Yes people will only judge based on what they see.. So if you portray yourself as a tit person then I'm sorry but people are going to think you are a tit person???
I don't get what she's whinging about, she comes on drunk, talking about strange men putting her to bed, talks tit about men behind their backs but still continues to go on dates with them (I'm assuming for the food and drink??), shows herself drinking all the time, never talks about doing anything with her son, acts disrespectful when she is invited to a training event. I could go on. I don't understand how she expects people to react??