Enjoying Being Emma #4 Always in a negative mood, trying eating some proper bloody food!

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Definitely a stage of life she just needed to tick off, so sad tho when she went through so much to have them but now puts them in nursery at every opportunity. Yes of course parenting 2 is harder than parenting one, that's obvious, more likes and dislikes to cater for and less chance to serve your own needs but most parents realise that this is only for a few years in the grand scheme of things and to see my kids happy means so much more to me than performing some self care ritual 🤣
I've loved having them off school this week, I've worked 3 days, ive been surrounded by the 3 of them on the evenings and my days off, we've been out, I've read a book, I've taken frequent lovely showers, separated them from scrapping with each other and we've all had some proper belly laughs together ❤️ they drive me mad at times honestly but that's just kids!
 
Globetrotter said:
Definitely a stage of life she just needed to tick off, so sad tho when she went through so much to have them but now puts them in nursery at every opportunity. Yes of course parenting 2 is harder than parenting one, that's obvious, more likes and dislikes to cater for and less chance to serve your own needs but most parents realise that this is only for a few years in the grand scheme of things and to see my kids happy means so much more to me than performing some self care ritual 🤣
I've loved having them off school this week, I've worked 3 days, ive been surrounded by the 3 of them on the evenings and my days off, we've been out, I've read a book, I've taken frequent lovely showers, separated them from scrapping with each other and we've all had some proper belly laughs together ❤ they drive me mad at times honestly but that's just kids!
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This exactly.
I got told I was a "lucky one" on here the other day because I said I don't understand why you have kids to then wish the time away and hate school holidays.
I'm not lucky, I just want to spend time with my kids 😂 They fight, they argue ect. I get stressed but
I didn't have them for someone else to care for. They're mine.
 
WhatABore said:
My 1 year old gets up anywhere bewtween 4 and 5.30 😂
6.30 is great for a 1 year old.
I don't know many 1 year olds that sleep that late 😂
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My first would sleep until you woke her. If you didn’t then it would be gone 9am! Even now at almost 4 we have to get her up during the week, at the weekends she gets herself up between 8-9.
My second woke up at 5.04 this morning and that’s pretty normal for her and I’m used to it now. I don’t try and make her sleep later. So my point being even with a late sleeper as a first child, If your second isn’t the same why are you still suffering with the early wake after a year? She sleeps though most nights doesn’t she? She could be like my delightful cherub and be up at the crack of dawn AND not sleep longer than an hour or two at a stretch at six months old. Think that would tip Emma over the edge!
 
a.pain said:
My first would sleep until you woke her. If you didn’t then it would be gone 9am! Even now at almost 4 we have to get her up during the week, at the weekends she gets herself up between 8-9.
My second woke up at 5.04 this morning and that’s pretty normal for her and I’m used to it now. I don’t try and make her sleep later. So my point being even with a late sleeper as a first child, If your second isn’t the same why are you still suffering with the early wake after a year? She sleeps though most nights doesn’t she? She could be like my delightful cherub and be up at the crack of dawn AND not sleep longer than an hour or two at a stretch at six months old. Think that would tip Emma over the edge!
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Yup. According to Emma, both Hattie and James slept through the night since a few weeks old.
Yet at the same time, constantly complains she had to get up during the night 😂
She puts her to bed at 5.30. I certainly wouldn't complain at sleeping through then until 6.30!
 
I’m a teacher, and my daughter attends nursery for a couple of days a week (the others days family help out). During the holidays I keep her in nursery for those two days, but I do it because on those two days I can get everything done I’ve been putting off all year, and then on the other days I’m with her I can plans activities that just are for her/our family. I would feel like it was such a wasted summer if she was away from me five days a week. She’s made it very clear that she doesn’t enjoy her children's company.
 
She smiled! Like almost a genuine, heartfelt smile 😱 something needs to change for her, I think maybe she's really lonely where they live 😔 she's so young and should be so full of life and love, I know you can't be like that everyday, everyone has a down day but her only good days are once in a blue moon when she's around extended family. Looks like they love James, the kids need to be around that so much more x
 
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She smiled! Like almost a genuine, heartfelt smile 😱 something needs to change for her, I think maybe she's really lonely where they live 😔 she's so young and should be so full of life and love, I know you can't be like that everyday, everyone has a down day but her only good days are once in a blue moon when she's around extended family. Looks like they love James, the kids need to be around that so much more x
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I think she'd be better off moving close to family.
But at the same time, even when she lived near them, she was constantly miserable.
Nothing in her life has made her happy, losing weight, getting married, having kids.
None of it 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
I personally think she's just a miserable twit with a superiority complex

