Carrie Hope Fletcher #46 Carrie Montague, there’s no Hope left

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Hurrem said:
As someone that loves colour, I also really like it. But she made it look like a granny cardigan instead of a nice youthful pop of colour.

I would have worn that with black slim jeans or leggings and a yellow t-shirt to match one of the accent colours. And doc martens. That would have been a cute outfit making her look like someone in their mid 20s, instead she chose to dress and look like someone in their mid 60s.

My mom's 57 and she looks much younger than Carrie if you take photos of them wearing their outfits.

She shouldn't make clothes her personality because it's sad, but that doesn't mean she should dress in the dark and that's what she seems to be doing. She might hate Oliver and think she's doing this to spite him because he went for such a conventionally beautiful woman, but she's only hurting herself in the process and even her career. She doesn't look like a leading lady, unless they're planning on making a show about the pidgeon lady from Home alone 2. View attachment 1811722 q
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Freeelves said:
*TW: post about dark thoughts and suicide*

This probably hit a personal nerve but I really think Carrie needs to think more carefully when sharing things about suicide. Sometimes it feels like that she just posts things as a way to be seen as 'empathetic' or as a way of 'raising awareness' but she really needs to stop to think about the impact. Like she didn't put a trigger warning with that post and I think the message is really damaging.

I lost someone earlier this year to suicide after they had committed numerous suicide attempts and to say it was 'preventable' puts so much blame on the loved ones and on them. Unfortunately you can't always stop someone from committing, and it's not as simple as '13 reasons why'. This person tried so hard to get help, they tried different drugs, therapy, going for walks, focusing on work/hobbies, you name it they tried it and they were really open about their struggles, reaching out to family and friends. So to say it was 'preventable' is such an insult to people who try so hard every day to fight those notions and to the families who are supporting them during those difficult times.

I've also struggled with suicidal thoughts and from talking with my therapist I understand that those who struggle with these type of thoughts varies from ideation, to an urge, to actually acting on it. It acts like a spectrum and no one is the same in their struggles or how they experience it. Comparing it to a "building on fire" simplifies a very complex topic. I personally don't like this imagery as a fire burning is big and dramatic for everyone to see, and implies that something is seriously wrong, creates an image of panic to me. Whereas mental health normally is very subtle and isolating. It also suggests that it's an issue that needs 'to be put out' but suicidal thoughts can't always be extinguished.

In my experience one of the worse things about suicidal thoughts is that it is incredibly lonely, scary and you do feel like there is something incredibly wrong. I would describe it more like sitting in a dark, damp, abandoned building alone and you can gradually see the mould forming around you and you can see it approaching but you feel like there's nothing you can do. It's encompassing. And sometimes you manage to find the mould control (but unfortunately not always) and fix the building up but you are constantly aware of that mould coming back. Sometimes it does come back but the important thing to know, is that although it's scary and horrible, you are not broken or damaged.

I appreciate this is just my experience and for some it might feel more like a burning building. But that post really annoyed me with how belittling it was and I just wanted people to know that if anyone is struggling with those thoughts, you're not alone and it is absolutely horrible.

I'm so sorry if you're experiencing this but you're an incredible person and if you need help fighting that mould please do reach out to someone. Don't think you have to go through it alone, you do have someone who loves and cares for you, even if you can't see it right now. Whatever it is you need there is someone to help and you are worth it! Even if it's just needing someone to sit in the mould with you, or just paint over it for the day, or do the hard work of helping you attack it. I know it's hard to believe and hear but people do love you and you deserve that help.

Sorry for the long post, it's such an important topic and I'm aware that the above might be hard to read so didn't want to leave it on a brief note.

Love to you all! ❤
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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a parental figure to suicide six years ago now and it is one of the most complicated situations I've been through.

I also have had some very real feelings wondering how my loved one could do that to me - and yes, it is selfish of me, but it is a complicated situation that has made me spiral into my own ideation.

I don't like when people like Carrie try to virtue signal complex issues in an overly simplified post. It is especially jarring to have it pop up on a story with no warning. While there is very real stigma around suicide, it is triggering to see it so suddenly.
 
junglebug2 said:
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a parental figure to suicide six years ago now and it is one of the most complicated situations I've been through.

I also have had some very real feelings wondering how my loved one could do that to me - and yes, it is selfish of me, but it is a complicated situation that has made me spiral into my own ideation.

I don't like when people like Carrie try to virtue signal complex issues in an overly simplified post. It is especially jarring to have it pop up on a story with no warning. While there is very real stigma around suicide, it is triggering to see it so suddenly.
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Your feelings aren't selfish. They are normal. It feels like an abandonment. You are precious and i hope you know that you are a little star in our nightsky. <3
 
I love how caring this little group is. I’m another one who’s struggling at the moment. Having cancer has screwed with my mental health as well as my body. I have lost many friends in the process and sometimes it’s hard to carry on. The love being shown to each other on here is warming my heart. x
 
TechnicallyNo said:
I would think at the very least a question would’ve been raised about him being off sick for ELEVEN days with ‘flu’ but well enough to post several times daily and carry on his ‘influencing/whingeing about missing Carrie?
Who else would get away with that sort of thing?
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And don't forget getting an ugly tattoo while being off sick too 😂🤦😂 Carrie has still got to mention it, would really love to know what she thinks of this atrocity...Joel was probably trying to be as "cool" as Tom and her with their tattoos but clearly it didn't match up, trying ever so hard to fit in but just never succeed 😂🤡😂

Scottishfalpal1 said:
I have no close friends, no money and no Job as I broke a bone in my back a few weeks ago. No money to buy any Christmas presents this year. No friends ever check in. I lived in London until October then had to move back home.
last week I had thoughts of overdosing but I didn’t want to be sick.
thanks for sharing
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How are you feeling today? Hope your back gets better very soon! Take good care ❤
 
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