Janette - The_Little_One_Dublin

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Oh I’m genuinely so delighted for her, I’ve my fingers and toes crossed this pregnancy will continue smoothly for her, I couldn’t imagine the fear and anxiety she must be feeling right now. ❤️
 
It's about time we stop shaming each other for daring to share pregnancies before the 'safe zone'. I had a loss at almost 42 weeks, there is no safe zone. She's obviously well aware that she may lose this baby and is comfortable with being public with her loss should this happen. For whose benefit do you wish she'd kept it secret? Yours because loss is uncomfortable to hear about? Certainly not hers.
 
Thumper said:
It's about time we stop shaming each other for daring to share pregnancies before the 'safe zone'. I had a loss at almost 42 weeks, there is no safe zone. She's obviously well aware that she may lose this baby and is comfortable with being public with her loss should this happen. For whose benefit do you wish she'd kept it secret? Yours because loss is uncomfortable to hear about? Certainly not hers.
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I don’t think people are shaming her, most comments are very positive and wishing her well. Her losses were extremely tough on her and very public, im sure she got ample support from announcing publicly but personally the fear of loss again would hold me back from sharing. 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
Tinybops said:
I don’t think people are shaming her, most comments are very positive and wishing her well. Her losses were extremely tough on her and very public, im sure she got ample support from announcing publicly but personally the fear of loss again would hold me back from sharing. 🤷🏻‍♀️
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But people said she should have waited. I'm questioning why she should? On my two pregnancies after stillbirth I announced straight away, because I knew loss could happen at any time, because I wanted to embrace every second of the pregnancy knowing the outcome wasnt guaranteed and because if I had another loss I would want it to be public knowledge rather than a secret pain I had to hold. It's absolutely fair enough to say you wouldn't share because you'd want privacy in a loss, but the comments here saying what she should have done are absolutely part of the.problem with stigma in pregnancy loss
 
Thumper said:
But people said she should have waited. I'm questioning why she should? On my two pregnancies after stillbirth I announced straight away, because I knew loss could happen at any time, because I wanted to embrace every second of the pregnancy knowing the outcome wasnt guaranteed and because if I had another loss I would want it to be public knowledge rather than a secret pain I had to hold. It's absolutely fair enough to say you wouldn't share because you'd want privacy in a loss, but the comments here saying what she should have done are absolutely part of the.problem with stigma in pregnancy loss
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I totally get that and when I got pregnant with my ivf baby I told people straight away too for similar reasons. But there is one thing telling family and friends and quite another thing posting it on your business account to people who are effectively her customers. I stopped following her because of her coming on saying oh I might try again, I might not try again etc etc. She has 3 healthy children which many many people would do anything for and I just couldn't be dealing with her playing out her longing for another baby. That said I do hope this all works out for her this time and wish her the best. I just personally found it all triggering rather than relatable.
 
Babyboo have lost the run of themselves and she is such a wagon on her stories always going on about costs and how they are going to raise prices and their prices are astronomical as it is. Now I did buy the bibs for my elder son and they are still perfect for his brother 3 years later so they got the cost per wear in my house but the clothing is completely overpriced for cotton clothing it’s just nonsense.
as for Janette, she’s turning into a right moan bag lately. Just my opinion.The next launch will be a pain in the arse as usual with everyone crashing the website to buy more cheap rubbish so they can match their children for Christmas photos 🙄
 
PandoraSkye said:
Oh Jesus your one from BabyBoo is going to blow her top when she sees what Janette is planning 🤣
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Oh she will lose her tit completely. And Janette will always do better than her because Babyboo are extortionately priced. €50 for a baby sleeping bag 🙄 give me strength!

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Absolutely shocked and disappointed that someone with two losses like this would choose to share a gender reveal on pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness day.
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It does seem to be in very poor taste doesn’t it. Like obviously it’s her news to share how and when she wishes but really it is a bit much. Personally I think gender reveals are completely tacky anyway. And why would you hijack your child’s birthday party for it. The mind boggles 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
Thumper said:
Absolutely shocked and disappointed that someone with two losses like this would choose to share a gender reveal on pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness day.
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I was very surprised to see that. I really hope everything goes well but it just seems so soon for a big reveal when she’s just days past the stage of previous losses.
it would have been nice to let the boys have their day today & leave it for another time. Conor’s face, he hadn’t a clue what was happening.
I feel quite nervous for her, it all seems a bit too public considering what she has been through. I guess everyone is different though.
 
I wasn't at all thinking about it being too soon to share. I will passionately defend anyone's right to share a pregnancy as early or as late as they wish. Of course something may happen but as someone who has lost a baby at 42 weeks, there is no safe zone and obviously she'd want to be open if something did happen. Baby loss awareness day is a huge international day of recognition for babies who didn't get to stay. At 7pm (very close to when she shared her gender reveal) people all over the world are lighting candles to remember babies lost during and shortly after pregnancy. My feed is full of images of candles and spreading love and awareness. I'm sure like me, many bereaved parents came to follow the little one because of her losses/ the Alex and bobby suits etc. For her to not share anything about baby loss is bad enough but to share something which would be hugely triggering for many people who've lost a baby seems tone deaf. Not everyone who loses a baby needs to be an advocate, but if you do choose to be like she has at times, you have a responsibility.

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I was very surprised to see that. I really hope everything goes well but it just seems so soon for a big reveal when she’s just days past the stage of previous losses.
it would have been nice to let the boys have their day today & leave it for another time. Conor’s face, he hadn’t a clue what was happening.
I feel quite nervous for her, it all seems a bit too public considering what she has been through. I guess everyone is different though.
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To add based on her last story, I am more understanding on reading that about why she would choose to do the reveal today and I totally get wanting to savour the good moments. I still think it was unessesary and insensitive to share it pretty much during the wave of light.
 

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