Ioan Gruffudd & Alice Evans #144 Dispatch to Officer Dibble: crackle... Be advised suspect is a Charlie Uniform November Tango, over.

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plinky2 said:
Same! I am not bougie but I am not poor and I don’t even know what I would buy for $500 a WEEK because at some point you would run out of space for new clothes to be stored and I am always thinking about next week/year and thinking something might change so let’s not be rash with money now

I went into London for the day on the weekend and spent £50 all day. Alice never even goes out!
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I think she probably has a serious online shopping addiction and just buys second hand designer stuff and puts it in boxes in the garage. All part of the madness....
 
Invictus said:
Lol! Another bougie witch here! In my area, daycare can run 250-500 a week PER CHILD. Having a Nanny costs even more. Her supposed weekly expenses would only make sense in light of her "babies" being actual babies. Given her propensity for shopping, drinking, and lying (not to mention her not being the brightest bulb in the box incapable of basic math), I doubt her story. She probably wouldn't know a budget if it hit her in the face.
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Dude, my son's daycare cost $2600/month when I was in Brooklyn. I forced my husband to move somewhere more practical just before we had our second kid. I miss Brooklyn so much but guess what, sometimes we have to move somewhere that's our second choice, Alice! (Now my daughter's daycare is "only" $1000/month hahahah sigh. And we don't have good takeout. But we do have pretty mountains with mist and rivers and stuff.)

I think Alice spends so much because she doesn't work. From 8:30 am - 5:30 pm, I'm busy working with only brief breaks to duck around on the Internet, like most normal people. I maybe go take a break and grab a fancy latte and pastry once a week. She must just spend all day doing that.
 
SusieTCones said:
Thank you, @ReturningthePearls , for your eloquent and heartfelt post. This helps differentiate between the two, and I really appreciate learning more. I have a couple of friends & acquaintances who live with serious mental health conditions, and I am in awe of the energy and effort and grace they put forth in living their best lives. I hope I can count you among those friends. 💖

One thing it seems to me is that BPD can be addressed through therapy and medication. I know it's hard, hard work, but it does seem like therapy and treatments can be helpful. That seems less likely with NPD--maybe because first, the person has to acknowledge there's a problem? I'm not aware of any recovering narcissists.

Pearls, have you ever watched the TV show "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend"? I thought the depiction of a character with BPD was done with compassion and respect.
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Susie, you can ALWAYS count me among your friends; that’s the highest honor, in my opinion. 😘 I think BPD can sometimes be wrongfully tossed into the NPD pool, when the two are enormously different, so I’m so happy to educate and so grateful to have received your attention! ❤️

You’re absolutely right—BPD can be controlled MUCH better with proper therapy and medication, and one can even go into REMISSION! Imagine that. For now, I just take my meds, see my amazing therapist, work on coping strategies for my emotions, and participate in activities that heal me and empower me. I also commit to being as self-aware as I can be regarding my behavior, including knowing when it’s appropriate to apologize.

Like you, I have never heard of a narcissist in recovery. I just personally haven’t. I really do agree with you that I think the narc has to identify that they’re the problem first. I just personally haven’t met a narc capable of doing that, at least not without pointing the finger anyway (“Yeah, ok, I snapped at this person BUT they made me do it because…!”). You can successfully treat BPD; although I’m still working towards remission, I have been blessed with the resources I need to ensure that I’m as self-aware as possible in the meantime. NPD…I’m not so sure. 😕

And I SAW a scene of that show for one of my classes!!! I want to watch it now, I’ve heard that they portray BPD very respectfully! Thanks for the reminder, haha! ❤️
 
Ametrine said:
This woman LIED ABOUT HER bleeping AGE FOR YEARS and said SHE WAS FOUR YEARS YOUNGER THAN SHE ACTUALLY WAS!

I can't even, I'm so bleeping angry with her statement.

In this interview she did with the Daily Mail in 2016 about having IVF, she says she was 44 that year. Not true, she was 47. She was 41/42 when she had Ella, and 45 when she had Elsie.

