I do find it really interesting that multiple Frauen have picked up on what seems - from our perspective - to be Jack’s extreme reluctance to move “home” (Ma and Pa H’s). It’s made me think about my own dysfunctional family a bit more than I would have liked.
In a bad situation, moving “home” wouldn’t be an option for me and my kids if there was
any alternative, because one of my parents would trash my confidence and mental health. They’ve done it again and again through my life, so being low-contact with them is the only way I can exist. We go back for visits mainly to see other family members, but that’s it. I wonder if a similar dysfunctional dynamic is a part of it for Jack, there do seem to be some parallels.
I have to remind myself not to feel too sympathetic for her though, she already got me once this week and then I was annoyed at myself when she was insufferable mere
hours later
Anyway if a narc parent is at the root of her problems, she needs to gird her loins and get herself into some serious therapy for it. No sympathy from me till she does that.
I’d be surprised if she was in one of the ones that had en-suites, there were more basic/mid-range apartments in that block too and I think it was only the “penthouse” ones (it was only a mid rise so penthouse is generous!) that had the top-end layout and fixtures. But that’s a memory from a long time ago so maybe I’m wrong? If there’s evidence for three showers, I can totally be flexible about my memories!