Helen Anderson #8 No Masks, No Pubes, Relax Be Cool

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SHEEP said:
Yes I agree about making an attempt. I think that people think marriage and relationships should be perfect 100% of the time and it's just not the case. I'm not saying we should live in the 40s where things like domestic violence and marital rape were just acceptable but I genuinely know people who will leave a relationship if they have one mild argument because "that's not what love should be like". Which is ridiculous.
But at the same time, we don't really know what effort either of them put in behind the camera. And maybe I'm biased but I just get a feeling that Helen wanted it all her way and wouldn't compromise, so Maff probably did the right thing by leaving her.
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I do not know of many couples who are married or have been together for a long time, who haven’t had at least one instance where they’ve seriously considering splitting. Long term relationships take work and compromise, life throws a lot at us over the years and it’s impossible to be the perfect partner all the time. A wise person once told me ‘commitment is what you have to see you through the times when you are waiting to fall back in love’ which makes perfect sense to me. Running away at the first sign of trouble puts you on hiding to nothing.

From what I see of her online I think Helen would be a complete nightmare to live with, she is a total and utter brat. So Maff probably does feel that he tried as hard as he could to make it work, and got to the stage where he needed to leave for the sake of his own wellbeing. Only the two of them really know the truth about their relationship and what the dynamics between them were - wether Helen is capable of honest reflection on the situation is debatable.
 
Wooooow that wedding blues video. She comes off as an ungrateful witch! If maff already had second thoughts that probably didn’t help.

also- referring to it constantly as MY wedding, MY day, me, I, mine... maff wasn’t even a consideration was he? ‘I remember walking back to my room’ err ok.

she couldn’t let go and enjoy HER wedding and thought they’d run out of Prosecco. I’m sure her wedding planner appreciates that glowing review.

also lol how she adds that you shouldn’t put pressure on yourself and compare your plans to ‘perfect weddings’. Was she not featured in rock n roll bride mag and still bEsT MaTes with Kat who makes it? Helen chats so much tit she contradicts herself constantly that video was SO unnecessary and just sounded bleeping selfish and bratty.
 
Helen would have been a nightmare to deal with for planning her wedding. I bet if there was anything that they couldn't do for logistical reasons, she just wouldn't hear it.
My friend got married at the same venue and her wedding was beautiful, rustic, intimate and still elegant, it was worlds apart from Helen and I know which one id rather go to
 
Disneylifeonly said:
Helen would have been a nightmare to deal with for planning her wedding. I bet if there was anything that they couldn't do for logistical reasons, she just wouldn't hear it.
My friend got married at the same venue and her wedding was beautiful, rustic, intimate and still elegant, it was worlds apart from Helen and I know which one id rather go to
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I've seen 2 weddings now similar to Helen's, both very showy, both very forced and both featured in that rock n roll bride and both ended within a year.
I'm not saying that people can't have big, showy weddings and still be committed to each other and have long lasting marriages but it does seem that a lot of the time the ott-Ness and money throwing is to over compensate on something.
Weddings are stressful whether you have 5 guests or 500 but if you're truly committed because of the marriage and love side, that shines through everything, and unfortunately with Helen's and the other weddings I've seen similar, it just didn't.
 
SHEEP said:
Can I also add that in my personal opinion, I think if Helen had left him, a lot of people (not saying on here but her general fan base) would praise her for being strong and leaving when she knows it isn't right or working out. I think society generally blames relationship breakdown (in hetro relationships) on the man. If a woman leaves, she is powerful. If a man leaves, he is a coward. Which tbh isn't very fair.
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I think the fact that it's her channel and the narrative would have been completely controlled by her (as this scenario was also) would mean that the reactions from fans are always going to support her side.
 
Bella205 said:
Is there a video where she announces that they have split up? Or a video as to why?
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She made a "We Broke Up" video but that's now been deleted, I don't think she explained much of what happened, she just said he didn't want to be a husband anymore....



....however in her Current Feelings and Favs video she said she started arguments with Maff for no reason etc (they broke up shortly after that video).

I think after the wedding she didn't have anything to focus on so was probably miserable that the spotlight was no longer on being a Bridezilla and it's was just back to the boring life of stale videos and house parties, she even says she was very jealous of other YouTubers having exciting things happening to them and she wasn't.

Someone said on GG that she said in a video "when you get married, you don't think about the legal contract" I can't find which video she said that in, but says it all really 🙄
 
i wonder if he went through with the wedding in hopes that it would fix the problems but it was just a big band-aid that eventually was torn off!
i find it hard to believe that “he didnt want to be a husband anymore” that sounds like he became bored of it (which may be the case, none of us really know)
i think he didnt want to be the husband of a manic, egotistical, boozey vlogger
 
I think he just fell out of love with her. I think the wedding in a weird way was the last ditch attempt to see if he could keep a hold of the last little bit. Like I said he didn’t seem to love her in the wedding video. Also if you fall out of love with someone you can’t just “make it work”. You can’t stay with them cause they don’t make you happy anymore. You over look things and comprise when you love some, that’s what makes me think he didn’t any more. He didn’t want to make it work with someone he didn’t have feelings for. I never felt sorry for her when he left, it’s two people in a relationship and both your feelings matter. I felt mortified he left so quickly after the wedding, he shouldn’t have gone through with it. I’m glad he put his feelings and mental health first cause he seems to be thriving now.
 
