Ashley James #31 family of four; me, ADaline and my boobs

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When Ash says things about the childminder like “I know she loves Alf like her own” that really says it all for me about how much she loves Alf. A childminder might be really caring and build up a lovely bond with a child but there is no way they could love another child like their own just from seeing them in a childminder setting during the term time. It’s hilarious.
Reminds me slightly of back in the day pre-kids when I actually thought for a moment that maybe I loved my dog as much as I would love a baby. Don’t get me wrong - I LOVE my dog so much and he is a huge part of our family. He’s incredible and brings us so much joy. But obviously I would choose my child every single time if I had to and the love is on a difference scale and very primal (Sorry pup 🥺)
 
cahil said:
still can't believe she kept her 6 month old in childcare all afternoon.... because she was waiting for a phone call. ONE PHONE CALL. I'm truly gobsmacked it's a new low even for her.

obviously hideous that Alf was there for 10 hours, but we already know she hates him.
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She wasn’t waiting on a phone call … she means she was waiting on the child minder calling her and asking her to pick Ada up early!
She just had her at the CM all day for no reason.
 
Why has she shared that pic of Ada with the bottle when she is looking visibly distressed?! Poor Ada must have been so hot in that stupid outfit AND with a long sleeved bib on an insanely hot day..then basically denied having the milk she needed. I can’t believe you wouldn’t think that maybe plans needed revising due to the weather!
 
rockhoppernroll said:
Why has she shared that pic of Ada with the bottle when she is looking visibly distressed?! Poor Ada must have been so hot in that stupid outfit AND with a long sleeved bib on an insanely hot day..then basically denied having the milk she needed. I can’t believe you wouldn’t think that maybe plans needed revising due to the weather!
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I thought this too. She looks like she’d been crying. On top of a long sleeved top she’s also wearing a plastic long sleeved weaning bib. Honestly what the actual duck
 
I really love that my son’s nursery caregivers have a bond with him, he’s happy to see them, it makes me feel tonnes better about leaving him when I go to work, and naturally he gravitates towards some more than others as children often do. But I am under no illusion that any of of them ‘love him like their own’ because that would be weird and inappropriate and quite frankly none of them get paid enough to love the kids that intensely. I’d also be worried that he was missing huge chunks of love and affection at home with his own family if he was seeking out that much love in a childcare setting. She is utterly delusional if she thinks that’s a normal way to think about the person you pay to look after your child.
 
I still can’t get over the fact that she took Alf to the childminder an hour and a half earlier than Ad. From a practical perspective, it seems pointless to make two trips, but there was also no real need to drop Alf off that early other than the fact that she cannot be home with both her kids without TNB. I genuinely think she’s blind to how this comes across.
 
She makes me so angry. Sitting watching my 4.5 month old snoozing I can’t even imagine waking him up / forcing him to be apart from me in only a month & a bit when I have no need to?😭m

She doesn’t have a job which requires her to be working a standard 9-5 everyday. Why not use their nanny 1/2 days for Ada? Or half a day here & there?
My son doesn’t breastfeed but won’t take a bottle from anyone else - so trash it’s not a breast thing hun!!
And the fact it was SO hot yesterday and Ada had such poor naps & hardly any milk!?! That’s not even 1 feed worth!!! I’m shocked she wasn’t starting to get dehydrated. How utterly horrific. Shame on the childminder too for not contacting her and saying she needs a feed from you because this isn’t safe in this heat. Biting the teat!? It would’ve taken the entire day for her to get through that amount by biting it 😢
 
I have seen my own six month old take very very small amounts of pumped milk from a bottle by chomping on the teat (even after seemingly being fine with a bottle of pumped milk in the very early days). I freely admit that I didn't keep up pumping and offering a bottle because breastfeeding just worked out easier for us (especially with a toddler around too), but if I was putting my baby in to childcare I would absolutely have been using the time in the run up to ensure that my child would be able to take milk when I wasn't going to be there. Ashley prioritising the paternity leave trips over preparation for the next stage is just more proof that it really is 'all about Ashley' and the fact that she's showing this to the world gives more insight that she really is the most self centered person around. But I do also believe that the childminder should have been able to challenge the plan of Ada doing a full day without being able to properly take milk (regardless of the miniscule amount of actual food she is taking now she's starting on weaning).
I also find the wording around her feelings about the kids starting at the childminder to be very carefully chosen and still we can all read between the lines that the relief she feels is that she doesn't have to deal with her kids all day, every day because she can pay someone to do it for her.
I feel so sad for her children, I don't doubt that they are loved but that love perhaps feels to be less unconditional and more transactional than 'normal'
 
