homewithshan #2 Best day of my life, ignoring my child is my favourite mum hack

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motherhen said:
Take him upstairs with her. You can't leave a 2 year old alone downstairs especially with a dog and especially being a boy! As a mum to both boys and girls....boys cannot be left unattended for 2 minutes before they are up to no good!
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That's totally ridiculous. Nothing to do with their gender. I've got two boys and been at home with my 2 year old all day and left him plenty of times. Totally depends on the child. I've pegged washing out, stripped the beds, got washing in and ran his bath. When you're alone you don't have much choice. Carting them around with you sounds more dangerous to me whilst you're running hot water!
I was more concerned that when she was cooking dinner and he was outside she barely looked up to check on him out the window.
 
I think it hugely depends on the child and your parental judgment as to whether you think you can go upstairs and hang the washing out ect. I have a little boy who is 2 and 8 months. Sone days I can leave him to go for a wee or pop upstairs to put a bath on for him. As long as he is busy playing he is fine, other times he will come too because he says ‘I come’

A year ago if I did that he would scream 🫣🤣 but he’s fine now! And knowing George he’s Probabaly sat watching paw patrol anyway!

Just to add to this, I would NEVER leave him alone in the bath! Or if the oven was hot.
 
Completely agree that it depends on your individual child! My daughter is nearly 2 (her personality seems very similar to George’s) and some days she’ll happily play while I cook dinner and get a few bits done etc but other days she doesn’t so she comes everywhere with me. We also have 3 stair gates and security locks on everything though because I’m alone a lot and I need her to be safe. I think the issue is that there doesn’t seem to be any childproofing or safety when it comes to Shan and it’s very worrying.
 
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As others have mentioned, there's definitely safe guarding she can put in place if she's going to leave him downstairs - baby gate on the room door so he doesn't go wandering into the kitchen/up the stairs/out the door... The list is endless?

I have a boy the same age as G, and I can leave him downstairs in the playroom with the gate shut why I do quick tasks, but I'd constantly check on him just to make sure everything's ok.

As for leaving him alone in the bath - that's definitely not ok.
 
The woman is completely clueless, did you see also how much toothpaste she put on his toothbrush!?! What on earth!! The poor child doesn’t seem happy at all, wonder if the nursery teachers/child minders notice how uncared for he is. That photo of him eating staring at a blank wall is heartbreaking, nothing short of neglect
 
rainbowunicorn9 said:
The woman is completely clueless, did you see also how much toothpaste she put on his toothbrush!?! What on earth!! The poor child doesn’t seem happy at all, wonder if the nursery teachers/child minders notice how uncared for he is. That photo of him eating staring at a blank wall is heartbreaking, nothing short of neglect
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Wow! I feel like I'm team shan at the moment but to say she is neglecting George is a reach. No he shouldn't be eating facing the wall or have that much toothpaste on his toothbrush but neglect is not feeding your child or beating them or taking drugs whilst pregnant. Come onnnn. We can criticise shan for a lot but not neglect! Half arsed, yes prioritising herself yes but not neglect. Go read about the children in care in your community to see what neglect is about.
 
He has clean clothes, food to eat and a bed to sleep in. Physical needs are met. However his emotional and social needs not so much. At least that’s how it appears on camera.
 
vallend said:
He has clean clothes, food to eat and a bed to sleep in. Physical needs are met. However his emotional and social needs not so much. At least that’s how it appears on camera.
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Totally agree. She spends maybe an hour with him in the morning and an hour in the evening, both of which she’s rushing to either get him to nursery or to bed. I know all kids are different but I know for a fact my 2 year old wouldn’t cope at all being in childcare for that long. Yes women need to work and shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for that, but financially Shan doesn’t need to work 4 full days a week but she does because she’s greedy. And because she cares more about money than the emotional well-being of her child.
 
realistic_real_life said:
What’s she done? Can’t be bothered to search her on Instagram and give her any engagement!
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realistic_real_life said:
The audacity 😂. Cookies everywhere.

And it’s over a picture of George sitting at his punishment table
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Tbh the sitting facing the wall thing.. I don’t see the problem? He probably likes sitting at his own table and do you really think if you tell a two year told to stay where they are and stare at a wall they will listen? I doubt it lol. He was probably happy as Larry eating his food.

I don’t think she’s a bad mom at all. It’s just aspects of her personality that I find annoying. Nothing to do with her parenting. No one is perfect.
 
Latest YouTube rant!!!!

The bit that gets me is she isn’t a solo working mum where you have zero support or a second income. She’s someone who’s husband works away but they choose to live apart and live that life. She could have easily had military accommodation and lived as a family. She also has her family at beck and call and who she now states she heavily replies on. We all have choices and if you choose that choice then you need to deal with it.

Another thing that winds me up is the I’m a civil servant I’m a civil servant. To me it’s just another braggy comment another reason to get attention. Who actually cares.

Also FULLY agree with the above and her joking about pregnancy and people shouldn’t be asking her if she is pregnant.

I actually l can’t believe how many people blow smoke up her bum either. It just blows my mind.
 
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