Interview with the DM in 2016 about IVF



You were 40/41 when you tried for a baby Alice, not 37, you big fat LIAR. Four years can make a big difference in fertility, and this article is just full of fear-mongering and LIES.
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I feel your anger, thisblast week she has really fucked me off (more than usual) And is messing with my zen, I'm not happy!
I've actually run out of words to describe her, and if you knew me in real life, my friends would say she never shuts up 🤣
 
wrongshoes said:
I am just . . . struggling to figure out how she spends $500 a week, and I'm a bougie witch with two kids in an expensive area as well.

Most of my money goes toward rent and school/daycare; she doesn't have to pay those. The rest of my money during the week goes toward groceries. That's like $150/week even with inflation if we plan it right.
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Totally agree! My family is in semi expensive area and I would say you might hit $500 if you plan to do a MAJOR grocery shop to last you a couple weeks. That is unless you tend towards purchasing a lot of the more costly pre -packaged foods or shop at higher end grocery stores where 2 organic chicken breasts can easily cost you $12. There is no way any of those girls - at least in last photos she posted were getting regular haircuts - I can imagine there are weeks when there are costs for field trips and activities but honestly I can’t imagine if the kids are speaking with IG in FaceTime that he wouldn’t cover those by directly paying school or organization. But mAlice - if you are reading here which I know you NEVER do - life could have been much less stressful if you mediated and worked with IG to co-parent and shared custody with him as suggested at beginning of this saga. You moan and groan on about being a “Single Mother” and make f&ck all effort to do the things your girls need you to do if you want to act as if there isn’t a perfectly willing father to provide love and resources to the girls and give you a break during his time with them. True Single Moms might have a cry or shout about their predicament but get on with it and go figure out how to manage their new lives- it might mean relocating to affordable housing and changing household expenditures - things that are challenging and hard. But a strong feminist woman will set a good example for her children and put the best spin on it as new adventure and opportunity to not dwell 100% in past. Begin selling everything you can- it may not be a huge $$ but it is better than nothing and depending on others for diminishing hand outs. If IG hasn’t done his share, your tough lawyer ought to get on him ASAP to pay- just hope all your violations of RO don’t leave a $0 on money owed. Quit saying there are no LA jobs. Have you actually visited with an agent to explore options? Maybe you can consider an acting job outside CA. After all IG is in CA and willing to share custody- even if he isn’t it seems like the girls have friends they could and have stayed with while you are on for week or couple day shoot. And if acting is off the table, which if rumors are true- your rep precedes you in the worst not best way -reach out and see if there are any local community organizations that help with career paths to help direct you to something you could do. Maybe even from home. You have an insatiable energy to spend hours focused on twitter worrying about politics, your ex and what people write about you here or on SM. Take that energy and use it towards job hunting, exercise, wellness (mental and physical) and you might surprise yourself. But then again, it is just easier to spend YEARS raging and sobbing over what you yourself have contributed to losing versus being a strong woman with the ability to understand children deserve to have both loving parents in their lives (and yes IG loves them. He wanted away from you and not them. If you hadn’t been abusive - maybe he would have been willing to keep speaking with you and maintained a polite friendship- but you torpedoed that chance years ago with your abhorrent rages and ongoing alienation).
 
ReturningthePearls said:
Long post, but thanks for bringing this up cuz it’s important af:

I have been grappling with this for a while now, as y’all may have guessed from my flip-floppy posting about it earlier on. When Invictus joined us and gave some thoughtful mental health insight about diagnosing others, I remember apologizing to everyone because I was indeed playing armchair psychiatrist and I really try not to do that…but I’m gonna break my rule YET AGAIN.

Y’all already know I’m a Borderline and I saw some alarming symptoms in her (extreme impulsivity, difficulty regulating emotions, substance misuse, deep emotional attachments to certain people and therefore fear of abandonment when/if they leave) and I was like, “Woweeeee this ho is a Borderline!”

I still think she is…but to an extent.

It is possible to have multiple personality disorders (don’t read that as the illness called “Multiple Personality Disorder” haha). She shows a LOT of Borderline symptoms, but they are heavily overshadowed by symptoms of narcissism and, yes, maybe she’s a sociopath as well.