hadtosayit88 said:
I still can’t get over the fact that she took Alf to the childminder an hour and a half earlier than Ad. From a practical perspective, it seems pointless to make two trips, but there was also no real need to drop Alf off that early other than the fact that she cannot be home with both her kids without TNB. I genuinely think she’s blind to how this comes across.
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what's worse is that I think she genuinely believes this makes her look like a "good" mother because she could have put Ada in at 7.30 but chose not to...like she's telling us because she thinks it will make people be like "awwww that's so cute of you, wanting an extra 90 minutes with the female child!!!!". she literally has no brain.
 
Wow just caught up! I see nothings changed with old Ash then?! What I find even more bizarre is her putting all this terrible parenting online. One thing to do it but another thing to make an online account of it very very strange and just shows how utterly self obsessed she is that she shares this and has no boundaries for her kids. Both of those kids will be shipped off to boarding school at 5 I reckon even her precious baby girl ( if they can afford it)
 
Mousejen said:
'all about Ashley'
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Oh this reminded me! Did anyone spot this in lovely day? Could the childminder be a closet tattler? 🤭

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Not that they will ever be able to afford it, but Trash would definitely be one of those parents that say ‘oh our children are boarders because they ABSOLUTELY THRIVE being away at school and they HAVE SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES to that we couldn’t offer them at home’

I hear it said around here all the time where I work (nanny in a posh are) and I’ve yet to be convinced.
 
InTheDollsHouse said:
Oh this reminded me! Did anyone spot this in lovely day? Could the childminder be a closet tattler? 🤭

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HA I noticed this too. I thought I’d found the CM on childcare website. Is there an older one (in Ash’s grid photo) and a young-ish one who run it? Whoever I found on CC website looks like they would definately know about Tattle 👀
 
Flossie2 said:
She couldn’t even collect them on her own,had to have TNB in tow. She’s pathetic.
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It’s just weird at this point. She can’t even look after them for an hour? Can’t even pick them up without Tommy? Alf is a really placid kid who happily sits in the buggy / watches an iPad. What on earth is she so afraid of? And Ada can’t even sit up, let alone do anything else. Is it just laziness or does Ashley have some sort of issue?
 
willowtree2 said:
HA I noticed this too. I thought I’d found the CM on childcare website. Is there an older one (in Ash’s grid photo) and a young-ish one who run it? Whoever I found on CC website looks like they would definately know about Tattle 👀
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I’m not sure about the other one, but since Ash shared the CM name before and then the photo of her hugging Alf yesterday, it was obvious who she was in the comments on the grid post.

Who needs safeguarding when you have
✨telepathy✨
 
willowtree2 said:
She shared the name?!? What a bleeping idiot. I don’t know the name but yes sharing that photo would help working it out 🙄
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Yes ages ago, I can’t remember if she said it or it was in a screenshot message she posted but she shared the CM first name.

Her hair is easy to spot anyway. Had no idea what she looked like until yesterday, and should still have no idea what she looks like today!
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Here it is - it was ages ago

Tommy said the name as they got there and Ash posted it anyway

Ashley James #7 Can’t do bedtime because I’m too boney - no, Ash, you’re just a fake phoney!

The irony. “I love spending time with you” She doesn’t say that to Alf at all. 😂😂
tattle.life

Ashley James #7 Can’t do bedtime because I’m too boney - no, Ash, you’re just a fake phoney!

She’s such a dick. It’s taken me 5 minutes to find the full name of her childminder, and also the bleeping village hall. Yep, it’s so dangerous. She is clueless, or just DGAF about her child’s safety. Probably the latter. Please don’t have another child Ashley!!
tattle.life
 
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