Estee Lalonde #9 Hen Solo - May the Farce by With You - if it's still on...

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consumerism makes u free said:
What even are these ultra mean comments she references at the end of the video? "How could you post such horrible things to me when I'm suffering?" (paraphrasing). Like what, people commented that this was the natural conclusion to an ultimatum and then being high off your own farts about it across the internet afterward? Because it is?

If she really finds those comments so mean then she's really never going to get a grip on her mental bullshit.
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I was wondering that too, are people saying nasty stuff to her in DMs? LIke I really doubt it... more like the I told you so...
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Well she's getting those views she wanted, and she posted about some article on her stories that sold a lot of Mirror Water products at the same time. Weirdly calculating, like I feel bad for her but at the same time things still don't feel genuine? I'm in pain, perfect time to profit from it...


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Vlog went up end of May with wedding planning in the title. I’m sure I remember content in June at least mentioning the wedding. By mid-July we knew on here that the wedding was officially off, which means it would’ve been earlier than that in real life. That is not much runway between actively making wedding content and calling it off. Which would be fine if it was a sudden breakup but she seems to imply it was a very slow and months long decision.

My main observation is the disconnect between her emotions here, the way she talked about him, their relationship, the life they supposedly shared… and the cold, crass, removed way she spoke about him and their relationship and engagement beforehand. It’s like she was hoping the wedding wouldn’t actually happen and now she gets to let her emotions out. The entire thing is weird af. I’m not saying it’s necessarily staged but something is odd.

I also don’t think her issue is ‘control’. I think it’s mostly lack of a stable sense of self and uncontrolled emotional swings.
 
consumerism makes u free said:
What even are these ultra mean comments she references at the end of the video? "How could you post such horrible things to me when I'm suffering?" (paraphrasing). Like what, people commented that this was the natural conclusion to an ultimatum and then being high off your own farts about it across the internet afterward? Because it is?

If she really finds those comments so mean then she's really never going to get a grip on her mental bullshit.
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Interesting, because underneath her Grounding Myself video from two weeks ago, there are some very similarly worded comments along the lines of „sad to see negativity/negative comments“, love you Estee, have watched you forever“. The thing was, that there weren’t any negative comments. There were questions asked about her engagement and lack of ring. But nobody had attacked her or anything. Makes me now think that she or somebody close to her wrote those comments 👀
 
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Interesting, because underneath her Grounding Myself video from two weeks ago, there are some very similarly worded comments along the lines of „sad to see negativity/negative comments“, love you Estee, have watched you forever“. The thing was, that there weren’t any negative comments. There were questions asked about her engagement and lack of ring. But nobody had attacked her or anything. Makes me now think that she or somebody close to her wrote those comments 👀
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Good points, but honestly if the guy's family saw what she was saying bout him online after the proposal they would be pissed, I know I would.
 
I just feel like so much of her heartache could be eased if she could let this idea of an engagement and wedding go. I don't mean to offend anyone, I know it's important to some people, but it's really not the be-all and end-all. Now she's had 2 long term relationships end and both seem to have been because of her wanting to tick a box that she's engaged. She said herself she was more bothered about being engaged than the actual wedding and marriage! Maybe now that she can actually say she's been engaged she can relax a bit and start to heal? I don't know what I'm trying to say, I just feel sad for her that she seems to have put so much pressure on herself to have this big engagement and wedding and it's ended in more heartbreak. She needs to do a lot of self-reflection IMO.
 
queenamber said:
I just feel like so much of her heartache could be eased if she could let this idea of an engagement and wedding go. I don't mean to offend anyone, I know it's important to some people, but it's really not the be-all and end-all. Now she's had 2 long term relationships end and both seem to have been because of her wanting to tick a box that she's engaged. She said herself she was more bothered about being engaged than the actual wedding and marriage! Maybe now that she can actually say she's been engaged she can relax a bit and start to heal? I don't know what I'm trying to say, I just feel sad for her that she seems to have put so much pressure on herself to have this big engagement and wedding and it's ended in more heartbreak. She needs to do a lot of self-reflection IMO.
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Yeah I think the tears are less to do with the man or relationship, and more to do with the milestones she was desperate to reach that continue to elude her. I don't watch Estee consistently but caught the clip of her saying that the validation she felt from being 'chosen' (as someone's wife-to-be) meant everything to her; a truly depressing perspective.
 