SHEEP said:
Considering the show Helen made of it, I imagine he probably didn't want to embarrass her by cancelling early or ditching her at the alter. Which in the long run probably would have been kinder to her. But ultimately whatever he did in that situation, he would have looked like an arse and Helen would be left feeling like tit.
I think if they would have waited longer to get married, or had a much more intimate ceremony things might have been different for them. Whether they split up or stayed together, I don't know, but I think it certainly would have been less humiliating and more of a joint decision.
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I remember how upset she was that she had to wait two years for her venue as she wanted to get married even sooner
 
souplessb1tch said:
The extensions and heat styling, etc. certainly aren't helping but this is also a symptom of hormone issues, and especially with her coming off of hormonal birth control and gaining weight rapidly and the skin issues I would not be surprised at all. I know she will never examine this, though, unless she's paid to.
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How to get it examined though - nhs won't cover that, she would have to pay.
 
Nopesorry123 said:
I remember how upset she was that she had to wait two years for her venue as she wanted to get married even sooner
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It's almost like.... other people.... booked..... to get married there too! *shock horror*

What's the betting she used the "DON'T YOU KNOW WHO I AM?" card?

(After all she loooooves it when she introduces herself as Helen Anderson and people respond "I know who you are!") 😂
 
I think she really loved Maff and I think he was waiting for the bridezilla thing to calm down after the wedding but soon realised that the gobby self-centred bride was now his wife and that probably scared him a bit. I feel sorry that she's still so messed up from it though, Fil and Mark seemed to just be filling the void in her but I don't think she'll truly be happy and settled until she really let's go of Maff and deals with that. She's so bitter since him, everything she says and does is so defensive and she's clealry got her guard up and putting on an act to protect herself so she doesn't get hurt again.
 
Lunamoon22 said:
She made a "We Broke Up" video but that's now been deleted, I don't think she explained much of what happened, she just said he didn't want to be a husband anymore....



....however in her Current Feelings and Favs video she said she started arguments with Maff for no reason etc (they broke up shortly after that video).

I think after the wedding she didn't have anything to focus on so was probably miserable that the spotlight was no longer on being a Bridezilla and it's was just back to the boring life of stale videos and house parties, she even says she was very jealous of other YouTubers having exciting things happening to them and she wasn't.

Someone said on GG that she said in a video "when you get married, you don't think about the legal contract" I can't find which video she said that in, but says it all really 🙄
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I think its been in a roundup video since and yeah she came off astonishingly naive for someone who should in theory have had more exposure to contracts etc than the average person as she's self employed
 
Swipeupyouguys said:
How to get it examined though - nhs won't cover that, she would have to pay.
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Not necessarily - hormone issues can be diagnosed by a simple blood test at the GP, and if her bloods or other symptoms indicate hormonal issues, she can be referred to an endocrinologist or gynaecologist (if it is gynaecology related) to fix it on the NHS. I've just been diagnosed with PCOS and it was found because I went to the doctor about rapid weight gain and my hair falling out despite me actively watching how I'm eating and exercising - I was diagnosed by my GP and had it confirmed at an ultrasound and now I'm on medication to help balance it. I know Helen isnt doing anything to help herself in terms of eating well etc, but if it's hormonal it's certainly going to push those symptoms along faster.
 
Ohnoitsnot said:
Not necessarily - hormone issues can be diagnosed by a simple blood test at the GP, and if her bloods or other symptoms indicate hormonal issues, she can be referred to an endocrinologist or gynaecologist (if it is gynaecology related) to fix it on the NHS. I've just been diagnosed with PCOS and it was found because I went to the doctor about rapid weight gain and my hair falling out despite me actively watching how I'm eating and exercising - I was diagnosed by my GP and had it confirmed at an ultrasound and now I'm on medication to help balance it. I know Helen isnt doing anything to help herself in terms of eating well etc, but if it's hormonal it's certainly going to push those symptoms along faster.
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Agreed, I’ve had all this done too. Just needs to speak to her GP.
 
WalkingInTheWoods said:
Please listen from 16:40 in this video where she starts talking about how she knows people who have had drastic career changes later on in life and how amazing it is and how supportive she is of the person and their career change.
Fast forward to her making fun of FIL with his career change.
It’s all very telling - either she’s lying in this video or really just doesn’t like FIL and that’s why making fun of his choices?!?! Very odd.
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I think maybe an element of snobbery around it too. Doesn't she mention that he went to uni then goes "now he does gas and heating lol" as if that's below someone with a degree? It's such an elitist take, my boyfriend earns more than me having done an apprenticeship, I certainly don't take the piss...

EDIT: I could be wrong, I watched the video a few days ago so I can't remember specifics but I'm sure she mentioned he went to uni?
 
but Helen did go out with someone with a college degree job and he called her unintelligent 😂 who does she think she is, really.

On the wedding topic I also know someone who went full bridezilla and they're pushing everyone away from them. Why cant people like Helen see that the wedding is the least important thing, your relationship and friendships are too valuable to let status and internet clout get in the way of. Seems like she let the wedding take over.
 
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