Enjoying Being Emma #4 Always in a negative mood, trying eating some proper bloody food!

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Globetrotter said:
I really struggle to see her posts, those poor kids will sense her attitude and mood, the lack of patience, lack of any kind of happy energy and it will spark them off negatively. Specially James cos he's mingling with other people nowadays at nursery who will be loving, warm and joyful around him, he'll sense her as being off straight away. My kids always play up for me when I get home from work after a particularly hard day. I purposefully give myself a talking to before I get home and shut my brain off from work, it's not nice for them to pick up on it. I'd be seriously having a chat to a mate or a doctor if I was feeling as bad as she seems to :( really sad, John doesn't seem a light hearted kinda bloke either
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100% this.
Some days are hard but to be in that frame of mind day in day out must be so draining. I have a 3yo and if I need a reset I just lock myself in the bathroom for a few mins and breath 😂
She goes on so much about having no local family to help but that is the reality for so many people. She does herself no favours, they go out but it's always just them to a park or walk etc. If she went to more toddler or baby groups she may have found mum friends to meet up with and share the parenting load and he would have some children his age to play with on weekends. (I know not everyone likes baby groups but I just think it would help her to spend some time with other parents).
 
Let’s hope she hasn’t spread her covid to anyone else…
 

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justwondering said:
100% this.
Some days are hard but to be in that frame of mind day in day out must be so draining. I have a 3yo and if I need a reset I just lock myself in the bathroom for a few mins and breath 😂
She goes on so much about having no local family to help but that is the reality for so many people. She does herself no favours, they go out but it's always just them to a park or walk etc. If she went to more toddler or baby groups she may have found mum friends to meet up with and share the parenting load and he would have some children his age to play with on weekends. (I know not everyone likes baby groups but I just think it would help her to spend some time with other parents).
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The way she always goes on about not having family to look after her kids is as if she thinks that's something most people have.
I don't know many people that have the luxury of family babysitting, especially as much as she seems to think people do.
 
NormaBates said:
I had 3 under 5 (mad when I think back now 🤪) and my husband was often away at work. And I managed just fine. Without constant naps, baths, and over priced chocolate 🙄🙄🙄🙄
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My mum had 4 of us under 5, living in London doing daily tube trains! Emma- Jesus are you waiting for him to start school before you take them both out or something?
This messages screams issues to me personally.
 
melonsandlemons said:
Sorry. What. You can’t manage your two children together? I have never ever heard a mother declare this about a 3 and 1 year old- ever.
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What?!
"James Hattie and a pram"
Well it'll be James and the Hattie in the pram, no need to make it sound like more.
But what? 😂
How can you not manage that?
My daughter is 10 months older than James and my other youngest is 4 months older than Hattie.
It's never been an issue taking them out by myself.
I don't understand what she can't manage?!

Might be easier for you Emma hun if you'd have taught James to walk nicely next to you instead of constantly restraining him on reins!
 
I had two under two… wtaf. She needs to give her head a wobble. But I do pity her.. she is clearly struggling. I mean; have you EVER seen a photo of her actually smiling?! Like genuine happy smiles!? Even in her wedding photos she looks like she’s chewing a wasp. She will suck the joy right out of those children, and her husband… he will no doubt have enough one day and be off… then it will give her just cause to be miserable - I think she is just one of those people who is fuelled by it
 
Hattie would have been none the wiser and would have enjoyed her day at nursery but I could not go out with one child on a proper day out where I'm gonna see their daddy working and getting treats without the other! I feel bad enough taking our littlest out when big two are in school! I try n take each of them out for a walk round local garden centre now and then for bit of alone time with them but I couldn't do owt like this
 
Yes that’s one saving grace i guess, she will have had fun with her little friends and actually be allowed to play with toys at nursery… I bet Hattie actually loves it rather than being around Emma



Globetrotter said:
Hattie would have been none the wiser and would have enjoyed her day at nursery but I could not go out with one child on a proper day out where I'm gonna see their daddy working and getting treats without the other! I feel bad enough taking our littlest out when big two are in school! I try n take each of them out for a walk round local garden centre now and then for bit of alone time with them but I couldn't do owt like this
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Emma should never have had two children. The post about yesterday and how nice it was to say yes to James because she wasn’t sorting one of Hattie’s needs is really sad. She isn’t teaching James about compassion and sharing. She’s worried about James being in a bad mood for a hair cut? She really does tread on egg shells around him. It’s a 10 minute hair cut? Can’t he sit still for 10 minutes without being in a strop because he hasn’t got mummy’s attention? My kid is the same age and sits for a hair cut, he just does 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
Sugarhoney said:
Emma should never have had two children. The post about yesterday and how nice it was to say yes to James because she wasn’t sorting one of Hattie’s needs is really sad. She isn’t teaching James about compassion and sharing. She’s worried about James being in a bad mood for a hair cut? She really does tread on egg shells around him. It’s a 10 minute hair cut? Can’t he sit still for 10 minutes without being in a strop because he hasn’t got mummy’s attention? My kid is the same age and sits for a hair cut, he just does 🤷🏻‍♀️
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I’m beginning to wonder if he has additional needs the way she goes on about him tbh. He’s 3, Emma you’re the adult in charge- not him.
 
melonsandlemons said:
I’m beginning to wonder if he has additional needs the way she goes on about him tbh. He’s 3, Emma you’re the adult in charge- not him.
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I've thought this for a long time. I did wonder if that's partly why she kept him on reins for so long.
If he's having meltdowns each time she says no or that she's busy with Hattie then there's definitely something there.
Whether that be additional needs or just her parenting.

Hattie is almost 1 now. James should've got used to the attention not always being on him.
There's the same age gap between my 2 and she's always understood.
 
Sugarhoney said:
Emma should never have had two children. The post about yesterday and how nice it was to say yes to James because she wasn’t sorting one of Hattie’s needs is really sad. She isn’t teaching James about compassion and sharing. She’s worried about James being in a bad mood for a hair cut? She really does tread on egg shells around him. It’s a 10 minute hair cut? Can’t he sit still for 10 minutes without being in a strop because he hasn’t got mummy’s attention? My kid is the same age and sits for a hair cut, he just does 🤷🏻‍♀️
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As a mum of 2 (with a 6 yr age gap!) I rarely do anything with just 1 child - and certainly wouldn’t leave my youngest in nursery in order to do so! My eldest went away with his cousins for a few days over Easter and it was lovely spending time with my youngest doing things the other wouldn’t enjoy so much, but I knew he was having an amazing time away with his cousins and grandparents.
Hattie surely would have loved seeing everything at the show - how can she not cope with a toddler and a baby? Maybe should have left a bigger age gap knowing she struggled with James and a full time job.
 
That story has honestly made me feel so sad. It really sounds like Hattie is a bit resented and an inconvenience. Why does she need to say no to James? Surely Hattie having a cuddle because she’s bumped her head doesn’t take hours; “Hattie has just hurt herself so I can’t help you right now, give me 5 minutes and then I’ll play with you” would prevent the “no” and give the attention to both children. Even better, “poor Hattie has just hurt herself, how about you help cheer her up with me because I know how good you are at making her smile and then we can do what you’ve asked me”. Stop playing them off against one another and give James some responsibility and a sense of importance!
 
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