 
Posting this here and on Tanya’s thread for those that were asking about when Jim spoke on his frustrations with the whole thing. I couldn’t find the original post from when this first went up. Watch from 1 hr 9 mins.

 
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