Brogan Tate #91 Benji's so desperate to flee, the photographer had to tell him to get down on one knee

What sort of wedding will Broji have?

  • Expensive, over the top, invite everyone and their nan, super tacky

    Votes: 148 31.4%

  • Low key beach wedding, 30 guests, brogan has her trotters out, Benji wears board shorts

    Votes: 165 35.0%

  • Elope somewhere warm just the 2 of them, mejulie screeches in via Facetime

    Votes: 49 10.4%

  • Wedding Pavillion in DisneyWorld, Mickey officates, brogan makes Benji wear a Donald Duck outfit

    Votes: 33 7.0%

  • Other - share your theories in the thread!

    Votes: 3 0.6%

  • Disney themed but in the UK with Disney rides as the tables

    Votes: 73 15.5%
  • Total voters
    471
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Barbie2020 said:
She is a bad person though, selfish and can’t keep many relationships with people. She’s rude and self centred. I’m not going to say I think she’s probably a good person cos she’s clearly not.
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she’s a bad person for sure , I didn’t say she wasn’t ! She’s a bad person for a lot of reasons , but not talking about her dad online isn’t one of them

I think it’s a hard one - she didn’t have a relationship with her dad ! He’s basically been a stranger to her for the last 8 years .. I’ve not been in the situation so wouldn’t know how to react but I agree she does seem insensitive to Fraser !
 
In 5 years, Benj has never been home for so long... I mean they have never been living together at home for this long. He is always away for work. Is this gonna be the real test for their relationship? is he gonna have a wake up call? but then, they are off to an another holiday together... they can't stay both of them home can't they... I don't know if I'm making any sense 😬
 
LolitaBlah said:
In 5 years, Benj has never been home for so long... I mean they have never been living together at home for this long. He is always away for work. Is this gonna be the real test for their relationship? is he gonna have a wake up call? but then, they are off to an another holiday together... they can't stay both of them home can't they... I don't know if I'm making any sense 😬
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Was he not furloughed from March - June 2020 ?
 
disneys said:
and my point is - how do we know that though ? at the moment , all evidence points to she is feeling things but she’s just not sharing them , there is a difference !

she said in her video she doesn’t even know how to talk to friends about how she’s feeling so clearly she is going through some emotions about her dad but likely doesn’t know how to process them / how to feel ! It’s not as simple as her dad died …. Her father who she was estranged from died , that is a HUGE difference that I don’t think people are getting !

it would be very odd for her to share about her dad when most followers know they don’t speak and haven’t for 8 years or so .. I’m sure if MeJulie died she wouldn’t shut up about it !

I think she has narcissistic qualities and that is obvious to anyone , but I think more narcissistic behaviour would be to share about her dad online when he died (despite making her followers think she was beside herself / so close to her dad / experiencing a huge loss to garner sympathy under false pretences …

I’m happy to criticise her on lots of things but I just don’t think it’s fair to criticise her on how she’s handling a situation like this

But anyway , that’s just my opinion on the subject ! I’m sure , as ever , I’ll be proved wrong and she’ll do something awful that makes me feel like a twat for saying all of this .. it’s happened too many times and I should know better !
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That’s fair enough, that’s your opinion! I’ve worked with women with traits indicative of/diagnoses of PD incl NPD so this is where my viewpoint largely stems from.

I think you missed my point- I’m not saying brogan was or wasn’t feeling certain emotions when her dad was actually dying just because she isn’t sharing them, I never said that. What I’m highlighting was the significance of the timing of her recently showing some emotions/feeling in relation to her dad, which tied in very nicely with the attention from the engagement wearing off. People like brogan are constantly on the lookout for sources of attention and validation from others, as alien as that might sound to those of us who are mentally well adjusted.

Exactly the same thing happened when Benji was in hospital. Dramatic posts on Instagram with cannula on show with a view to her gaining attention. Nobody is saying she wasn’t feeling upset at that time (believe me, she is capable of feeling sadness when she thinks something is going to interfere with her plans!) but the way she goes about sharing this with her audience is to maximise the attention she gets from others. Then, all of a sudden, when she pulls Dubai and engagement content out of the bag, the soppy posts about Benji’s health disappear. Again, it doesn’t mean she’s not feeling sad in the background, but it won’t get her as much attention anymore so she doesn’t share her feelings about it as much.

