Emma Drew #21 Greed, gluttony and a house full of tat, one year post WLS and still fat.

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Bubblesandflowers said:
Oh Emma you are really really outdoing yourself tonight. How dare you boast about your care giving activities.

I am a carer for my mother in law and because of her complex needs, my husband, son and I live with her. I am in a house that is not my "home" and I am reminded by my witch sister in laws about this frequently. I get treated like the help and it is absolute torture some days.
She has severe mental health issues and for the early parts of my marriage she was convinced she was possessed by a demon. I also lived for her a year whilst her children were ignoring the signs of mental illness. Some nights she hears the voices so she will be running into our room thinking we are being murdered (cause the voices say they'll kill us). The only way to get her to calm down is usually to sleep with her. This is all on top of looking after my son, my cat and normal life for me.

On a normal day for my MIL alone I will:
Wake her up, wash her, help her get dressed.
Make breakfast - usually toast, a yogurt and banana. Make sure she has a cup of tea, glass of water and her first 6 tablets.
Start work at 9am but often on edge hoping she is okay. I have a camera in our living room to keep an eye on her throughout the day. She will make herself tea but will often leave a big mess behind because she shakes.
She will usually watch TV whilst I'm working BUT will often come to see me because she forgets. She gatecrashes meetings and has got me in serious trouble at work. She doesn't understand meetings/video calls/zoom/work because of her needs. Another thing she doesn't understand is that we can eat without her seeing it. If she does not watch my son and I having lunch, she will assume we haven't had anything to eat so will nag and nag and nag at us.
Lunch time - I will make her lunch which is often 30-45 mins of cooking. She won't eat most foods so she gets her own dish cooked.
Make sure she's had lunch, 2 more tablets and water. Sometimes pop around 3pm to make her a tea but usually work until 5pm.
As soon as I finish work, I put my laptop away and tidy up my office. Head straight downstairs. Give her a drink and start dinner.
Whilst dinner is cooking I will clean the counters because she manages to get crumbs, spices and rice all over them. Sometimes we will sit and watch TV together to keep her company. But we speak different languages. I didn't learn much hebrew and her brain tumour affects the English she knows.
We will eat dinner together as a family. She will have her final 7 tablets. Watch TV for a bit with my son. Maybe talk to my in laws who deny her mental illnesses. She will go to bed around 8:30pm now as it is winter.
She will usually have the TV at volume 40+ because she is deaf and will refuse to wear hearing aids. My in laws refused to take her to her hearing aid appointment because one had a parcel delivery and the other didn't want to drive in the rain.

Weekly jobs:
Laundry at least twice (depends if she has any accidents, her last accident was last week where we had to throw away her clothes, bath mats, a whole toilet roll etc... sure you get the idea)
Change her bedding
Put her tablets into her tablet organiser.
Take her to her appointments when needed. She sees at least 5 specialists.
Get any money out she might need - I pay for all the household bills.
All the usual household cleaning - she is too weak to lift a hoover.
My husband usually goes to the supermarkets for her food so I can't take credit for that - she has a strict diet so he does a different shop for it.


So doing this ONCE does not give you any pats on the back from me. Try living this day to day and then come back.

This is normal for so many families but because you are so selfish you just don't get it. I have no privacy, I can't watch half the things I want to watch on TV. Criminal minds gave her nightmares. Nothing with even someone kissing let alone sex. Bridgerton would not go down well. I can't wear what I want most of the time. God forbid I dare wear a skirt or shorts. Or a dress without leggings. She will walk into my room whenever she feels like it.

My son is SO good and I am so blessed to have him as my baby. He is so patient and kind with his Nan. He knows when I struggle and tries to help. He gets on with his school work and really doesn't cause me bother. She has some very odd belief system that I struggle to understand. Her mental health makes some things completely unreasonable. And despite the constant worrying, grief I get from my in laws, pain MIL gives me, I still would not be able to live knowing she was struggling alone.
Maybe have a think about that boss babe.

@Katykatykaty she has made me so mad 😭😭😭
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Bless you ❤️ When you read what you've put above and then read Imma's moany little list, there's no comparison.

My first thought upon reading it, - and I'm sure I won't be the only one thinking this - is that she's making a big song and dance about it, so who's been doing this before now? Who's been taking care of him? Honestly, she really does neglect him and it makes me so sad ☹️ Millions of people around the world care for people on a daily basis and don't feel the need to post a list on Instagram, she really is a piece of work.

My Mam looked after our house, looked after the family, AND cared for my grandparents all whilst working. She almost had a nervous breakdown doing it, but do it she did without ever complaining. Imma acts like she should be given some reward for her "hard day" 🤬

Bubblesandflowers said:
No way!!!! 😂😂😂 But how do they even know if Emma is there? There isn't a username list
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They've probably seen her username scroll up when she made a comment or bought something, or probably because she's always on there lol! 😂

Anotherct said:
DAY MADE HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAH..

BOOBEAR - who are you?? I can’t take the piss cos my name is my username on there and I have a very unusual surname so she’d find me and block me 🤣🤣🤣
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Boobear is amazing! 😂
 
You are spent?! You are spent?! Try doing this day in, day out including personal care.

To once again make out that it’s a huge inconvenience being a carer to your dad (the jokes you made about him getting mixed up with his meds and your meds at Christmas, the fact you mentioned his holey clothes) is bleeping deplorable. And “keeping him company” isn’t a chore, it’s a real privilege to still have your Dad, enjoy every moment you can without it being a bleeping chore that you have to witch about on your business Instagram.

Tattle prompted you to call social services as it was highlighted here he needed help based on this shite you spout.

I would never ever treat my dad the way you treat yours and I am glad you are not my daughter.
 
She has so little awareness it's astounding. I don't think she realised how her dad actually was, despite spending time with him on days out to the safari etc. When he packed her meds by accident it was oh ha ha look Instagram isn't that funny cause I'm on anti depressants and want the world to know. Only when she read tattle was it that the cogs started turning in her brain and she realised that he dad isn't doing as well. She is unbearably shortsighted, can't think beyond her immediate needs, nothing she does is altruistic. And now she actually has to do some caring for her dad that doesn't involve any reward for her so she needs to plaster it all over Instagram for validation and back pats.
 
Ffs I’m watching just for these comments from boobear 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
 

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The Devils Arse said:
How long had she left it prior to doing any washing for her dad? 3 loads for a single person is a fair amount.
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And I doubt he’s wearing clean clothes every day either, my grandad is gross and wears the same thing all week until my aunty forces it off him.



BOOBEAR YOU ARE KILLING ME
 

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