Way back on the magical Wednesday of thread #31 I pointed out to JM that she often focused on details and expressed some sympathy with this behaviour, because my daughter does the same thing and gets all het up when she sees one that doesn't chime with her understanding. I absolutely did not mean for it to become one of her *reasons' for getting all frantic all the time, I meant it was something that she could work on to help her to calm down and recognise when she was in a spiral.
I'm not arrogant enough to think our brief exchange had much impact on her, but she has mentioned it a few times, specifically, since that Wednesday and I'm feeling all itchy to think I've even vaguely given her a get out. I nearly posted about it before, but thought it was a bit self-obsessed of me to see what I said as having an impact. Anyway, if it did, I just wanted to point out that she completely misunderstood what I meant. I didn't mean it to be an excuse/reason, I meant it to be something that it might be helpful to work on.