Ashley James #3 Alf’s room lit up like Blackpool Illumination. Is she regretting her little creation?

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lemonyellowsunshine said:
Parents need a bit of quiet time sometimes. I think this one is ok. As long as he’s not on a screen all the time which he isn’t
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I agree! Ashley is only mentioning it as she knows its a divisive topic and she loves a good argument.
However we definitely use screen time on holiday. Meals at home are 15 mins max. But on holiday we eat all of our meals together, and trying to keep our very active toddler sitting still in a highchair for an hour (3 x a day) is near on impossible without distraction!
 
Erzxo said:
No, I get that. But literally every single meal they have, they put Alf in front of some type of screen. And from the get-go every single time. Not like he's getting rowdy & they need to keep him entertained.

Imo, it's just lazy parenting to shove him in front of a screen from the start of dinner. If you don't want to deal with him when you eat dinner - get him in a routine
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I agree plus a lot of the time at home he watches tv too, I remember she did a story saying he wasn’t interested in a certain tv show (can’t remember which one) should she persevere with it for him as loads of other kids seem to like it

Which I thought was a extremely odd view… child doesn’t like tv show but will make him watch it til he does!?
 
Joe Wicks took both of his kids to restaurants and cafes from being newborns, just to get them used to the hustle and bustle and the noises and colours etc. He was quite wise about it actually. As a result, he has two toddlers who dont need screens / constant attention as they're stimulated by their food, their parents and their surroundings. They both seem like fantastic, well behaved and socially aware little characters.

Granted it is a lot easier when your folks are multi millionaires with the time to do such a thing, but it does prove a bit of a point. At the other end of the scale we have Ashley who is basically encouraging Alf to ignore his surroundings and concentrate on the flashing screen, whilst he'll also be picking up on the fact Mummy spends all day every day pouting, talking, crying and ranting at her own screen. It's a worrying habit, but how can she encourage anything else when it's literally how she is constantly living her own life.
 
So she goes away because she likes having the help because Tommy’s not working?! Why doesn’t she put him in a nursery a few days, she will get her MUCH NEEDED 🙄 break and she won’t feel like she’s doing everything because heaven forbid she does more than him. So resentful it’s crazy.
 
Has been away twice ( both long haul and once with additional help from grandparents) and both times to 5* resorts where practically everything is provided!
this should be interesting......
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MrsRS said:
So she goes away because she likes having the help because Tommy’s not working?! Why doesn’t she put him in a nursery a few days, she will get her MUCH NEEDED 🙄 break and she won’t feel like she’s doing everything because heaven forbid she does more than him. So resentful it’s crazy.
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How's she going to cope when Tommys paternity leave is over!
 
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I really don't understand why she doesn't find a nanny or some kind of childcare. It would do her the world of good.

I breastfed my Son and I think sometimes when you are in it and bf it can feel all consuming and so so so important and like your whole world. Now I have stopped I think it is silly some of the things I did and didn't to (eg could only feed baby in rugby hold on two pillows for the first six months of his life never fed anywhere other than at home or in the car ) seems totally silly now that I barely left the house as I was too scared he would need feeding but it really does feel all consuming.

But now Alf is a lot older and eating and drinking other liquids she should really help herself and find some childcare so she can have some time to feel herself again.
 
I don’t think she will arrange childcare because she is a martyr and she can’t face up to the fact Alf would be fine without her for a bit, I think she’s one of those who is desperate to feel needed. Same with the breastfeeding, he is drinking from a cup which is a skill a lot of babies struggle with at his age but it’s not seen as a positive because it doesn’t involve her
 
MidnightRambler said:
Joe Wicks took both of his kids to restaurants and cafes from being newborns, just to get them used to the hustle and bustle and the noises and colours etc. He was quite wise about it actually. As a result, he has two toddlers who dont need screens / constant attention as they're stimulated by their food, their parents and their surroundings. They both seem like fantastic, well behaved and socially aware little characters.