If it’ll educate anyone (and this is based off of factual info I gathered when I was diagnosed years ago):

—Narcissism primarily involves egotistical behavior, severe lack of empathy, excessive sense of self-importance. You are the cream of the crop. You are the “smartest person in the room.” You are more sexually desirable than anyone else. You need to be constantly praised. You need to be recognized as the most talented, the most gracious, the most hardworking, the most valued, the most whatever. You don’t understand why people feel what they feel, because you can’t envision their experiences from their emotional perspective.

—Borderline Personality Disorder is primarily identified as having difficulty regulating your emotions. Your emotional responses are unstable. I had to go two days without my medication a few years ago and I went to the grocery store. One minute I was smiling at customers passing by, gettin’ all excited over the options in the snack aisle, and maybe seven minutes later I can only remember being sprawled out on the floor a few aisles over, sobbing uncontrollably and whimpering nonsense to a startled old woman who was hurriedly tugging tissues out of her purse to give to me and asking me what happened. That’s the thing: I had no idea what happened. There are no triggers sometimes. Without medication (and therapy helps a TON), your brain chemistry can be an absolute roller coaster every hour/few hours—sad, then manically happy, then maybe suicidal, then numb, back to manically happy, back to numb again, then content, then furious, then sad. It’s extremely hard to control without good mood stabilizers and a therapist to help you cope; don’t get me wrong, some people make it out alive, but it’s no easy feat and it’s exhausting having to check yourself every ten seconds. Borderlines don’t walk around feeling like they need their ego fed. They just have an extremely low sense of self-worth that they turn inward towards themselves and struggle to process without necessary mental health resources, which can impact the comfort of those around them.

I’m against stereotyping people with mental/personality disorders, but hey, you wanna stereotype a Borderline just to remember who we are? Remember this: unstable moods/emotional, fear of rejection, terrible self-esteem. You wanna remember narcissists? Here: self-important, egotistical, zero empathy for others. There’s a huge difference.

I don’t say this because I feel that friends in here look at me and people like me in a hurtful manner and so I’m being defensive—not at all!! This is a piece of info more for the MANY who are lurking who might not understand the difference between the PD’s because BOTH are stigmatized. But BPD is not the worst thing; people just believe we’re terrible because they don’t like dealing with over-emotional, clingy people. NPD is the REAL bad one up in here.

Sorry, Diamonds, for the babbling lol. ❤
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A good insight here, my heart goes out to you for having to cope with these conditions and have the bravery to speak about them openly, there is still a stigma around mental health issues and this needs to STOP!
About a year ago I was really depressed, so much so that I was forgetting to take my meds. I was literally hysterical and couldn't figure our why I was so bad. Until I notice my pill pot thingy and realised it was empty, I think I went about 5 days without them.
I've learned so much from this feed with people sharing there own experiences and insights ❤️
 
Wow I’m actually shook that Bianca admitted she’s been bullied by Alice. bleeping good for her. She’s been victimised by her for long enough while staying quiet. Alice will choose to explode having that truth bomb dropped publicly.

how bianca feels about Alice? I bet she pities her, they both do. If my husband’s ex were over two decades older than me, a wreck physically and mentally, lashing out as she does, while I was young and beautiful, on the up and in his arms every night, I think I’d feel very sorry for her that she was such a mess. I think most people would have hate in their heart but I reckon B sees it as ‘well, I wish it hadn’t happened but look! It’s made us so strong. What a gift’. I imagine they rarely think of her otherwise. Knowing what we do of B she probably even manages to feel a shred of compassion. I bet it’s her that’s calming Ioan down and rationalising most of the time.
 
ButterTart said:
It depends on what kind of plan they have and what it covers. A deductible is possible, and it’s also likely not all drugs/tests/procedures are covered or covered fully.
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Okay, I worked in insurance for 20 years, and all health insurance has a deductible and a limit for what you can claim for, it's not a never-ending pot. Now in the US health insurance is a whole different kettle of fish, but it will have limits of how much you can claim for certain things, such as scans etc. Plus a deductible and maybe a co-insurance clause, where you have to pay towards a certain treatment/scan if its reoccurring, in addition to the deductible (excess). I'm not a specialist in health insurance, but have a fairly good understanding of it.