Hasanah123 said:
Its time to be brutally honest with yourself and who you have become

Unmet needs and trauma from childhood is what you need to heal from. There is so much more to this than an engagement being called off

Go get a therapist, get offline and help yourself
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I feel the exact same! The way it was all about the engagement.. and he was "a nice guy" "a good egg"... she needs somebody to love her to fill a void, she did not seem deeply in love (after only 2 years of relationship, come on!).
Sad but so so predictible.
 
The break up announcement are always the same. There's no bad blood, we still love each other, we just drifted appart blablabla. In Estee's case it's even more : " we BOTH really wanted to get married".
Essentially it sounds like they were not in love but were very good friends who should not be together or live together.
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Not that I want her to film more videos of her crying at all, but I always find that we get to see the old Estée, not her generic girl boss personna.
 
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I do believe her that she is sad about calling it off, but I'm not sure that she is sad about a relationship that ended. Haven't watched the entire thing admittedly, but it seems like it might have hit home that they were getting married for the wrong reasons and she is more upset about that, rather than the relationship not working out.
 
Is it me or the timeline doesn't add up? She keeps making references that 'she's been processing this for a while', 'that they have been going through a process before that as in deciding what to do', etc. and it seems like they have been engaged for years, but c'mon, when they even started officially dating? Wasn't that long ago. Also, the question of 'I don't know if any of you have been through a breakup when you still love the person? Ehmmm, that's the case in 95% of the breakups. I don't enjoy seeing people crying, obviously, but she speaking as if he was the love of his life, that they love each other so much, etc. etc. when nothing of that has transpired and everyone knew it was transactional... it is weird. This girl needs to stop making stories in her head, go to therapy and get in touch with reality.
 
Yeah during her TikTok proposal ultimatum rants she said they had met at the beginning of the pandemic, but it seemed like they were both with other people at the time. They kept in contact and from what she said apparently started dating in 2021. So 2023 was when she wanted that proposal, as per her two year rule. Not a super short relationship, but given the timeline of when he proposed and her immediately beginning to plan the wedding, I wonder when they started their uncoupling process.
 
I do think that her over-excited rush into wedding planning was the beginning of the ultimate end. We called it here that it wasn't going to end pretty, but I bet the guy thought he'd have some time to get used to the thought. he didn't, at all, he never stood a chance. Estee will have had a very very detailed plan on how her wedding is supposed to look like for years and years and went head-through-wall into making that happen asap. Add to that, that this was all about her. Poor guy probably didn't get any say in anything, apart from being told where to show up.
And given how weird Estee was about everything, it's kind of lucky he was supposed to attend his own wedding. She probably should have a wedding to herself and get it over with.
 
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Is it me or the timeline doesn't add up? She keeps making references that 'she's been processing this for a while', 'that they have been going through a process before that as in deciding what to do', etc. and it seems like they have been engaged for years, but c'mon, when they even started officially dating? Wasn't that long ago. Also, the question of 'I don't know if any of you have been through a breakup when you still love the person? Ehmmm, that's the case in 95% of the breakups. I don't enjoy seeing people crying, obviously, but she speaking as if he was the love of his life, that they love each other so much, etc. etc. when nothing of that has transpired and everyone knew it was transactional... it is weird. This girl needs to stop making stories in her head, go to therapy and get in touch with reality.
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To me it wasn't clear what she was referring to exactly mentioning again that she's been going through a lot for the past couple of months. That's the generic stuff she was already saying when in the house. To me it sounded like she was dealing with stuff already this year, and on top of that recently they decided to call the wedding off. But I'm not sure obviously as it's all so cryptic as per usual. Gotta give her that, she still makes a lot more sense than Naomi Smart who can't even construct a proper sentence that makes sense.
 
After watching her video I have a feeling they were possibly not set on the same timeline, and not compatible.

Estée obviously couldn't wait for a wedding, and perhaps wanted to have a child quite soon after that.
When she talks about "control" she may refer to having a rigid vision of how her life was going to unfold from there.
But it wasn't just about her anymore...
I can totally understand that someone would prefer to build the relationship organically and not rush it all.
 
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