Granted it is a lot easier when your folks are multi millionaires with the time to do such a thing, but it does prove a bit of a point. At the other end of the scale we have Ashley who is basically encouraging Alf to ignore his surroundings and concentrate on the flashing screen, whilst he'll also be picking up on the fact Mummy spends all day every day pouting, talking, crying and ranting at her own screen. It's a worrying habit, but how can she encourage anything else when it's literally how she is constantly living her own life.
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I remember seeing joe take his kids to restaurants but i remember him saying it was because he didnt want then to get in the way of him living his life and carrying on as normal.. so he’d stick them in their pram to sleep while him and his wife had date nights at restaurants. But either way I agree with you. She doesn’t want to put in any hard work or effort
 
elevatordomino said:
I remember seeing joe take his kids to restaurants but i remember him saying it was because he didnt want then to get in the way of him living his life and carrying on as normal.. so he’d stick them in their pram to sleep while him and his wife had date nights at restaurants. But either way I agree with you. She doesn’t want to put in any hard work or effort
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We eat out often and I didn't want that to stop once babies arrived so mine eat out with us alot. We don't need screens to entertain them! We speak with them, talk to each other and take colouring books for the older one. My 5 year old is amazing when we're oy, happy and confident to talk to staff and other people and can sit for a fair while. My 9 month old twins are getting there too! If they sleep in the pram it's a bonus but we just go with the flow! Whilst I would use screen if sitting for a particularly long time! They're certainly not needed for every meal x
 
BRIGHTLIGHT22 said:
We eat out often and I didn't want that to stop once babies arrived so mine eat out with us alot. We don't need screens to entertain them! We speak with them, talk to each other and take colouring books for the older one. My 5 year old is amazing when we're oy, happy and confident to talk to staff and other people and can sit for a fair while. My 9 month old twins are getting there too! If they sleep in the pram it's a bonus but we just go with the flow! Whilst I would use screen if sitting for a particularly long time! They're certainly not needed for every meal x
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I think it really depends on the temperament of your baby. I have friends with super chilled babies who will just sit and eat happily in restaurants. We’re lucky to get 15 mins before ours is trying to climb out of the highchair to go cause mischief 😂 we interact with her loads at the table, colouring / sticker books etc and screen time is always the last resort but she inevitably gets frustrated and bored with being contained!
 
Stewart123 said:
I think it really depends on the temperament of your baby. I have friends with super chilled babies who will just sit and eat happily in restaurants. We’re lucky to get 15 mins before ours is trying to climb out of the highchair to go cause mischief 😂 we interact with her loads at the table, colouring / sticker books etc and screen time is always the last resort but she inevitably gets frustrated and bored with being contained!
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Yes totally agree. I find it frustrating the discussions around meals out and iPads/phones because you only know your kid, not everyone else's. If you have a young one who happily sits, well that's great, but my 1 year old isn't interested in food, so that doesn't keep her entertained, has the attention span of a gnat so drawing/books/toys etc just don't last longer than a few mins. However if I put a movie on my phone, well she will happily and quietly watch it so I can have a super lovely and peaceful meal with my hubby. I don't feel guilty at all because I know as she grows she won't need 'entertaining' as such.
 
Stewart123 said:
I think it really depends on the temperament of your baby. I have friends with super chilled babies who will just sit and eat happily in restaurants. We’re lucky to get 15 mins before ours is trying to climb out of the highchair to go cause mischief 😂 we interact with her loads at the table, colouring / sticker books etc and screen time is always the last resort but she inevitably gets frustrated and bored with being contained!
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Oh definitely! We have been lucky! But like you said, screen time is your last resort not your go to 👍
 
So many questions about the packing list she did! But I didn't think you were allowed to travel with babies in business class? I thought it was 18+! And airing out the swim nappies between uses .... what?! So she's putting a dirty nappy back on him?

I like that she's spreading awareness of reusable nappies though. We've used them with our two boys - but cringed a bit when she said she rinses them out at the end of the day & puts them back on - they need to be washed properly with non-bio otherwise can lead to ammonia burns. (sorry to go a bit mumsnet!)
 
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