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AllTheBest2022 said:
I nearly left my boyfriend when our son was born. He was working 7am-7pm, 7 days a week, in the height of lockdown too. So it was me and a screaming baby stuck in a flat 24/7 on our own because we couldn't go anywhere. His reasoning for it was "it's good money", aye yeah but what about ME. Wanted to yeet myself out a window most days.
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That’s how I feel at the moment, I keep going to sit out side in the sun then sobbing🤣😭what happened in the end does he do less hours now?

I might go out somewhere today while it’s warm i think the washing pile is tipping me over the edge🤣
 
stardust1 said:
That’s how I feel at the moment, I keep going to sit out side in the sun then sobbing🤣😭what happened in the end does he do less hours now?

I might go out somewhere today while it’s warm i think the washing pile is tipping me over the edge🤣
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duck the washing, it can wait! I’m sure you’ve got enough clean clothes to keep you going a day or so. Get your little one in the pushchair and go for a nice walk, or grab a coffee, getting out does so much for the mind. I felt awful yesterday because of sleepless nights were on day 4 of chicken pox and the poor sod is suffering badly and we’re going stir crazy in the house so we got in the car and did a drive through just to get out. Both got home feeling much more chill
 
stargirl23 said:
duck the washing, it can wait! I’m sure you’ve got enough clean clothes to keep you going a day or so. Get your little one in the pushchair and go for a nice walk, or grab a coffee, getting out does so much for the mind. I felt awful yesterday because of sleepless nights were on day 4 of chicken pox and the poor sod is suffering badly and we’re going stir crazy in the house so we got in the car and did a drive through just to get out. Both got home feeling much more chill
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Hope he is feeling better, being cooped in the house makes it 20x worse. I spoke to him just before and he said this week he is doing 2 nights away and having sunday off. I said why are you working the Saturday if your not contracted he said because I have holidays in soon and the boss will say work the Saturday as your using your holidays?! Erm wtf he’s entitled to use his holidays without pulling favours?
 
stardust1 said:
Hope he is feeling better, being cooped in the house makes it 20x worse. I spoke to him just before and he said this week he is doing 2 nights away and having sunday off. I said why are you working the Saturday if your not contracted he said because I have holidays in soon and the boss will say work the Saturday as your using your holidays?! Erm wtf he’s entitled to use his holidays without pulling favours?
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Thank you, think we’re finally over the worst! No new spots coming now and a few are starting to scab over so hopefully be ok in a few days 🤞🏻everyone is legally entitled to holiday (28 days a year if full time) and you’re not expected or allowed to say you can only have holiday if you work x day. Is he self employed? I know it’s different with being self employed but usually you just don’t get paid if you’re off. I’ve never heard any company say you can only have holiday if you do overtime
 
stargirl23 said:
Thank you, think we’re finally over the worst! No new spots coming now and a few are starting to scab over so hopefully be ok in a few days 🤞🏻everyone is legally entitled to holiday (28 days a year if full time) and you’re not expected or allowed to say you can only have holiday if you work x day. Is he self employed? I know it’s different with being self employed but usually you just don’t get paid if you’re off. I’ve never heard any company say you can only have holiday if you do overtime
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No he works for a company full time and is only contracted to have to do 78.5hrs per fortnight but he does so much more than that. I’m pretty sure the boss pushes them all to do 80hrs a week and my partner is incapable of saying no to people
 
stardust1 said:
No he works for a company full time and is only contracted to have to do 78.5hrs per fortnight but he does so much more than that. I’m pretty sure the boss pushes them all to do 80hrs a week and my partner is incapable of saying no to people
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I’d just say no, easier said than done I know but say no I’ve done my hours I’m leaving and just go
 
stardust1 said:
That’s how I feel at the moment, I keep going to sit out side in the sun then sobbing🤣😭what happened in the end does he do less hours now?

I might go out somewhere today while it’s warm i think the washing pile is tipping me over the edge🤣
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He's self employed but subcontracted into a company, weekend work is a case of 'if you want to work, turn up' but they aren't expected to work weekends. Don't get me wrong him working a weekend is amazing money but it got to the point where our son didn't even know who his dad was. In the end I basically said to him you need to be spending more (or at least some) time at home. He now works weekdays and a half day on a Saturday. I'm sure if the opportunity came up for him to work 7 days a week again he would 🙄
 
AllTheBest2022 said:
He's self employed but subcontracted into a company, weekend work is a case of 'if you want to work, turn up' but they aren't expected to work weekends. Don't get me wrong him working a weekend is amazing money but it got to the point where our son didn't even know who his dad was. In the end I basically said to him you need to be spending more (or at least some) time at home. He now works weekdays and a half day on a Saturday. I'm sure if the opportunity came up for him to work 7 days a week again he would 🙄
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This sounds really similar to my situation, he gets triple pay on the weekends but doesn’t actually have to work. Although i get the impression there is a lot of pressure to work the weekends. I am going to speak to him tonight as it is really starting to get to me, especially as he doesn’t do anything at all in the house
 
I was curious what you girls meant by Amy harts dress till I seen this TT😟🫣 why didn’t they give her boobs any support they’re falling out her dress😅
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stargirl23 said:
My partner said it looks like she’s wearing a condom and I can’t unsee it 😂 how’s your pregnancy going? Hope you and bump are good 🥰
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Omg it does look like that 😂😂

It’s going well thank you! Going really fast, which is scary as I’m panicking about all we’ve got left to do! I’ve had a few complications but I’m being really well looked after and I just can’t wait to meet him now 🥰🥰
Hope you’re okay! And I hope your little boy is feeling better soon xx
 
Elle Woods said:
Omg it does look like that 😂😂

It’s going well thank you! Going really fast, which is scary as I’m panicking about all we’ve got left to do! I’ve had a few complications but I’m being really well looked after and I just can’t wait to meet him now 🥰🥰
Hope you’re okay! And I hope your little boy is feeling better soon xx
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Thank you! Sorry to hear you’ve had complications but I’m glad everything is being well looked after. You’re in safe hands I’m sure! Enjoy every moment of it, you’ll be a brilliant mother xx
 
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