Jim and Sarah Chapman #8 2023 The year of doing less

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emm said:
I assume its because Tanya was the one to end it (assuming ahe cheated) and he likes being the one in control in a relationship. My ex was a narcissist and he was the same
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Yeah, Jim has always struck me as someone who is deeply insecure and puts down his partners to keep them "in their place" so they don't realize that he actually thinks he's tit and they could do much better. Like he masks his low self esteem with that braggy personality, and paired with his narcissism we get his attitude towards his partners. He did it to Tanya and she took it for years before escaping. And he's doing it to Sarah now. I imagine it's even worse because if Tanya did cheat - seems to me like at the very least she had an emotional affair - it confirmed his trauma and self hatred, so he in turn throws those negative feelings on Sarah.

Armchair psychology, obviously, can't possibly know for sure but that's my theory.
 
QueenBW said:
Yeah, Jim has always struck me as someone who is deeply insecure and puts down his partners to keep them "in their place" so they don't realize that he actually thinks he's tit and they could do much better. Like he masks his low self esteem with that braggy personality, and paired with his narcissism we get his attitude towards his partners. He did it to Tanya and she took it for years before escaping. And he's doing it to Sarah now. I imagine it's even worse because if Tanya did cheat - seems to me like at the very least she had an emotional affair - it confirmed his trauma and self hatred, so he in turn throws those negative feelings on Sarah.

Armchair psychology, obviously, can't possibly know for sure but that's my theory.
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Totally agree, I was often shocked how mean in a subtle way he was to Tanya in vlogs. Has he ever been in therapy? I know he grew up with an abusive dad which would really mess anyone up
 
emm said:
Totally agree, I was often shocked how mean in a subtle way he was to Tanya in vlogs. Has he ever been in therapy? I know he grew up with an abusive dad which would really mess anyone up
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I don't know if he ever did. But yes, his dad I think was abusive and an alcoholic, so that'd mess up people. Hurt people, hurt people. But that's not an excuse to stay hurt, of course. Wasn't he studying psychology at uni back in the very beginning of Tanya's YT? Before he had a channel of his own.
 
Tell me you're desperate to show off your post-baby figure without telling me.....
 

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Mrsstevens said:
Tell me you're desperate to show off your post-baby figure without telling me.....
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This irritates tbh about her - but I now wonder if it is all part of trying to get her husband's attention.
She is a good looking woman and he is definitely punching, but as has been said it all appears part of his *thing* to show very little interest in her. Keep her on her toes and feeling insecure and grateful 😞
 
Mrsstevens said:
Tell me you're desperate to show off your post-baby figure without telling me.....
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How is it even possible for the uterus to shrink so quickly? Not an inch of swollen, stretched skin, not a single stretch mark in sight. A stomach more taught than a gym bunny who has never had kids.

she did this last time too, showing off two weeks after birth in a cropped top. Not fair
 
JakaMini said:
How is it even possible for the uterus to shrink so quickly? Not an inch of swollen, stretched skin, not a single stretch mark in sight. A stomach more taught than a gym bunny who has never had kids.

she did this last time too, showing off two weeks after birth in a cropped top. Not fair
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But you're not a slack-jawed idiot married to an arrogant, insufferable man-child. I hope. So you win.
 
JakaMini said:
How is it even possible for the uterus to shrink so quickly? Not an inch of swollen, stretched skin, not a single stretch mark in sight. A stomach more taught than a gym bunny who has never had kids.

she did this last time too, showing off two weeks after birth in a cropped top. Not fair
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I mean. Everyone is different lol. I'm not AT ALL condoning anything sarah does but there's nothing wrong with wearing crop tops and what not after giving birth lol. I don't think she is showing off at all, I think she's wearing her normal clothes after giving birth. I have very small friends like Sarah who have birthed two and three kids and they go back to the size they were before having kids each time. Other friends have had a harder time. I really believes it depends on how active you are before, during, and after with exercise.

Her "job" is to be on social media, of course she is going to post normal photos post baby in everyday clothes.

Idk, I guess I'm just a bit confused of hating her in this aspect. It comes off as being a bit bitter🤷🏼‍♀️
 
what’s with his strange humour nowadays? Was never a huge fan of him back in the day but when he was with tanya and part of the brit crew he seemed like a wet sponge, quite boring but I guess likeable? Like an upbeat sense of humour. Since being with sarah and having kids he now seems to have this very strange falls-flat sense of humour. Like someone else on here said, I think he thinks he’s being mysterious/sarcastic like some male celebrity’s are able to pull off but with him the jokes fall flat and it’s just very odd. ‘I haven’t been posting because i’ve been keeping my children alive’ ??! he’s so weird. I never remember him being this weird with tanya?!
 
epictoaster said:
I mean. Everyone is different lol. I'm not AT ALL condoning anything sarah does but there's nothing wrong with wearing crop tops and what not after giving birth lol. I don't think she is showing off at all, I think she's wearing her normal clothes after giving birth. I have very small friends like Sarah who have birthed two and three kids and they go back to the size they were before having kids each time. Other friends have had a harder time. I really believes it depends on how active you are before, during, and after with exercise.

Her "job" is to be on social media, of course she is going to post normal photos post baby in everyday clothes.

Idk, I guess I'm just a bit confused of hating her in this aspect. It comes off as being a bit bitter🤷🏼‍♀️
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I don’t think it’s bitter. She’s in probably the 1% this happens to, it’s more like “how the hell?!”. The loose skin and extra bulk around the belly is so normal. I think there’s posing there because as the other person sort of said, your womb has to shrink and internal organs have to shift back, it’s biology. It’s genuinely abnormal to be that small again already due to the sheer mechanics of the body. It takes 6wks-2 mths for everything to shift back into place.
 
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