Ashley James #34 Really good DJ & really good Mum, constantly leaks out of her mouth & bum

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sohomum said:
I have two pre-school age children and all I hear from parents with school children and teenagers is how hard it sounds with the juggling, more complex parenting and dealing with the tough issues as the kids get older.
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Teenagers confide in parents who have built a solid foundation of trust and mutual respect. Ashley will likely find that her children don’t come to her with the ‘big’ things because she hasn’t paid attention to the ‘little’ things which is how they know we’re listening.

I have a 16 year old who’s in year 11 - we’re currently looking at sixth form options and discussing his A Level plans, while he is also in GCSE year at school, and navigating all sorts of friendship things.

I also have a 5 year old, who literally skipped into school this morning and has had a massive smile at the start and end of every day.
Despite this absolute happiness it’s a difficult and unsettling time for him. He loves school, but he moved himself into my bed the night before he started a month ago and hasn’t left yet. He will when he’s ready, but until then I’m sharing my bed with a wriggly starfish - because that’s what he needs.

Different stages and ages have different needs, but they certainly don’t stop or diminish as our children grow.
 
SavvyBee said:
Does she think she’s some kind of surrogate for the infant years and then once this “chapter” is over her responsibilities as a mum just vanish?
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It’s like others have said - it just gets so much more. My eldest is 7, it’s the homework, after school activities, sports at weekends, knowing someone was mean to them at school but not being able to do much about it. It’s relentless, in a different way! (That personally I find so much harder than worrying about babies sleep, routine etc!) x
 
Can you actually see her bothering to fill in a reading diary, get the right bits of uniform/sports equipment ready on the right day, remember it’s Jeans for Genes day, pull a World Book Day costume out of your arse, remember all the stupid lunch box rules, find a screwed up letter about a school trip to the castle that needs £18 paying yesterday, field school admin and parent’s Whattsap groups, and that’s BEFORE you get to the emotional stuff like my friend won’t play with me anymore, I didn’t get chosen for the school play, I can’t go to sleep because I’m scared of worms, I lost my library book and Mrs Davids said I HAVE to bring it tomorrow or I can’t watch Inside Out and eat sweets on the last day before half term, please come to my assembly to watch me pick my nose and butcher Let it Be with my class?

And most parents have to actually WORK on top of all that.

‘Can you cope’ will take on a totally different meaning.

And I know all of the above because, even though my only child is just two, I worked for a family for 5 years as a nanny who did not lift a finger if they could possibly help it to do any of the school stuff. They didn’t even know what size shoe their children wore or what time school finished without checking with me first. Problem is, I doubt Ash is going to be able to afford a nanny that will take on all that.
 
Her issue is her lack of imagination, because of - yet again - her privilege.

She’s bored because she hasn’t got the wherewithal to do anything outside of her comfort zone of a freebie event, or something given to her, organised for her, planned for her. Dropped in her lap, as always. She’s never had to think outside the box.

She hasn’t got friends because she lives a pretend, vacuous, show life for nobody online, and guess what - that gains you pretend, vacuous show friends like Helen Flanagan and Sarah Jayne Dunn who post heart emojis under your reels because they share an agent who tells them to. That’s the life and the company you’ve chosen Ashley.

Friendships require work, just like any relationship, therein lies the problem. Whet has she done to make or keep friends? She doesn’t WANT to work, that’s why she’s never developed any kind of USP. And her posts (between ads) make her seem like a contrarian, ill informed, incredibly negative fun sponge. Hence nobody ‘real’ ever commenting on her posts.

Surprised she didnt make any new friends at the Sarah Everard vigil 🤔
 
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she is seethingly jealous of Tommy. all the snide comments about stag DOS, weddings, even training with Ryan on a Monday - say what you will about no balls but he does at the very least seem to have friends.

agree with what everyone has said about London - she's so detached from her parenting responsibilities that she thinks just stepping foot in this magical fairytale land Narnia (London) will turn back the clock and she'll be single and 25 again. the irony is that if she had been grateful for Alf and refrained from having a do over baby, shed now be in a position to get a babysitter once a week and meet up with these equally mythical and magical friends she has. but no, she wanted a girl child and now finds herself back in her hated 'chapter' of life.

PSA ash: if they aren't making an effort to see you now, they won't make an effort to see you when you've moved to zone 4. and no one is partying mid week - people have jobs and lives. she's shot herself in the foot by holding other mums in contempt, she's a miserable bint and I don't feel sorry for her this clusterfuck is entirely of her own making.
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littlepup said:
ETA: wrote that earlier and it didn’t post, now seems like we’re all on the same page with it not being friends. Wonder if Char and Steph her besties have fallen out with her again?
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Char seems to have seen the light and if not entirely dropped her then keeping her at arms length. plus she's living the life Ash wishes she'd had the confidence to commit to. Steph seems like a sweet person who has other friends - for her Ash one of those outlier friends who is an occasional meet up (we all have those). oh and there's jasmine as well - same thing again.
 
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On another note, please can any one explain how the clothes affiliated links work? I get that if you press the link, she gets paid a small percentage and if you buy the item, a bigger percentage but does she have to buy the clothes to start with? Because if she does, and no one presses the link, then she’s making a loss?!? Or are they clothes which she would have bought anyway?? If so, she buys a lot of clothes for someone who doesn’t go out.
 
Rocky Rosd said:
On another note, please can any one explain how the clothes affiliated links work? I get that if you press the link, she gets paid a small percentage and if you buy the item, a bigger percentage but does she have to buy the clothes to start with? Because if she does, and no one presses the link, then she’s making a loss?!? Or are they clothes which she would have bought anyway?? If so, she buys a lot of clothes for someone who doesn’t go out.
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Nope no requirement for her to have bought anything. They can aff link pretty much anything and if you click then they’ll get paid if you go on that site within x days (usually 30) and buy something. This is why the sneaky unethical ones link to Amazon and John Lewis, can make a fortune that way.
 
In general they don’t have to buy any of the products they advertise, but they’ll often be sent only one (so when it’s a packet of water tablets etc it’s not much of a freebie)

She isn’t a full time ‘affiliate marketer’ so the brands she works for will normally offer 5-10% commission on a sale via a direct link from their post. Clicks that don’t progress to sales are worth literal pennies, most of the time.

As per the Beth Sandland mention, a lot of expensive pieces (including electronics, statement clothing, jewellery, vehicles etc etc) often have to be handed back. A lot of high street priced or fast fashion clothing items however are gifted as one offs.

Recently it was reported that the average social media affiliate marketer in the states (where it is rife) makes around $10k a year from it, where it’s not a full time job.

Essentially if you’re not fussy and will wear, use and eat whatever tit is sent to you, you can minimise your living costs whilst making a small wage too. This is obviously why Ashley spent a year eating All Plants slop, drinking flavoured water and wearing Tu decorating overalls.
 
MidnightRambler said:
She’s done the ‘U OK Hun?’ routine to death lately.

I predict a ‘I had to take a break to clear my mind’ style post with a link to the ITV mental health stuff and a mention of Caroline
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World Mental Health Day today - she won’t miss that opportunity will she!

There are some amazing things being shared, particularly for perinatal mental health.

PANDAS / Make Birth Better have got together with a GP who has lived experience, and created a letter template for those who are suffering and don’t know how to articulate it.

As some who has experienced PND and birth trauma/PTSD it’s a shame Ashley doesn’t use her platform to share on.
 
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