There's a mother of a nonverbal autistic boy who I enjoy pulling strength from...it's Coppers mom, Devin.
Her channel/page is Finding Coppers Voice.
Her journey is newer as her son is a young boy but her knowledge, her strength, and wisdom is truly a gift...for mom's like myself no matter where we Are in our journey.
One of the most life changing and profound tidbits of wisdom I have ever heard was...
"Are you helping or you doing?"
This is the constant question I ask myself 100 times a day every day ...since the day our daughter was diagnosed ....
I want to help my child to be successful, strong, confident, and achieve her highest potential and goals.
Easier said then done...
Because I also want to protect my child, make her life easy, make sure the world treats her As special as she is, make sure everyone knows she has limits and they all must also be on board and go the extra mile for her..after all she's my non verbal autistic beautiful daughter.
Trust me when I say.... I am doing her NO FAVOURS by expecting the world, teachers, therapists , doctors, neighbours, friends, family, the cashier at the grocery store to all understand her and accommodate her needs. That's selfish and demanding and absolutely crazy to think any of those people need to change for my daughter or...anybody else's for that matter.
That means I have one job...to ensure my autistic daughter learns valuable tools to keep in her tool box to deal and cope with the world and the different people and situations in it.
Helping my daughter will benefit her long term and it's sustainable where as expecting others to change the world for her is simply not.
I am helping her by not doing for her. I am helping her by not coddling her blaming everyone else for not understanding her needs and bending to grant them.
This is my main issue with Val....she plays the poor me victim card and blames every teacher, therapist,doctor etc... For not understanding her Jessica ...it's everyone else's fault poor Jessica is a one of a kind unique misunderstood anomaly ......
No...she isnt.
It's easy for Val to blame the world cry poor me while planning Disney vacations than actually teach Jessica ANY coping skills, any manners, basic hygiene , acceptable behaviours , patience , healthy foods and how to make GOOD choices, how to handle change and her violent temper...etc...
Vals managed to brain wash her children that they must give Jessica her way always , what words they are not permitted to speak in the house, everything revolves around Jessica at all costs. The only thing that matters is Jessica's happiness. Period.
Parents like Codys mom, Coppers mom.... The parents in my local support community are all warriors and put in the hard work day in day out...( Without a staff to take on our responsibilities, we have families, other children , jobs, and have no time to hide in our bedrooms playing a victim blaming the world and acting the martyr )
I have written a few REAL.parents online about the abuse of autism and neglect of Jessica .....
Valerie Brooks and the entire clan are lying scammers ...using autism to abuse a system that's in place for those who truly need it to survive ...not for 4,5,6 yearly Disney vacations, new cars, trucks, campers trips to Italy .....
I'm hoping to gather enough support to shut down the Brooks Crooks Scam Machine.