I used to genuinely feel sorry for her but I honestly think she's just one of those draining, miserable people who's never happy no matter what

Well, on the other hand...maybe she is happy but she doesn't express it like others? I just get major Adrian Mole vibes from her, thinks she's some sort of tortured literary genius, when in reality she's really not 🥴
 
ChubClubThug said:
I personally think she's just a miserable twit with a superiority complex

I used to genuinely feel sorry for her but I honestly think she's just one of those draining, miserable people who's never happy no matter what

Well, on the other hand...maybe she is happy but she doesn't express it like others? I just get major Adrian Mole vibes from her, thinks she's some sort of tortured literary genius, when in reality she's really not 🥴
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I think a big problem she has too is comparing others constantly with herself and what they appear to have that she doesn't.

Especially when she constantly says things like "We don't have parents to baby sit all the time"
"This is only the 12th meal we've been out together since James was born"
"We've only been the the cinema once since James was born"
Things that most people don't have/do, especially as parents but she seems to list them as if they'd be shocking to others or people would feel sorry for her?

Don't know if that makes sense 😂
 
WhatABore said:
I think a big problem she has too is comparing others constantly with herself and what they appear to have that she doesn't.

Especially when she constantly says things like "We don't have parents to baby sit all the time"
"This is only the 12th meal we've been out together since James was born"
"We've only been the the cinema once since James was born"
Things that most people don't have/do, especially as parents but she seems to list them as if they'd be shocking to others or people would feel sorry for her?

Don't know if that makes sense 😂
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Makes perfect sense to me because I'm in the same position as she is, I've never had a babysitter for my youngest but I deffo don't count the days like she does 😳 it is hard at times but she's making it harder by being resentful. This is all she dreamed of, she needs reminding of that. She's a pure martyr it's pathetic. She also chose to have baby no. 2 quite close to James so she should have realised what life would be like
 
ChubClubThug said:
Makes perfect sense to me because I'm in the same position as she is, I've never had a babysitter for my youngest but I deffo don't count the days like she does 😳 it is hard at times but she's making it harder by being resentful. This is all she dreamed of, she needs reminding of that. She's a pure martyr it's pathetic. She also chose to have baby no. 2 quite close to James so she should have realised what life would be like
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I'm in the same position too but I think she seems to think it's something everyone has. When in reality, out of all the parents I know, only a couple have that option.
Like everything she states as if to be 'shocking' or whatever, is what I'd consider normal and I think most people would 🤷🏻‍♀️
But she doesn't seem to see the luxuries she does have compared to others.
 
My kids are nearly 10, 6 and 3 and the cinema is one of mine and the hubbies favourite things to do but I've probably seen 4 movies since becoming a mum (adult ones not movies for juniors) and 2 of those have been this year since cinemas have reopened cos of James bond coming out. Being a parent changes things but jeez it was bloody lovely to do it but I never thought about how I missed it all those years when we weren't going. We were busy doing equally lovely things instead as a family!
We live opposite my mum and dad and they have them when I'm at work but despite them being like 50metres away I don't ask them to have the kids at any other time unless they offer to have them, luckily my mum knew we really wanted to see James bond so she came across one afternoon and demanded we went but otherwise we'd have seen it on prime one day!
 
Globetrotter said:
My kids are nearly 10, 6 and 3 and the cinema is one of mine and the hubbies favourite things to do but I've probably seen 4 movies since becoming a mum (adult ones not movies for juniors) and 2 of those have been this year since cinemas have reopened cos of James bond coming out. Being a parent changes things but jeez it was bloody lovely to do it but I never thought about how I missed it all those years when we weren't going. We were busy doing equally lovely things instead as a family!
We live opposite my mum and dad and they have them when I'm at work but despite them being like 50metres away I don't ask them to have the kids at any other time unless they offer to have them, luckily my mum knew we really wanted to see James bond so she came across one afternoon and demanded we went but otherwise we'd have seen it on prime one day!
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My daughter is 6, we went to the cinema as a couple when she was a couple of months old to see Bourne. I had to wait til Bond came out on the dodgy box to finally see it but it wasn’t the end of the world and I didn’t count how many times I hadn’t been out in the last 6 years. God she infuriates me. How she ever became a teacher considering she hates kids is beyond me. What a bleeping miserable wet wipe she is.
 
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