The world must feel like such a draining place when everything you do is nothing other than an attempt to gain attention/validation/sympathy from others!!

Anyway. Everyone knows my view on her so I will shut it now! If she picked up therapy (unless she is still doing it) it MAY just scratch the surface and initiate some change for her. I bloody wish she would
 
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Mable912 said:
That’s fair enough, that’s your opinion! I’ve worked with women with traits indicative of/diagnoses of PD incl NPD so this is where my viewpoint largely stems from.

I think you missed my point- I’m not saying brogan was or wasn’t feeling certain emotions when her dad was actually dying just because she isn’t sharing them, I never said that. What I’m highlighting was the significance of the timing of her recently showing some emotions/feeling in relation to her dad, which tied in very nicely with the attention from the engagement wearing off. People like brogan are constantly on the lookout for sources of attention and validation from others, as alien as that might sound to those of us who are mentally well adjusted.

Exactly the same thing happened when Benji was in hospital. Dramatic posts on Instagram with cannula on show with a view to her gaining attention. Nobody is saying she wasn’t feeling upset at that time (believe me, she is capable of feeling sadness when she thinks something is going to interfere with her plans!) but the way she goes about sharing this with her audience is to maximise the attention she gets from others. Then, all of a sudden, when she pulls Dubai and engagement content out of the bag, the soppy posts about Benji’s health disappear. Again, it doesn’t mean she’s not feeling sad in the background, but it won’t get her as much attention anymore so she doesn’t share her feelings about it as much.

The world must feel like such a draining place when everything you do is nothing other than an attempt to gain attention/validation/sympathy from others!!
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Mable912 said:
That’s fair enough, that’s your opinion! I’ve worked with women with traits indicative of/diagnoses of PD incl NPD so this is where my viewpoint largely stems from.

I think you missed my point- I’m not saying brogan was or wasn’t feeling certain emotions when her dad was actually dying just because she isn’t sharing them, I never said that. What I’m highlighting was the significance of the timing of her recently showing some emotions/feeling in relation to her dad, which tied in very nicely with the attention from the engagement wearing off. People like brogan are constantly on the lookout for sources of attention and validation from others, as alien as that might sound to those of us who are mentally well adjusted.

Exactly the same thing happened when Benji was in hospital. Dramatic posts on Instagram with cannula on show with a view to her gaining attention. Nobody is saying she wasn’t feeling upset at that time (believe me, she is capable of feeling sadness when she thinks something is going to interfere with her plans!) but the way she goes about sharing this with her audience is to maximise the attention she gets from others. Then, all of a sudden, when she pulls Dubai and engagement content out of the bag, the soppy posts about Benji’s health disappear. Again, it doesn’t mean she’s not feeling sad in the background, but it won’t get her as much attention anymore so she doesn’t share her feelings about it as much.

The world must feel like such a draining place when everything you do is nothing other than an attempt to gain attention/validation/sympathy from others!!

Anyway. Everyone knows my view on her so I will shut it now! If she picked up therapy (unless she is still doing it) it MAY just scratch the surface and initiate some change for her. I bloody wish she would
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thanks for sharing your insights @Mable912 , interesting to read your point of view and thanks for clarifying further what you meant

I think we all know that I have an issue where I always expect brogan to take the high road or do the right thing , or be human or whatever , and then I’m constantly proved wrong ! I was wrong about the staged engagement , wrong about Benji’s health issue … I guess I perhaps just have an eternal optimism that she’ll end up alright , and realistically I think I need to stop thinking like that 🤣
 
Oh thank god she's in north cornwall, nowhere near me.
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What a picture of absolute health. 🙄🙄 How are they so red already???
 
Anyone who said brogan was in control of the engagement clearly didn’t watch their video about it lol

benji quite obviously didn’t want to have to plan an elaborate surprise and go through loads of effort for it and for all brogans faults there’s no doubt whatsoever in mind that he gaslighted the fuck out of her into thinking it was a good idea to be ‘collaborating’ on it
 
One minute Benjis health is great and it’s all systems go but now the tones changed and they’re making a big deal of it.

Not getting any sympathy out of me. I’ve just seen a parent of a disabled child have their benefits stopped and now they’re worried about how they are going to power her ventilator but these two fucks can piss off on endless getaways without doing a days work between them.

broganlol said:
Wait is this actually what she said!?!?
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Yes. Pretty much word for word.
 
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