My friend who used to live in LA, was just over 7 months pregnant (full health insurance) and she had really bad pains, because she didn't have proof with her of said insurance, she paid just under $9k to be seen and then claimed it back.
I know we moan about the NHS here, but when I hear stuff like that, I thank my lucky stars!

All together now...
MALICE GET A bleeping JOB, YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE WHATSOEVER!
As you can see she is really getting on my tits today 😭
 
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I stumbled on a story about Jack Monroe - she seems pretty identical to Alice down to the CAPITAL LETTERS and grifting. But unlike Alice, it looks Jack Monroe's lies are unravelling in public big time - there was a column written by an anonymous ranter on a Sunday Women's magazine exposing her lies - a Twitter user named AwfullyMolly has done an @welp and screenshotted all her lies and inconsistencies and done a forensic take down of every lie (Jack, like Alice, 'never lies') and the Daily Mail has taken the bait and run with it. Just wish wish wish this would happen for Alice.
 
Nixlondon said:
I stumbled on a story about Jack Monroe - she seems pretty identical to Alice down to the CAPITAL LETTERS and grifting. But unlike Alice, it looks Jack Monroe's lies are unravelling in public big time - there was a column written by an anonymous ranter on a Sunday Women's magazine exposing her lies - a Twitter user named AwfullyMolly has done an @welp and screenshotted all her lies and inconsistencies and done a forensic take down of every lie (Jack, like Alice, 'never lies') and the Daily Mail has taken the bait and run with it. Just wish wish wish this would happen for Alice.
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Everything AwfullyMolly said was all from here so maybe one day!
 
welp said:
MailOnline has contacted the LAPD for more information.

hahahaha

https://www.12ft.io/https://www.dai...ims-police-no-concerns-speaking-two-kids.html
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Wow. A whole six people interacted with Malice’s latest DM article. She really is pathetic, isn’t she? She’s purposely made herself unlikeable and unlovable. If she weren’t so toxic, narcissistic and unhinged I’d actually feel sorry for her. She’s turned into the (usually false) stereotype of the bitter middle aged woman. All she needs is a bunch of cats to fulfill the paradigm.

(Hope everyone is well and happy. I’m dealing with severe clinical depression and have lost the job I absolutely adore, so am staying schtum most of the time. Love to all.)
 
Jack Monroe was too "successful" with it, she was bound to get called out at some point.

Alice is just attracting a small SM corner and virtually no publicity, has failed to make much out of her lies (even if she tried). Most "know" already what she is
 
Autisteuse said:
Wow. A whole six people interacted with Malice’s latest DM article. She really is pathetic, isn’t she? She’s purposely made herself unlikeable and unlovable. If she weren’t so toxic, narcissistic and unhinged I’d actually feel sorry for her. She’s turned into the (usually false) stereotype of the bitter middle aged woman. All she needs is a bunch of cats to fulfill the paradigm.

(Hope everyone is well and happy. I’m dealing with severe clinical depression and have lost the job I absolutely adore, so am staying schtum most of the time. Love to all.)
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Am really sorry to hear this, truly I am. Sending you lots of hope, that it will pass in time and you can start to rebuild 💗💗
 
its pretty disgusting how hard Alice has weaponised Caroline's death to excuse her behavior
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NarcRage said:
Bills piling up because you don't pay them! You should be paying them but you leave them for Ioan. You have already admitted that.

What are amenities ?
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luxuries/special features in a building, the pool or security systems in this case I guess

that's such a great example to bring up when you plead for poverty!
 
welp said:
its pretty disgusting how hard Alice has weaponised Caroline's death to excuse her behavior
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luxuries/special features in a building, the pool or security systems in this case I guess

that's such a great example to bring up when you plead for poverty!
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She may have $300 in her checking account, but how much does she have in her savings account(s)?

How much does she get from Ioan a month?

Questions we won't get the answers to, of course.
 
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