Enjoying being Emma #6 Every day getting more and more snappy, now even school doesn’t keep her happy

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Soggyfeetsummer said:
That’s what I don’t understand. If she is going to put her kids in nursery and have a spa day, have your spa day on a nursery day and enjoy family time at the weekend. It’s very strange.
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I’ve put my daughter in holiday club today. I never normally do it and felt so much guilt but I thought it better to have a day where she goes there and has fun with her mates and I do all my boring work, so that we have the rest of the holidays together, rather than me have to stick her in front of the tv repeatedly to find some time to catch up. I’d never stick her in holiday club the day AFTER I’d had a spa day, though! Makes no sense!
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Justheretolurk said:
I’ve put my daughter in holiday club today. I never normally do it and felt so much guilt but I thought it better to have a day where she goes there and has fun with her mates and I do all my boring work, so that we have the rest of the holidays together, rather than me have to stick her in front of the tv repeatedly to find some time to catch up. I’d never stick her in holiday club the day AFTER I’d had a spa day, though! Makes no sense!
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I’d also definitely not put her in childcare so I could clean the bloody garden path either!
 
Why do they pander him so much?

I also don't get why they have to make excuses like saying they don't have enough money for the shop?
Just say no, you're not having something?
Why lie instead?
Even "You've got plenty of toys at home" would be better than lying that they don't have money 🤷🏻‍♀️
 

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WhatABore said:
Why do they pander him so much?

I also don't get why they have to make excuses like saying they don't have enough money for the shop?
Just say no, you're not having something?
Why lie instead?
Even "You've got plenty of toys at home" would be better than lying that they don't have money 🤷🏻‍♀️
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What infuriates me is (well, there are many things, but one…) that she didn’t even pay for the park tickets as she used Clubcard points! So she totally could afford maybe £15 on a new toy…let’s not forget she had her own spa day on Sunday!
 
Justheretolurk said:
What infuriates me is (well, there are many things, but one…) that she didn’t even pay for the park tickets as she used Clubcard points! So she totally could afford maybe £15 on a new toy…let’s not forget she had her own spa day on Sunday!
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It's no surprise he kicked off last time though. Because he knows it gets him what he wants and they pander to him so much.
Like in the train museum, he kicked off because he wanted 2 trains and she said 1. So he got 2.
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Not to mention the fact theyve basically bought him a present of a big train track for being "good" today 🙃
 
WhatABore said:
Why do they pander him so much?

I also don't get why they have to make excuses like saying they don't have enough money for the shop?
Just say no, you're not having something?
Why lie instead?
Even "You've got plenty of toys at home" would be better than lying that they don't have money 🤷🏻‍♀️
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They don't have money for the shop?!? Yet has 100s for spa days and shepherd huts. Agreed! Why lie?! Tell him no or set him a limit.
 
It’s just bizarre behaviour to me to give him two trains and a track just so he doesn’t kick off? If she didn’t want to buy him something she could of bought his piggy bank along and said he can buy something with his own money.
I have a 4 year old and if we do a day out somewhere like that I’ll buy him a keyring or something small on the way out and he is chuffed to bits.
 
cherrypicker said:
And she wonders why he acts like a spoilt brat when she treats him like that.

Now before anyone rips at me for saying that about an innocent child I don’t think he is one … it’s just how SHE has made him and it’s not his fault.
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100% agree!
She either gives into to him like with the trains in the train museum because he's kicked off, or she says no completely, there's no inbetween!

And then lies about not having money for the shop simply so he won't kick off!
 
He’s also going to continue behaving that way if he think ‘being good’ (ie not expressing negative emotions like a normal 4 year old) always gets him a present. What happens when she doesn’t have a second hand train track in reserve from Facebook marketplace? Children are like sponges and very quickly he’s going to learn that being good = present and if she doesn’t have one, he will revert back to kicking off
 
Why can’t she just say ‘no’. Part of growing up is learning you can’t have everything you want, at school they’re not going to pander and give in to him each time he wants something another child has. She is encouraging this bizarre behaviour, as she is too scared to cause a scene. They do have money- they choose not to use it on enjoyment for their children.
 
I just cannot get over this woman's behaviour she is so strange! Plenty a time have I dragged my daughter kicking and screaming out of places because I've said no. I never give into her by having a present at home etc. If my child acts like that she has to face the consequences and its all part of growing up! He's going to grow up being an entitled brat at this rate! Why did she ever have children it baffles me!
 
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